If anyone was, they never told us. The only person with a reaction was my dad who said something like "better start saving now to spoil my granddaughter," which has been 100% true so far.
My mom was disappointed. We went to Carter's when my parents visited last weekend and she told me the next one better be a girl (for the thousandth time) Joking but not joking of course.
Post by charlotteandwilbur on Oct 24, 2014 12:03:25 GMT -5
Both my parents and my ILs have mentioned many times that they hope this baby is a girl. I hope they have the sense not to say anything if it is a boy, because I will rage.
I got so much crap from strangers when I had two and then later three of the same sex. There was a lot of "maybe the next one will be a girl" with DS2 and a lot of "bless your heart" and pitying looks with DS3. But I am talking randoms in the grocery store. My actual friends and family members are nice enough people and love my boys enough that they would not say that shit.
I still get asked at least weekly when out and about with my three boys if I am going to "try for a girl." Um, that would be a no. I find it particularly amusing when people ask me that when my children are throwing tantrums and fighting in Target and it is abundantly clear that I can barely manage the three I have. Do I really look like I need another kid, girl or not?
I've gotten a lot of comments as a team greener for #2. Things like "oh, well I'll pray that it's a girl for you or ohhh I bet you're so excited for this to be a girl!" My personal favorite, "don't you think you should find out the sex in case it's a boy and you're disappointed."
FWIW, I won't be disappointed if it's another boy, but all of these comments lead me to believe friends and family will be.
One of my friends just went through this. She has a boy and wanted #2 to be a girl. She said she started crying in the room when they announced it was another boy.
Post by gogadgetgo on Oct 24, 2014 12:08:16 GMT -5
My mom really wanted ds2 to be a girl. She "wanted to buy tutus" (direct quote). Every so often I get the "you can try for a girl next time". I laugh and point to my kids running around like lunatics and say we're done.
Post by dr.girlfriend on Oct 24, 2014 12:09:07 GMT -5
I was the second girl, and my baby book is all full of letters that are like, "We're SO SORRY, we know how much you wanted a boy this time!" Partially for that reason, I knew my mom was overjoyed when she was "finally getting a boy" in her grandson. Otherwise no one seemed to care. :-)
Post by hilwithonelary on Oct 24, 2014 12:12:26 GMT -5
No one expressed disappointment either time. The only comment we got at all was from my sweet 96 year old Poppy when we found out #2 was a girl. He wanted us to know that girls were just as good as boys and to not let anyone tell us otherwise. Unfortunately, he didn't get to meet DD
Post by sometimesrunner on Oct 24, 2014 12:12:36 GMT -5
My parents, ILs, and friends are all decent enough people that they don't care either way. Which is a good thing since it feels like we have absolutely no chance of having a girl. lol My FIL has one brother, my H has two brothers, and there are six grandsons. No one is holding their breath for a girl. (I'm 8 weeks pregnant) I'm a bit sad that I'll never get the chance to raise a girl, but I absolutely ADORE our boy and can't wait to see his relationship with his brother.
I know someone who said that she "DOESN'T want a girl AT ALL" when she was pregnant.
My best friend was very upset when they found out it was a girl. It was the first time I knew anyone IRL who admitted their disappointment. She's not girly, so she was afraid of how to raise a girl. It was truly mind boggling b/c she was very Debbie Downer about it all. She even made them put something on the baby shower invites about clothing colors. I can't remember if it was "no pink" or that they were planning teal for the girl. They also gave the girl a boy's name, but did a "y" to make it feminie.
I know she loves her now, but it was seriously the most bizarre experience I've had by new parents.
One of my friends admitted to me that she cried when she found out her twins were boy-boy. She and her H struggled to get pregnant, a few rounds of IVF, etc., and she knew she was probably twins-and-done, so this was it. She's super girly, pink everything herself, and she was really bummed not to have a daughter. She loves her boys now of course, but she needed to adjust to the idea a little.
Post by whereintheworld on Oct 24, 2014 12:24:06 GMT -5
Oh yes. When most people at work hear that I have 3 boys they will stop in their tracks, grab my arm and say very earnestly, "I'm so sorry." Umm, ok? Don't be? My kids are awesome!
Post by waterchurch on Oct 24, 2014 12:26:39 GMT -5
With my first, I told my mom He looked like a boy and she said "Oh well, next time." I called her on it and she apologized, but still. She loves my son a ton, but she's also excited that this one is a girl.
And funny--my BFF just had her 3rd. After the first two were girls I think they and everyone else assumed she would have another. It was a boy and it seemed a surprise. Not a disappointment though.
We waited a few days to announce in person to our parents at my H's birthday party. MIL said she knew it was a girl because we would have been so excited if it was a boy and would have announced asap. uhhh no. It took me a long time to get over that. My Dad said he wanted to take a boy to karate class. We said he could take our girl to karate.
I know someone who said that she "DOESN'T want a girl AT ALL" when she was pregnant.
Me too. She just gave birth to her second daughter. She is a good mom, but makes no bones about it that they both wanted boys. They try and encourage gender neutral and sports with her, but she's one of the girliest girls I know!
A HS bf of mine was adamant that he wanted two children. Boys. Even had their names picked out. He is now the father of 4 girls.
I have two boys. While part of me thought I would have loved to have a girl, I was surprised to feel relieved when I found out I was having another boy. I wouldn't have it any other way now. In fact, when random people ask if we'll try for a girl, my response is usually that I might have a third if I knew it would be a boy! I'm now well-versed in dirt, dump trucks, cars, and trains. I can shop in one section of clothes, hand-me-down clothes and toys are the best, etc. I do get a little sad when I think of mother-daughter bonds as adults, shopping, trips, etc...but then I just hope and pray my boys will marry someone who will be interested in doing those things with me. Hopefully someday I'll have a great daughter or two (even if they're technically "in-laws").
My FIL didn't really hide his disappointment. But, he has 3 boys, so it shouldn't be a shock. I'm expecting the same, if not worse behavior, if #2 is a boy.
No one ever mentioned anything to us but this time we have gotten some jokes as to whether or not we're going to try for a boy since there will be 3 DDs.
One of my friends who is about to have #3 told me that she was really disappointed when she found out #2 was another boy and so relieved when she found out #3 was a girl. She also expressed frustration that "it took three trys" to get a girl. Yeah, not something to share with your infertile friend, mmmkay
Two friends of mine expressed being disappointed. One said "I'm happy but now my H wants to try again" and the other said "why did you hit the gender lottery and I didn't" :/
Post by estrellita on Oct 24, 2014 12:40:47 GMT -5
My grandma was upset I think. She says she was joking but I know my mom's side really wants a girl because I'm the youngest girl on that side, 4 boys after me. Oh well, maybe the next one will be a girl. If not, oh well. I admit I had a slight preference for a girl but I was way more concerned with baby being healthy!
Post by turtlegirl on Oct 24, 2014 12:41:17 GMT -5
DH has two sisters and his mom is one of three girls so family always joked with him that he'd end up with all girl children even though he wanted boys. Needless to say he loves "bragging" that he has two boys. In reality he would have been fine with daughter.
I have a friend who has two boys close to my boys ages just had a third kid and had a girl so she keeps telling me that here is "hope" that my third will be a girl.
In reality, I'm not looking forward to the comments either way when we find out the sex of hypothetical child #3. Either the "sorry you have 3 boys" or the "yay - you finally got a girl" comments.