I was at a charity even last night that was collecting diapers for two great charitable organizations that work with kids to keep them out of the system, it is an amazing cause. It was held in a multi-service type center where other events were going on, there were massive piles of diapers divided by size. A guy came to the woman in charge asking if we were giving diapers away and could he get some. He had a sweet little baby in his arms. He was denied any diapers, which I understand as they had been promised to the two agencies, but it pulled at my heartstrings. A friend of mine and I were trying to figure out how we could grab one of our donated boxes back from the piles to give them to him. I know it must have taken a lot for him to ask and I felt terrible that he couldn't be accommodated.
I guess I could have given him money, but I didn't want to make him feel any more uncomfortable.
He was denied because that wasn't what the diapers had been donated for. I don't know exactly, I couldn't hear everything that was said. I heard him ask a lady, she directed him to the coordinator and then I didn't hear their conversation.
I guess I could have given him money, but I didn't want to make him feel any more uncomfortable.
He was denied because that wasn't what the diapers had been donated for. I don't know exactly, I couldn't hear everything that was said. I heard him ask a lady, she directed him to the coordinator and then I didn't hear their conversation.
isn't this EXACTLY what the diapers had been donated for?
Post by chickenlittle on Oct 24, 2014 8:54:23 GMT -5
WTF. I don't care what the charity event was for--if a dad asks for some diapers, it's obviously out of need, and it should have been honored. It's not like it was cash, FFS.
I would write a letter the person in charge explaining what happened and that you are not okay with how it was handled and you are disappointed that the money you donated isn't going to a charity that helps others when given the chance. Shame on them!
I would write a letter the person in charge explaining what happened and that you are not okay with how it was handled and you are disappointed that the money you donated isn't going to a charity that helps others when given the chance. Shame on them!
I can see how charities need to control donations and so forth. There's a vetting process for receiving services, usually. And there's so little to go around sometimes, they have to be monitored.
But come the hell ON. So, what, maybe this guy has just enough money for diapers or used drugs once in 1996 or doesn't live in the exact charity service area or cuts in front of old ladies in the line at the supermarket and he doesn't REALLY qualify. Even so, giving him ONE package of diapers wouldn't have brought down the operation. It's like being nice to people on here with tragic stories. Sure, they MIGHT be catfish, but if they aren't isn't it a good thing not to be an ass?
Is there some sort of legal reason to it? If they say they are collecting for X and Y, then they can't use the donations for Z?
I'm hoping the director was able to get him the resources he needs.
This is where I am. I've worked on the board for several charities, and there is usually some red tape and legal stuff involved with collecting stuff. If you say it's for X, you can't just give it to Y.
Most of them also have a process you have to go through to qualify. We don't know if the director pointed him to someone to contact to start that process.
It sounds heartless, but resources are limited, and most legitimate charities are trying to make sure they can help the most amount of people possible by sticking to a process and ensuring everybody gets equal treatment.
It also could have been the director just panicked and didn't know what to do. I'll reserve my hatred for now.
It sounds like it was the decision of that one person. Maybe the entirety of the charity sucks too, I don't know, but based on just the details of this instance I'd focus my FIRERY INDIGNATION on that one woman who made the decision not to hand over some diapers.
It sounds like it was the decision of that one person. Maybe the entirety of the charity sucks too, I don't know, but based on just the details of this instance I'd focus my FIRERY INDIGNATION on that one woman who made the decision not to hand over some diapers. Give the people in charge (I'm assuming this isn't a one-woman operation) the chance to address the matter and see what could be done to make a policy change going forward or something.
I have no idea about the red tape of the charity and I am not a member of it. I showed up to the event to donate diapers. I think the hatred of a charity is ridiculous. I am sure the organizers wish they could diaper every kid who needs them.
This is where I am. I've worked on the board for several charities, and there is usually some read tape and legal stuff involved with collecting stuff. If you say it's for X, you can't just give it to Y.
Most of them also have a process you have to go through to qualify. We don't know if the director pointed him to someone to contact to start that process.
It sounds heartless, but resources are limited, and most legitimate charities are trying to make sure they can help the most amount of people possible by sticking to a process and ensuring everybody gets equal treatment.
It also could have been the director just panicked and didn't know what to do. I'll reserve my hatred for the entire charity.
HELLO PEOPLE
this ^^^^^
lolz @ 'i probably wouldn't support this charity anymore' and 'the HORRAH' and 'what a shitty charity'
It's a guy who needs diapers surrounded by a room full of diapers. Somehow, someone in that room could have made diapers happen. I'm not suggesting we burn the charity down, but the heartbreaking thing was that no one there could help him.
WhatEVER people. It's okay to be mad and "hate" things on a message board. Truly. Especially when the story involves a bunch of hypothetically charitable people looking around while some guy and his "sweet baby" left diaperless. I hate that. And because I'm sitting at my desk (coolly detached, natch), I am able to rage about it with impunity.
What's heartbreaking about this is that no one helped this guy.
I so so agree.
It feels ironic that there are all these people there, donating to charity and "doing good" - and when a guy who is obviously in need gets a "sorry, can't help you".
Post by karinothing on Oct 24, 2014 9:40:28 GMT -5
Yea,even with the red tape I think he could have been given some diapers. Give him one box of diapers, then go to the store and replace that box so the charity counts aren't off. Unless the charity is traking UPC numbers or serial numbers of diaper boxes I am sure that would have met both the chairty obligations to manage red tape adn to provide service for a man that needed them.
Yea,even with the red tape I think he could have been given some diapers. Give him one box of diapers, then go to the store and replace that box so the charity counts aren't off. Unless the charity is traking UPC numbers or serial numbers of diaper boxes I am sure that would have met both the chairty obligations to manage red tape adn to provide service for a man that needed them.
Not to mention the PR benefits. pagas cannot be the only one in the room who saw this man be rejected.