Post by oregonpachey on Oct 24, 2014 12:48:45 GMT -5
When my mom found out that DS#2 was a boy, she said "Oh great, now I will never have a granddaughter. So many boys in this family" (I have two, my sister has two).
lolololol I have 4 girls. the number of times we've heard, ah too bad I am sure your husband wanted a boy is astronomical. Our girls are also the only grandchildren on both sides- to say my family wanted a boy by #3 is putting it mildly.
my brother and his GF are having a baby next month- they don't know what they are having, I think If they have a girl someone in my family might explode lol
Post by teatimefor2 on Oct 24, 2014 13:04:30 GMT -5
I think my mom and some female family members were, they kept taking about girl clothing. My MIL has four grandson's and zero granddaughter's. She's never said so, but I think she is really hoping this baby is a girl.
Honestly, my family and friends love DS and I don't think they really care, it's more of a fleeting thought.
Yes, when DS2 was born and was a boy my mom was pretty sad. She did a good job of hiding it but I know she really wanted a granddaughter. She had saved a bunch of dresses and stuff of mine that she wanted to hand down. I get it - I would have loved a girl too. When she brought it up with me I did not share my own feelings of sadness about never having a daughter. Just expressed my joy at having another son. I love my mom but I don't trust her to keep my confidences to herself - I can totally see her running around town telling her friends "MLT is sad that she didn't have a daughter." Eyeroll.
I am expecting #2 in May and my DD is almost a year. To be honest, I would quite like a boy as well - we're only having 2. Obviously, I'm sure I'll be over the moon with another girl, too.
I think people tend to want a situation similar to their own, if they get along with their sibs. I have a brother who's 1,5 yrs younger than I, and we had so much fun growing up.
My ILs let us know repeatedly they hoped E was a boy, so I know they were disappointed when we found out it was another girl. They didn't really say anything though.
This. My mom and mil wanted dd2 to be a boy and let us know multiple times. Both were pretty quiet when we told them it was another girl but didn't say anything negative.
I'll own the fact that I was initially disappointed about having a boy. I may be OAD and I really wanted a girl. I can't really explain WHY I felt that way though.
As it settled on my mind, I've realized that a boy is perfect for me. I am not girly girly, mostly work with guys, and don't have a clue what I'd do with a girl
I only want a girl because I am cheap and don't want to buy new clothes. Other than that, I have no feelings on the matter.
I feel badly when someone has two boys and people ask if they are going to try for a girl. I also feel badly when people say that fathers must want sons.
Post by timorousbeastie on Oct 24, 2014 13:29:42 GMT -5
ALL of our friends have little boys, all born within ~1 year of DD. I had one friend say it was too bad DD wasn't a boy so that she could be friends with all the other boys. ^o) Apparently girls and boys aren't allowed to be friends.
I called my dad immediately afterward while walking out of the dr office and he said "oh, I was really hoping for a girl". It still bothers me and DS is 6 and it has taken my husband great restraint to not say anything.
i was disappointed until that afternoon when we went through children's place and saw all of the pink, purple and glitter. i then realized that little man clothes were much more my cup of tea.
not a single other person expressed disappointment-at least that we heard of.
No. I knew my sister always wanted a niece so she could dress her but that's about it. She now adores J more than anything though so I don't think she really cared either. No one in my family really cares about boys vs girls though.
I hate when people express disappointment in shit like this. Unless parents are doing IVF and cough up a bunch more money to have the embryos tested for sex, no one has a way to choose the sex of their baby.
Hopefully my resting bitch face will keep people from saying shit to me when we have a second. Pregnancy makes me kind of bitchy, so I don't think I'll have the patience for that crap.
Post by changedname on Oct 24, 2014 14:14:29 GMT -5
DD is the first girl on both sides. There are 4 boys on each side already. I think everyone was happy it was a girl for a change but no one would have cared less if it was a boy. Dh said he really wants hypothetical #2 to be a boy and secretly I want a girl now but we will see.
Post by blueberry10 on Oct 24, 2014 14:14:51 GMT -5
MIL said to me, "Well I'm happy for you, but I was hoping for a girl" when we announced that LO#2 is a boy. DD is IL's only granddaughter and MIL apparently really wants another one - shortly after that, she told DD that she needs to have a girl cousin. I feel bad for whoever has the next kid. I'm not amused.
Post by SallySparrow on Oct 24, 2014 14:58:41 GMT -5
DH's grandpa said (I think jokingly) that we would need to try again for a boy. But if we don't have a boy, DH is the last person with his family name. There are an insane amount of women in his family.
I hope future #2 is a girl, but that's because I always wanted a sister. So I'm projecting, but whatever. I wanted A to be a boy, so basically I just can't make up my mind and will be happy with whichever.
Post by winecheery on Oct 24, 2014 15:07:51 GMT -5
Nope, no one cared. Well, DH wanted a girl, and he got one. But seriously we just wanted a healthy baby, boy or girl. Everyone else seemed to want that for us too, which was really nice.
Both of our families desperately want our #3 to be a girl. We have two DSs and my sister has 2 DSs. My brother in law is about to have his first kid - a boy. When my sister told my mom that their #2 was a boy, my mom cried :/ And my inlaws are "praying for a girl". It's so ridiculous. How about being happy with healthy grandchildren!
I've been pretty open on here that I had GD with DD3. DH I'm sure is disappointed we never had a boy.
Other people...well both my BILs did actually say they wanted a boy when I was pg with DD4...and my sister probably for both DD3 & 4. I believe she said "geez another girl" when I told her DD4 was a girl. I'm sure there were others..I didn't pay much attention because honestly I expected it.
There are 3 people who I know REALLY wanted boys...my bro/SIL, DHs bro/SIL & my best friend. They all got girls (they each only have 1 kid so far). My idiot SIL had the gall to say to me regarding having another kid that "she's NOT having another girl." I seriously pray they have no more kids, I don't think they treat my niece right.
Post by jackpackage on Oct 24, 2014 15:25:53 GMT -5
We were team green and everyone was convinced we were having a girl. A few mentioned being disappointed about being wrong, but we're a competitive bunch.
My mom was definitely disappointed when I told her that I was pregnant with #3, "...three is so many kids! Too many." =/
My MIL was less than enthused when we told her about bring pg with DD3. She couldn't even mutter out a congrats. Ironically DD3 is probably her favorite of my girls & the sweetest damn kid you could ever wish for.
when I was pg with DD3 my Dad said & I quote "don't have too many kids like we did." I was seriously incensed & retorted "which of us do you wish you never had?" To which he back peddled of course. Even my mom said I had it perfect with 3 girls & I don't think thought we should have more "because it's so much work." All of it pisses me off honestly even now.
I was just talking to a friend who did a very low-key gender reveal for her 2nd - just grandparents, siblings and some cupcakes - and apparently her MIL was PISSED that it wasn't a girl (she already has a boy). Like, she'd brought in a gift with pink wrapping, and said loudly, "Well, I guess you won't be needing THIS!", and stormed out to her car.
H, my FIL, and my brother all expressed an strong preference for a boy. We were team green and I was a little worried about the reaction if he would have been a girl.