When/how did you tell your work?

[hainesherway]

How far along were you when you informed your manager you were pg?  How did you tell them?  During an already scheduled meeting, or did you set up something specifically to tell them? 

I'm debating how much longer I should wait to tell them, and if I should try to get an update on if there's a potential for a raise or more vacation time based on my performance review earlier this year.

[krystee]

She knew about my fertility treatments, so basically the day after I took the test (we are close).

[Deleted]

Oct 27, 2014 15:39:57 GMT -5 krystee said:

She knew about my fertility treatments, so basically the day after I took the test (we are close).

Same here.

I told a few other coworker/friends at around 8 wks but didn't let the broader team know until about 12w.

[hainesherway]

Oct 27, 2014 15:39:57 GMT -5 krystee said:

She knew about my fertility treatments, so basically the day after I took the test (we are close).

Wow, I wish I had that kind of relationship with my manager.  He does have an idea that I've been undergoing treatments, and I know he'll be happy for us, but I am still dreading the conversation.

[ewall]

I told everyone at 12 weeks because we were at an offsite meeting together. I work remotely so opportunities to tell people in person are few and far between. Our previous meeting was at 6 weeks and that was just a little too early for me.

As far as how I told my boss? Approached him between meetings, told him I needed a few minutes later that day, he asked why. So I blurted it out. He had just stuffed a cookie in his mouth so he reacted by excitedly jumping up and down like a little girl.

[estrellita]

About 8 weeks or so. I wanted my immediate bosses to know in case I was really sick or in case something happened and I needed to be out. We have monthly meetings so I told them there. I told the rest of my coworkers at 12 weeks (well, that Fri so like 12+4, details).

[gretchenindisguise]

I told fairly early because I was showing fairly early. We're all pretty close, so I just showed them my u/s pic and let them figure it out. No special meeting, but we all talk to one another several times throughout the day.

[nextbigthing]

I was scared to death to tell my boss.

At about 12 weeks we were our to lunch with my boss and another coworker and my boss asked about my sisters baby (she is due in November with her second), so I took my opportunity and said "oh, she's due in November and by the way I'm pregnant too", he took it well and that was that.

I told other coworkers at about 14w and I've been telling clients and vendors as I see them.

[Deleted]

I told around 13 weeks.

[christy082]

I told my supervisor at almost 14 weeks during an already scheduled meeting we had together (we have 1:1 meetings every 6 weeks at my work). I told my coworkers the week after because I was waiting for all of them to not be on PTO so I could tell them at the same time.

[bluelikejazz]

I told my boss and team (his boss + one coworker) at 8 weeks. Mostly because I work in a lab and there are some chemicals I wanted to avoid, and in the unlikely event of an accident, they needed to know.

I told the rest of the office around 12 weeks (the Friday before Mother's day I had DH send me flowers).

[Deleted]

My boss 10 weeks at a regularly scheduled meeting. 2 close coworkers 12 weeks. All other coworkers at 16, clients at 18 (we had a conference)

It was well received by all.

[feistypants]

I ended up telling the doctors that I worked with the day I got a positive test, because I wanted one of them to write for my betas. When the beta results were faxed, I couldn't keep my fat mouth shut and the rest of the office found out that day.

[Deleted]

I told a few coworkers around 11 weeks, and my boss at 13 (he's not in the office most weeks, he's remote). I scheduled a meeting while he was in town, but I did have to meet with him about a few other things.

It was well-received, he's a guy and I'm protected by law, so there's really not much that he can say. He asked if I was taking the full 6 weeks, I said, no, 12 weeks. He nodded and then we talked about API development.

[laurenh]

I told at 12 weeks with DD and just walked into her office and told her, but she's very low key.

This time I told her at 7 weeks when we found it was twins because I had had a bunch of appts between the RE and MFM and also needed to cancel a trip I didn't want to make an excuse up for.

[Brie]

The day I got a BFP. We are pretty close and she also has a young kid and is my age. I suck at secrets.

I think I went in her office with my other CW friend who is also PG and squealed. Very professional.

[jorja]

I told my boss and a couple of people I'm close to around 10 weeks. I would have waited, but I'm a nurse, and there are certain things I should avoid. I sent my boss an email. I work nights, so I rarely see him in person and that's how most of our communication happens.

