Remember when I was pissed at my mom?

[berbles]

Because she and my step dad decided to take an RV trip the same week as my egg retrieval?

Well, they're on a long RV trip right now and just told my brother that they won't be here for his birthday tomorrow.  He. Is. PISSED.

And I get why.  But he's being a little ridiculous.  He'll be 29 tomorrow.

[berbles]

I wish my work hadn't blocked all photo sharing sites so I could upload screen shots of this text conversation. My bro is SO MAD and hurt. And my mom doesn't know how to apologize.

[Deleted]

Are birthdays a big deal in your family? We don't celebrate them in mine and didn't even as kids. I will get a happy birthday phone call from my parents/siblings but that is it. If I acted like that everyone in my family would think I had gone insane. Although even if b-days are celebrated in your family at 29 I think he is overacting quite a lot.

[moolarkey]

He's 29 and mad cause mommy won't be there for his birthday? For real?

[1confused1]

We don't really celebrate birthdays either if people are busy.

Why is he so mad?

[berbles]

Oct 28, 2014 16:24:16 GMT -5 @kjewell said:

Are birthdays a big deal in your family? We don't celebrate them in mine and didn't even as kids. I will get a happy birthday phone call from my parents/siblings but that is it. If I acted like that everyone in my family would think I had gone insane. Although even if b-days are celebrated in your family at 29 I think he is overacting quite a lot.

Yes.

We always do a family dinner for birthdays.  


But I totally agree that he's over reacting.  

But I also know that my mom KNOWS how much it means to us to be acknowledged.  She's not very good at doing it the rest of the year.  

And, she still hasn't said, "I'm sorry we won't be there."

[jojoandleo]

I don't know, my birthday is a big deal for me. If I had PLANS with my parents and they wouldn't be there and didn't even say sorry, I'd be hurt, and probably a little pissed. You should apologize for missing plans.

Buuuut, if I didn't have specific plans? I probably wouldn't care.

Could he be so mad due to a build up of issues? Like this is just the final straw?

[berbles]

Oct 28, 2014 16:38:11 GMT -5 letsgetweird said:

If they're on vacation is it really a surprise to him that they won't be there?

Even if you guys go to dinner every year, still seems like an overreaction. Can't the dinner be rescheduled?

Of course it can.  We both live at their house right now.  He's being a brat.  

And I'm just like 

[berbles]

Oct 28, 2014 16:45:25 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

I don't know, my birthday is a big deal for me. If I had PLANS with my parents and they wouldn't be there and didn't even say sorry, I'd be hurt, and probably a little pissed. You should apologize for missing plans.

Buuuut, if I didn't have specific plans? I probably wouldn't care.

Could he be so mad due to a build up of issues? Like this is just the final straw?

My brother wears his heart on his sleeve.  He's never been good at sucking it up.  Nor is he very good at waiting until the initial emotional reaction passes and then saying something once he's calmed down.  

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 It's possible he's over reacting, but if he's hurt, he's hurt.  Hope she at least apologizes.  

[berbles]

Oct 28, 2014 17:14:06 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

 It's possible he's over reacting, but if he's hurt, he's hurt.  Hope she at least apologizes.  

That's exactly what I said to her.

So she said, "I'm sorry you're disappointed."


I told you, she doesn't know how to apologize.