Kids' correct names

[Deleted]

So Becca told me today after preschool that her teachers kept calling her REbecca and "she's just Becca!" I told her she could say "actually, I'm just Becca." And we practiced once...so...I should let her handle it right ...and not send a friendly email to her teacher? :0P

[dizzycooks]

Yep, I'd let her handle it. She could practice saying "I'd like to be called Becca." and try it out a few times with you around. Good for you for teaching her a respectful way to request a nickname

[Deleted]

Becca is her real name though...not a nickname. Her birth certificate says Becca I mean.

Yeah...I'll let her handle it

I am actually just surprised it happened to her BEFORE Jeshua hahaha

[lattelady5]

I have a unique(ish) name and grew up with practically every teacher mispronouncing it. Apparently ( I don't remember because I was 5)one day I can home from kindy very upset. I told my mom that my teacher kept calling me the wrong name. She told me to correct her and I did. I think I had to correct her many times after that and most of my other teachers as well.

You did the right thing. Let her make the correction. If it continues and she is genuinely bothered by it, then send an email.

[scattered]

I might shoot the teacher a friendly email, just letting her know Becca's given name actually is Becca and not Rebecca.

Also a side eye to her for not knowing B's real name.

[gastro]

I wouldn't send an email but I would mention something at drop off. Because when becca says she wants to be called becca the teacher still assumes her given name is rebecca.

[ashb62]

Oct 28, 2014 13:55:39 GMT -5 scattered said:

I might shoot the teacher a friendly email, just letting her know Becca's given name actually is Becca and not Rebecca.

Also a side eye to her for not knowing B's real name.

I probably would email too. If her name actually was Rebecca and she preferred to be called Becca, I would just let her handle it.

i think the teacher should know her given name.

[CrazyLucky]

When I was about 6 or 7, my soccer coach kept calling me Megs. I hated that. My mom told me to tell him that I like to be called Megan. I did and then he did. Becca is a little younger, but I think it's a good idea to teach her how to stand up for herself in an appropriate way. Then if the teacher is still calling her Rebecca next week, send the e-mail.

[dizzycooks]

Yeah she should know from the class list. I would have an issue with that, but I would teach Becca to say just what you and perhaps to explain that it's not a nickname. If it continues, I'd mention something at drop off. The teacher is going to feel like a tool so I wouldn't bother with an email.

[usm]

Oct 28, 2014 13:54:21 GMT -5 @kimbus22 said:

That's funny. Good for her for saying something.

I think half Joey's problem at school is they insist on calling him Joseph. It's not that he's not listening to them, he just doesn't realize they're talking to him when they say that. He's always Joey or Joe at home and I think they think he's ignoring them but really just doesn't realize they're talking to him.

Kind of like when people call me Kimberly and I stare blankly because I forget it's my name.

This is my kid. He has an old man name (he's the 4th) he has no idea who that is. He goes by a variation of it but it's not a common nickname like Joey. Heck, half the time I forget it and it's my kid's, my husband's and my FIL's name!

DS2 goes by his first and middle name, he's not old enough to correct anyone yet but dS1 corrects everyone if they just call him John.

[claridiva]

Sounds like she's already taken the first step. If she reports that her teacher doesn't comply, then I'd shoot her an email or talk to her after class.

My son is only 19 mo, but we're already encountering similar issues with nicknames and even his last name (I kept my maiden name and he has his father's name). But appropriate, however inaccurate nicknames is different than getting her name wrong and I would want to correct that quickly!

[aussie45]

Maybe you could practice her telling the teacher that her real name is Becca rather than Rebecca? If she's not comfortable or has trouble getting the hang of it, you guys could go back to how she originally worded it and then maybe shoot the teacher an email

[justbecause]

I would just mention it at drop off.
My kid goes by a nickname because he was named after my father...unfortunately another one of the four boys in his class has that nickname as his given name. They've been trying to convert him to answering to the full name but it confuses him. Half the time they call him the nickname too. And I feel bad when he has to find his name on the board because both the nickname and the full name are up there.
I should have let my husband name him Llewelyn like he wanted ;-)

[iheartthe80s]

My name is Susannah, and people have a very hard time with it (sadly). I remember taking a stance at roll call in 4th grade when the teacher kept saying "susan? Are you here?" I refused to answer. I finally said, "my name is Susannah". She glared.

So I love that your little one is correcting it now! Good for her! But yes, I'd shoot an email as well.

[xtine22]

When I was child I appareny would yell at people when they tried to give me a nickname. I would tell "my name is not X it is xtine!"

I would send an email, I would either let her address it or maybe have you address it in person."

[lala]

I would be annoyed only because it isn't even her name! It's not like Becca is a nickname. I would ask Becca about it after the next school day to see if it's been corrected, if not, I'd mention it lightly at pick up of drop off, "hey, Becca said you were calling her Rebecca? I know it's correct on her paperwork, but her name is actually Becca. It's not a nickname."

Dd1 had to be taught around 3 to answer to Eleanor & ellie. She still doesn't always hear Eleanor the first time but she knows to ask teachers to call her ellie now. If you asked her her full name, she'd say, "Ellie Eleanor Mae Last name."

