Nope. She says right in the article a friend said something on Facebook.
And listen, maybe you met a lot of shamers and know it alls. But guess what, I met a lot of people who have no clue how it works or what they are talking about. I put a bottle of breast milk in a fridge at a party, and the host immediately (without me saying anything) launched into how Breastfeeding is pointless and unneccessary these days because formula is actually "modified to be superior". And how she couldn't breastfeed at all anyway because he milk "didn't come in the first day".
She was a know it all shamer too. The difference is I know she is an uneducated idiot on this topic. I don't have a fucking martyr complex about it, and I venture to guess if I wrote an article about how any segment of FF didn't understand "booby traps" I would be vilified. But she gets carte Blanche to assault all breast feeders and lactation consultants.
I've had 2 friends tell me they don't want to beast feed because it will ruin their boobs!! Did I shame them? No. But I said they could possibly change their mind. And it's worth trying.
This woman had a double mastectomy and is still getting shamed?
There are plenty of reasons why people can/can't. Why argue with someone?
Breastfeeding was hard for me. Z was born early, my milk came in late, she had a bottle before my nipple so I ended up EBF. Do I regret it? Absolutely not! She got 6 months of milk from me. Then I had to switch to formula because my supply tanked (hypothyroidism sucks and my metabolism was allllll sorts of out of whack at the time).
All the mammas out there that could BF for a year plus- that's terrific! I'm jealous!
And all the mammas out there that ever felt shame for FF- haters gonna hate. Fuck em.
i agree people questioning you or offering advise isn't always shaming. Sometimes people just like to talk.
Yes. And sometimes people are just assholes. Does FF shaming exist? Yes. Does BF shaming exist? Yes. My sister's inlaws kept making nasty little comments about how gross it must feel to have a baby sucking on her boobs and how embarrassed she must feel. They are simply uneducated assholes. Gawd I wish I lived near her to educate them on their assholishness.
i agree people questioning you or offering advise isn't always shaming. Sometimes people just like to talk.
Yes. And sometimes people are just assholes. Does FF shaming exist? Yes. Does BF shaming exist? Yes. My sister's inlaws kept making nasty little comments about how gross it must feel to have a baby sucking on her boobs and how embarrassed she must feel. They are simply uneducated assholes. Gawd I wish I lived near her to educate them on their assholishness.
I should have added: and some people are just assholes
Seriously, I had some family members make some nasty comments about me nursing B. I told them if they wanted to pay for formula I would gladly give it him. No one took me up on my offer. ::shrug:: ain't no body paying my bills so they can shut it.
Post by cabbagecabbage on Oct 25, 2014 16:51:41 GMT -5
I'm a bit of an unabashed lactivist but not the asshole type. I realize it isn't a choice all women want nor is it a real option for everyone. That said, the saddest part of me loving breastfeeding is that I'm considered judgy just by loving on breastfeeding. (Note: I don't offer unsolicited feeding advice, ever) but if someone asks and I share how much I have enjoyed BFing or that I'm glad to be nursing at age two, I get a lot of, "Well, I couldn't breastfeed due to X,Y,Z." and a glare almost daring me to question them. I hate how us vs. them this topic has gotten and I am always refreshed when a mom is happy with her choice and I don't need to hear how few colds their FF bed child had gotten or how smart they are. I honestly don't care. I share info and I'm a cheerleader for moms or moms to be who want to breastfeed and don't feel comfortable or aren't sure if they can know resources and get encouragement.
Yes. And sometimes people are just assholes. Does FF shaming exist? Yes. Does BF shaming exist? Yes. My sister's inlaws kept making nasty little comments about how gross it must feel to have a baby sucking on her boobs and how embarrassed she must feel. They are simply uneducated assholes. Gawd I wish I lived near her to educate them on their assholishness.
I should have added: and some people are just assholes
Seriously, I had some family members make some nasty comments about me nursing B. I told them if they wanted to pay for formula I would gladly give it him. No one took me up on my offer. ::shrug:: ain't no body paying my bills so they can shut it.
11 years later and my sis is having her 3rd. She's grown up quite a bit and this is her attitude now.