Post by Willis Jackson on Oct 24, 2014 17:17:17 GMT -5
Everyone's fine. I still have a bunch of adrenaline pumping and need to get some stuff out.
I'm just completely failing at life right now. DS1's behavior has been horrible since he started kindergarten and DH and I have no idea what we're doing with him. We've both come to the realization that he's imitating this one particular kid, who is the older brother of one of his classmates. We're going to change our after-school routine so we're not hanging out with him on the playground, but there will always be bad influences.
DS2 had his 2mo check up yesterday and has not only fallen off his growth curve but off the chart completely. He's 9 lbs, 5 oz and 22 inches. He's the size of a newborn at 10 weeks old. I blame myself because we've given him a bottle of formula at night since he was 3w and I've been dieting. But he doesn't drink much (sometimes just an ounce, sometimes 4) and he's been STTN (so skipping it entirely) for the last week. If my milk supply wasn't good, wouldn't he be waking up and sucking down that bottle? As for dieting, I don't think my calories are all that low. I'm not hungry between meals- I just try to eat tons of veggies and less dessert. I eat oatmeal for breakfast every morning.
DS2 insists on being held for naps so I wear him all day. The house is not as clean as I'd like.
So today after picking up DS1 from school, I was stopped at a red light. DS2 was screaming (he hates the car) and I was looking in the rear view mirror, trying to understand what DS1 was saying over the screaming. I guess my foot slipped off the break and I slammed into the car in front of me. My car is not damaged. The other guy's car had some of my paint on his rear bumper. The kids and I are fine. He said he was dizzy, but waved the paramedics away. That's shady, right? He's going to sue me, right?
I got a Mirena last week and have been bleeding nonstop since, so we haven't had sex.
So, I just needed to get all of that out. I'm just failing at everything and I don't even have the excuse of sleep deprivation.
Post by thejackpot on Oct 24, 2014 17:20:39 GMT -5
Aww, that really sounds like a lot. Try not to beat yourself up too much. Life is sucky and then that passes. You and the kids are ok and that is all that counts.
Post by asoctoberfalls on Oct 24, 2014 17:47:15 GMT -5
I'm so sorry. That sounds so stressful. My son has been having some behavioral issues as well, and I know how it makes you second guess yourself and really can make you feel like a failure as a parent.
huge hugs. i rear-ended someone when R was 6 weeks old and felt the same way. i was just so frazzled with a newborn (and i dont have 2 older kiddos!) and it was raining and... and... i was just a hot mess.
Post by chickens987 on Oct 24, 2014 18:16:24 GMT -5
Ugh I am so sorry. And I am sorry you are having a rough time
I hit someone at 8 mos pregnant. Similarly, I thought he had gone and took my foot off the brake and rolled into him. Not a scratch or even paint transfer. He acted the victim and the paramedics had a field day (esp since I was hugely pregnant), lowering his tires, putting him in a neck brace, etc. I was convinced he was going to sue my ass off. So far, nothing's ever come of it. So there's hope especially if he didn't go to the hospital.
I'm sorry that happened! I'm glad everyone is okay. You had a lot going on, mistakes happen. That's why they're called accidents KWIM? I'm sorry you're having a rough time. Cut yourself some slack, you're doing great! I'm sure everyone will settle in soon, it was just a lot of change at once.
I'm glad you are all okay! Sounds like you just have a lot going on. Fwiw, when my girls dropped a bunch on their growth curves my pedi said that yes, if the girls weren't getting enough that they would wake up more motn and wouldn't give me the 6 hour stretch they were doing. She said they would be waking every hour or two to eat. All 3 of my kids have dropped on their curves significantly. Don't beat yourself up.
Post by stacyb1983 on Oct 24, 2014 19:28:21 GMT -5
((Hugs))
I'm glad you have this place for support. I hope you have people IRL too.
I totally get being overwhelmed. I've been seeing a therapist again.
H is a little younger than your oldest but we had discipline struggles after the baby was born too. We did the 123 Magic program suggested by his pediatrician. It seemed to help.
Try to be kind to yourself. H lost weight and was declared ftt. I took it really hard. We started supplementing and he caught up.