[NandaB]

I think its worth you saying something in person (or emailing if you don't actually see the teacher) it would be different if she was wanting to be called a nickname, but the teacher not knowing her given name, which presumably should be all around the room (G has a name card, a cubby, and a labeled hook) is annoying and should be fixed asap

[Deleted]

Yeah...they have cubbies, buckets and art work that all says "Becca"...I thought maybe there was just a volunteer who didn't know who was calling her REbecca, but she said (teachers name) so...I'll let her speak up and ask again next class then address it. I thought they were very clear on her name...but maybe not :0P

[HBirdie]

Oct 28, 2014 18:54:03 GMT -5 justbecause said:

I would just mention it at drop off.
My kid goes by a nickname because he was named after my father...unfortunately another one of the four boys in his class has that nickname as his given name. They've been trying to convert him to answering to the full name but it confuses him. Half the time they call him the nickname too. And I feel bad when he has to find his name on the board because both the nickname and the full name are up there.
I should have let my husband name him Llewelyn like he wanted ;-)

This rubs me the wrong way... Why would a teacher be trying to make a child go by a different name than the one he goes by? Rude. Nothing wrong with having a Joey T. And a Joey A. or whatever.

[xtine22]

Oct 29, 2014 3:15:56 GMT -5 HBirdie said:

Oct 28, 2014 18:54:03 GMT -5 justbecause said:

I would just mention it at drop off.
My kid goes by a nickname because he was named after my father...unfortunately another one of the four boys in his class has that nickname as his given name. They've been trying to convert him to answering to the full name but it confuses him. Half the time they call him the nickname too. And I feel bad when he has to find his name on the board because both the nickname and the full name are up there.
I should have let my husband name him Llewelyn like he wanted ;-)

This rubs me the wrong way... Why would a teacher be trying to make a child go by a different name than the one he goes by? Rude. Nothing wrong with having a Joey T. And a Joey A. or whatever.

Agreed. When I was a preschool teacher there were times when I had 2 boys with the same name and it was just Joey T. And Joey A. It was never confusing for us, the clod or the other children in the class.

[letranger]

I'd say something as it isn't her name and she tried telling them already.

[ashb62]

Oct 29, 2014 3:15:56 GMT -5 HBirdie said:

Oct 28, 2014 18:54:03 GMT -5 justbecause said:

I would just mention it at drop off.
My kid goes by a nickname because he was named after my father...unfortunately another one of the four boys in his class has that nickname as his given name. They've been trying to convert him to answering to the full name but it confuses him. Half the time they call him the nickname too. And I feel bad when he has to find his name on the board because both the nickname and the full name are up there.
I should have let my husband name him Llewelyn like he wanted ;-)

This rubs me the wrong way... Why would a teacher be trying to make a child go by a different name than the one he goes by? Rude. Nothing wrong with having a Joey T. And a Joey A. or whatever.

I agree. I was born in the 80's and my name is Ashlee. There was almost always at least one other Ashley in my class. We just went by our first name and last initial. No big deal.

[justbecause]

Yeah. I have no problem with him learning his full name but they seem to call him the full name and nickname with last initial. My husband felt the same way as he was a popular 80s name. He was always Josh last initial.
If they say he has trouble listening, I will say because you can't get his name right!

[MDmomof2]

My daughter is Katherine and we taught her from an early age to say "please call me Katie." However, she likes to go by Katherine and doesn't mind when teachers call her that, so now she gets called by two names. No biggie, but sometimes her teachers act surprised when I call her Katie and they know her by Katherine. I'm cool with whatever nickname she wants and am open to having the family call her some other name if she chooses some day.

[lala]

Oct 29, 2014 7:12:54 GMT -5 @kimbus22 said:

I'm assuming Joey will be Joey LI forever. I'm a little surprised they keep insisting on Joseph. They said they do full names because that's what they're teaching them to write because that's what they'll have to write in Kindergarten.

They do randomly call him Joe when he's not listening though lol

Eh, I think this is the perfect time for him to learn both. And in k, I doubt he won't be allowed to write Joey on his papers. Ellie's kindergarten teacher doesn't care which she writes. Last year in her 4s class when they were practicing names, I had them teach her Eleanor since she already knew how to write ellie.

[mamaalysson]

Hmmm, I never thought of this, but I guess we will probably deal with the nickname/full name thing at some point. DS is a sixth, so he goes by a shortened version. DH goes by the full version, so I can't anticipate that there will be a time DS will switch from the nickname to the full name, but it is his legal name. But like Kimbus' Joey, I can see DS being confused and not responding to his full name since we NEVER call him by it. It's only really associated with DH.

[louiej]

I would correct her, it's not her name AT ALL

My DS is Bennett. We call him Ben mostly, but he had a teacher that insisted on calling him Benjamin. It drove me batty, because she would do it even after I corrected her.

[arnegard]

Last year at our school's open house, DD's name wasn't on a cubby - then in a spot in the class it said, "Alexander" instead of "Alexandra." We asked the teacher about these. Not having a cubby for her shoes/coat was a big deal. So.... the teacher says, "I couldn't get Alexandra all on one line of paper."
DD (2nd grade), "That's okay, you can call me Alex."
Teacher, "No, but Alexandra is your given name."

Grr.. such an old school way of thinking. So instead of changing your font spell it wrong all together.

[Deleted]

Yikes, arnegard that's so bad!?

And Bennett is now just changed to Benjamin? Sheesh!

[bakerlady89]

arnegard they couldn't fit Alexandra but Alexander fit?? It's the same amount of letters.