I'm in no way, shape or form, defending XH, but if the situation were reversed and P was with him at his place and you didn't have the address, that would be a problem, no?
ETA: I'd lose my shit if I didn't know where DS was staying, when he was XH.
Yes of course that would be a problem. If I'm asked to hand over the address in court I will. But if I'm not asked I will not willfully just volunteer the information to a meth addict with a history of violence. There's a big difference between me not knowing where P is as his primary caregiver and mother vs an addict father. But like I said, if j have to give him that information then i will.
I guess my point is this, if you're going into court battles, withholding info isn't going to look good for you. Obviously, I didn't clearly paint that picture.
Also, can I ask...what's up with dudes requesting to snapchat on dating sites? Like "HMU on snapchat, my user name is superlameguy." Is this a thing now?
That's part of the reason I've never pulled the trigger on one. I guess if you have under the bed storage?
I think you can buy (or they come with?) a bag/cover.
Or you could try to make them look like part of your bedspread/decorative pillows? LOL
I don't get it...what is that for? How do you use it?
#swearI'mnotavirgin
That's the beauty of it; it's super versatile. You can put it under your butt when you're on your back. You can bend over the bigger one for doggy. Any position you can think of can be tweaked by one or both of the wedge-shaped pillows.
Oh forgot to mention that we file the paperwork in my old county today so if the emergency order goes through xh will be notified within the next few days. I'm glad we've moved already because he doesn't know our address. I'm also glad my family is coming this weekend.
Don't you have to provide notice of new address to XH? I think my court stuff says I have X amount of days to provide info.
I don't believe so in CA since all child support payments are administered by each county not paid directly to the parent getting them.
also re protective orders, you get to keep your address confidential if you want to. given achase123's situation, I wouldn't want my xh knowing where I lived either.
Perhaps. I asked my attorney about it and he wasn't sure because I'm not withholding contact from xh and we always have met halfway so it's not really an issue of him HAVING to have my address. I guess if we're backed into a corner by his attorney well disclose but until then I'm not giving it to him voluntarily.
I'm in no way, shape or form, defending XH, but if the situation were reversed and P was with him at his place and you didn't have the address, that would be a problem, no?
ETA: I'd lose my shit if I didn't know where DS was staying, when he was XH.
wouldn't this be moot given the fact that the whole purpose of the new paperwork is to revoke visitation to begin w/ ?!? so the whole address issue/ knowing where your kid is, is moot since he will NOT (hopefully) be at his dad's.
I'm in no way, shape or form, defending XH, but if the situation were reversed and P was with him at his place and you didn't have the address, that would be a problem, no?
ETA: I'd lose my shit if I didn't know where DS was staying, when he was XH.
Yes of course that would be a problem. If I'm asked to hand over the address in court I will. But if I'm not asked I will not willfully just volunteer the information to a meth addict with a history of violence. There's a big difference between me not knowing where P is as his primary caregiver and mother vs an addict father. But like I said, if j have to give him that information then i will.
Post by redshoejune on Oct 28, 2014 16:49:44 GMT -5
I am in a big funk. My therapist mentioned I could consider anti depressants but I don't see how it would help.
I have been developing inappropriate coworker crushes over the past week and I need to switch it off. I need some real life hugs from someone other than my kids. However the main guy I am feeling things for is totally not into me and also going through a divorce so it is absolutely going to stay imaginary. Not to mention that even far in the future I think it would be bad for me to date a co-worker.
Yes of course that would be a problem. If I'm asked to hand over the address in court I will. But if I'm not asked I will not willfully just volunteer the information to a meth addict with a history of violence. There's a big difference between me not knowing where P is as his primary caregiver and mother vs an addict father. But like I said, if j have to give him that information then i will.
I guess my point is this, if you're going into court battles, withholding info isn't going to look good for you. Obviously, I didn't clearly paint that picture.
I feel like a post whore now lol
wh info in this scenario is actually a smart thing .. as someone who also has a meth addict for an xh AND a child ... the courts/CPS look more favorably on parents who are proactive about keeping known violent addicts away from their kids. take out the violent drug addict component and yes then it would look unfavorable to wh that kind of info bc there isn't any reason to wh it.
Post by lyssbobiss, Command, B613 on Oct 28, 2014 16:58:16 GMT -5
Just to follow up on my previous post, I just had a chance to google that free perf I got Sunday. It's for men. I definitely wore men's cologne to work today like hot shit.
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."
Just to follow up on my previous post, I just had a chance to google that free perf I got Sunday. It's for men. I definitely wore men's cologne to work today like hot shit.
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."
Post by starburst604 on Oct 28, 2014 17:20:22 GMT -5
What the motherfuck, I am so mad at myself. My nausea and food aversions are back big time, so coming home I knew the only thing in the house I could deal with eating was some tortellini. I was going to make tacos but I can't with meat right now. So I get the water boiling and am stirring the tortellinis and notice they are a weird color. I look closely at the package, I bought MEAT filled tortellini. Fuck my fuckin life. T can have those, I'm not touching them. Making some plain pasta now. More like MYSTERY MEAT TORTELLINI.
What the motherfuck, I am so mad at myself. My nausea and food aversions are back big time, so coming home I knew the only thing in the house I could deal with eating was some tortellini. I was going to make tacos but I can't with meat right now. So I get the water boiling and am stirring the tortellinis and notice they are a weird color. I look closely at the package, I bought MEAT filled tortellini. Fuck my fuckin life. T can have those, I'm not touching them. Making some plain pasta now. More like MYSTERY MEAT TORTELLINI.
Also, can I ask...what's up with dudes requesting to snapchat on dating sites? Like "HMU on snapchat, my user name is superlameguy." Is this a thing now?
It's mostly all IG usernames here.
But I've seen SnapChat. And yes, sadly it's a thing.
But dudes - if they're asking for snapchat, basically they're just asking for dirty photos.
so how does that work, exactly? I send a pic of me being all 'hheeyyyy' and I anticipate a dick pic?
I understand what you meant though Doris. I don't want anything to come back on me but he hasn't even asked yet so I'm not withholding. I am just going to see
Just to follow up on my previous post, I just had a chance to google that free perf I got Sunday. It's for men. I definitely wore men's cologne to work today like hot shit.
Just to follow up on my previous post, I just had a chance to google that free perf I got Sunday. It's for men. I definitely wore men's cologne to work today like hot shit.
I think I need ongoing adult supervision
What was it?
It's called UOMO. The sample didn't have a gender listed on it but googling the full bottle shows that it's for men. I couldn't tell this morning because I was still congested.
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."
Don't you have to provide notice of new address to XH? I think my court stuff says I have X amount of days to provide info.
I don't believe so in CA since all child support payments are administered by each county not paid directly to the parent getting them.
That's actually not true, you can get your county involved IF your ex does not pay. I know lots of responsible dads that pay their cs directly to their ex-wives.
I don't believe so in CA since all child support payments are administered by each county not paid directly to the parent getting them.
That's actually not true, you can get your county involved IF your ex does not pay. I know lots of responsible dads that pay their cs directly to their ex-wives.
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."
That's actually not true, you can get your county involved IF your ex does not pay. I know lots of responsible dads that pay their cs directly to their ex-wives.