Is this strange... (not kid related)

[minismama]

DH works crazy hours and I am usually alone with the 2 kids from morning to night time.  The kids are usually both asleep by 7:15.  After that, I clean up from dinner, straighten the house up, run the vacuum cleaner, fold laundry and usually climb into my bed by 8.  I like to lay in my bed and go on the computer, catch up on work, text my sisters, write, watch my shows etc.  

Today DH asked if everything was ok with me because I have been spending so much time in bed.  I think he is paying close attention to me since we moved because he knows I can fall into silent funks (when things start to bother me and I don't communicate and end up shutting down).  But I really am ok.  I am adjusted since the move and I am not upset, or sad or anything.  I just like to be in my bed.  Even when he is home, we eat and chat and then I go lay in bed.  

I realized when he asked today, that he is correlating this with me not being ok.  Is it that strange that I like my bed?  It's like my comfort zone and favorite place in the house.  After being "on" for 12 hours, I like to decompress here.  

So am I being strange?  Does anyone else do this?  

[usm]

I don't find that strange at all. I love to just lay in bed. I can't wait to get DS2 out of my room so I can start laying in there watching my shows at night.

[olivegoose]

I do pretty much the exact same thing except I end up on my couch because I hate my bedroom (it's neglected and ugly).

[mamaalysson]

I am waiting for both kids to be asleep enough that I can move DS to his crib and I can do exactly what you described. I literally have my laptop, phone, and wine all queued up, and as soon as he is out of the PNP, it's jammie pants and my amazingly cozy bed for the rest of the night.

So, no, not weird at all.

[minerswife17]

I don't think its weird. I'm the type that can't stand to be in bed unless I'm using it for 2 reasons only.

[cna]

Not weird or even curious. My bed is seriously my most favorite place in the house and I would stay there all day if I could. I also think it's sweet that your H was concerned. Mine probably wouldn't even notice.

[NandaB]

I don't necessarily think its strange that you want to relax in your bed when you are home alone and the kids are asleep, but I would be bummed if my husband chose to lay in bed instead of sitting on the couch with me (even if he was reading/on his computer/whatever

[minismama]

Oct 28, 2014 22:30:01 GMT -5 NandaB said:

I don't necessarily think its strange that you want to relax in your bed when you are home alone and the kids are asleep, but I would be bummed if my husband chose to lay in bed instead of sitting on the couch with me (even if he was reading/on his computer/whatever

I know what you're saying, and I do spend time with him.  I do try to sit on the couch with him for a little bit while he watches his shows and I do my own thing, but I totally prefer my bed and usually end up back in it by 10 those nights.  We also have totally different taste in tv shows so when we both want to watch something he gets the family room and I get the bedroom.  He hates being in bed unless he is going to sleep, and I just don't like sitting on the couch.  

[minismama]

Oct 28, 2014 22:15:17 GMT -5 olivegoose said:

I do pretty much the exact same thing except I end up on my couch because I hate my bedroom (it's neglected and ugly).

Ours always was neglected and ugly.  But over the past couple of years, I have fixed it up, bought some new dressers, finally splurged on lamps I loved and now, it is like my oasis.  I love laying in here.  It took time because I didn't do a major overhaul to the room, but it slowly came together

[diapersnwipes]

As soon as they kids go I bed I run to my bed. If H wants to hang out her knows were to find me . Seriously, I hate chilling on the couch. I get antsy. My bed is my favorite place too.! It's weird and I know it.

[lala]

I mean you're doing the same thing I'm usually doing on the couch. I like our bedroom and I love taking naps in there but I wouldn't want to lay in bed for several hours every evening. Different strokes, I guess.

[ashb62]

I love my bed more than a person probably should.

[wheresmyspatula]

Not strange at all. I love my bed too. It's so soft and warm. I would stay in it all day if I could.

Maybe he just equates being in bed with being ill? DH is only ever in bed if he's sick or sleeping.

[olivegoose]

Oct 28, 2014 22:39:13 GMT -5 minismama said:

Oct 28, 2014 22:15:17 GMT -5 olivegoose said:

I do pretty much the exact same thing except I end up on my couch because I hate my bedroom (it's neglected and ugly).

Ours always was neglected and ugly.  But over the past couple of years, I have fixed it up, bought some new dressers, finally splurged on lamps I loved and now, it is like my oasis.  I love laying in here.  It took time because I didn't do a major overhaul to the room, but it slowly came together

I'm working on ours. It's always the last room we do anything with

[zbeesma86]

I love our couch! But I get where you are coming from- I have my iPad, a show on pause, my wine and everything ready to go so as soon as I get Z down and the kitchen cleaned up and the toys put away, I can sit and relax and wait for DH to get home.

DH is gone from 10am-9pm almost daily. Restaurant life!

[raraavis28]

Oct 28, 2014 22:30:01 GMT -5 NandaB said:

I don't necessarily think its strange that you want to relax in your bed when you are home alone and the kids are asleep, but I would be bummed if my husband chose to lay in bed instead of sitting on the couch with me (even if he was reading/on his computer/whatever

Funny....this is where I'm at w/ DH right now. After the boys go down he just wants to hang out in bed, but lately has been falling asleep as early as 7:30 or 8. His sleeping habits can be all over the map (some nights he can get by on like 3 hours of sleep and others he needs 12....it's nuts) and he worked some late nights recently, but it really is starting to bum me out. I'm probably going to ask him if he can please try to stay up til at least 9 with me, even if we don't do anything, just so we can have some "us" time again....

Hmm, didn't exactly answer your question, minismama, but it would seem from the responses that you are not alone!