[MrsAggie]

I work with nurses lol. They caught on immediately and the news spread throughout the maternal-child units and to my manager before I ever even made it to the end of first tri.

[aliciar6]

I told my boss when I was about 12 weeks along. I knew that we were going to be putting together the funding requests for the next fiscal year, so I wanted to make sure he knew and our customers knew I'd be in until the end of March and then on leave for a few months.

We both get in early so I stopped by his office before going on a run with my friend. Technically he wasn't my official boss yet since I was in the process of transfering to his branch. But since all my work is with his group, he was the one I told. He's really low key, so I just threw it out there that we were expecting and I was due in April.

What's funny is that I don't think my husband has officially told his boss. But his office knows, the admin brought donuts to celebrate, though his boss knew we were going through infertility treatments.

[centralsquare]

Almost 15w.

[centralsquare]

Almost 15w.

[demandypants]

I told my close coworker right around 5 weeks but we eat lunch together daily and he needed to know my lunching habits may change. I told my boss around 8 weeks because I declined to attend a division wide conference call in our small meeting room with our team (it was over filled and I was nauseous, no way could I sit through it). I told her my stomach was upset and I was just going to dial in from my desk. Later she asked if I was ok and I assured her it wasn't something she could catch from me. Then the rest of the team found out after my first u/s around 11-12 weeks when we found out there were 2!

[luv2rn4fun]

My boss knew of my two losses. I had also had the conversation that I would be SAH once a pg resulted in our take home baby (this conversation happened in Jan, found out I was pregnant 4/5). I told him as soon as my first beta came back, basically because I needed to have flexbility with appointments and also proposed a new work schedule that allowed me to be in the office 2x/wk, WFH 2x/wk, and every Friday as PTO. My boss has been nothing short of amazing throughout this entire journey!

ETA:  1st pregnancy- told him at 10 wks (the Friday before our Tues appt where we found out we had lost the baby).  Second pregnancy I told right away.  Both of these pregnancies I pulled my boss aside and asked if we could go for a walk outside.  This pregnancy I told him right away and pulled him aside into our conference room.  I told other coworkers as I felt more and more comfortable (everyone knew about our other losses so that didn't concern me).  Oh, and some needed to know sooner than later as my job can be physical and there's also testing that I physically cannot do while pregnant.

[Bonita]

I told my manager at 16 weeks - we don't have regular one on one meetings, so I just stopped by his desk one day and asked if he had a few minutes to chat. He said sure, and we found one of our private conversation rooms since he doesn't have his own office or anything. I just came right out and told him that I was pregnant and let him know what my plans were for taking time off later this year and what not. He was very excited, and completely on board with my time off plans

[azurely]

I told my then boss when I was 13-14 weeks, right after the NT scan. We weren't in the same building, so I just asked her to stop by when she had a chance so I could talk to her. It was a very informal meeting.

I changed positions, but still within the same organization, at 33 weeks. I first met with my current boss at 30 weeks so it was pretty obvious that I was pregnant.

[jennistarr1]

I'm at 18 weeks and still haven't told

[dixienormous]

I had just accepted a new job. Knowing that I'm high risk and that there would be a LOT of extra appointments, I told my bosses around 9 weeks. I didn't like sharing so early, but because of the circumstances I felt that I needed to.

[hainesherway]

Oct 28, 2014 10:28:12 GMT -5 jennistarr1 said:

I'm at 18 weeks and still haven't told

Do you plan on telling?  I've heard by law you're not required to.

[roo54]

With DD, I told my boss right away. At my first drs appointment to confirm with my gyn before having to switch to an ob I found out that I had high blood pressure, and they wanted to monitor me a couple times a week for a few weeks. So I felt the need to tell him so he'd understand why I was going to be needing so much time off. He was very understanding and had no issues.

This time around, I'm trying to wait until 12 weeks, but I've been very moody and I'm sure my one co-worker is already suspicious.

[rachelgreen]

I told on manager (not my direct boss) after the second beta (around 5-6 wks). He knew we were doing IVF then. I told my boss a couple weeks later when a co-worker came in sicker than a dog and I freaked out about her coughing and sneezing all over the place, lol. I started parking in the expectant mother employee space right in front of the door at 9 wks so everyone else knew then.