When I got married the first time I took his name. When we got divorced I went back to my married name. The second time around, I hyphenated, so it wasn't as big of a pain to switch back. Both of my kids have my last name, hence the reason I hyphenated and why I will not change my name if I ever get married again.
I did change my name back to my maiden. My daughter and I have different names but it's not been a big deal. I was married a very short time and just wanted my name back
I did change back to my maiden because I didn't want his last name anymore. I went back and forth a lot because we have kids and I didn't want to have a different name from them. Now if I get married again, I will not be changing my name again. I will always stay my maiden name now, too much of a pain to change everything.
I am in the process of changing my name back and it's a pain in the *ss. Who knew you needed your divorce decree to change your name on your bank accounts? Honestly, if and when I get married again, I don't think I will change my name.
I will be. I haven't yet due to some financial issues that need to be resolved first, but that will be one of the first things I do after those issues are settled.
FYI: My married name is a long and difficult Polish name and my maiden name is an easier German name. Also, I have kids and having a different last name than them is not a big deal to me.
I kept my married name. Mostly because we have a son and I wanted to have the same last name as him also partly because I like my married last name better and because I was too lazy to change it back. If I get married again I'll have to figure out what I want to do.
I changed mine back to my maiden name. I'm so glad I did. I never really liked changing to my married name to begin with (I thought I would, but when I actually did it I felt kind of sad to lose my maiden name) and I am glad that I don't have my XH's name now that I'm in another serious relationship. I don't have kids - I think if I had kids the decision would have been more difficult.
I lean toward never changing it again. I like my maiden name and see it as a part of who I am. I guess we'll see how I feel if/when I get married again.
I see nothing wrong with keeping your married name, either, if you prefer to.
I changed mine back. It was a pain in the ass to get everything done legally but so worth it. I started going by maiden name professionally and personally before I was even officially divorced. I wanted zero reminders or connections to my ex. If I get married again I won't change my name.
I changed mine back to my maiden name. I'm so glad I did. I never really liked changing to my married name to begin with (I thought I would, but when I actually did it I felt kind of sad to lose my maiden name) and I am glad that I don't have my XH's name now that I'm in another serious relationship. I don't have kids - I think if I had kids the decision would have been more difficult.
I lean toward never changing it again. I like my maiden name and see it as a part of who I am. I guess we'll see how I feel if/when I get married again.
I see nothing wrong with keeping your married name, either, if you prefer to.
All of this. I got something with the married name on it from a professional society the other day and it gave me anxiety.
I haven't legally changed back to my maiden because I'm lazy but as far as social media, magazine subscriptions, etc I'm back to being Cam Maiden name. But, it is increasingly annoying to be called Mrs.Married name so I imagine I will change it soon.
I kept my married name when I got divorced. It was the same as my children and I had used it professionally for 20+ years so that made sense. When I remarried, I took my H's name, and it was a pain in the butt to change everything over. I thought about going with my xH name hyphenated with my new husband's name but that would have gone something like this.....
First Name, xhusband name-new husband name = Sally King-Smoothberry (yes, my xh name was King) I thought it was a hoot, new husband not so much.
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."
My first and last name are Nigerian. My married name was American. It didn't match. I would have felt really awkward keeping his name.
Sometimes I think I might keep my maiden name if I ever re-marry. It's such a hassle to change!
I was never married but I was engaged to DD's dad. I was very clear that I would never change my name because of something somewhat similar to you. My first name is American and then if I changed my last name, you would have never guessed that I was Hispanic and that was something I did not want to give up.
DD got a Hispanic name because of this same reason.
I changed back. I don't have children and wasn't interested in keeping his. But 3 years later and I still have one Bar admission and a passport in my married name that I'm too lazy to change so I feel you
Post by prettyinpearls on Oct 29, 2014 10:20:10 GMT -5
No, but XH has a super common last name so I didn't feel any emotional ties to it or anything. I also wanted to keep the same last name as DS1.
When I got remarried 2 years ago, I changed to my husband's last name. Actually, it was only the 3 middle letters of my last name that changed. Still starts with an H and ends with a S.
No because I have less of a connection to my father than my ex. And XH and I parted on good terms, so I was fine leaving it.
I do kind of wish I had gone back sometimes, but I'm so ambivalent about it I haven't done so.
I'm kind of in the same boat. My maiden name means nothing to me, because bio-dad hasn't been a presence in my life for over 20 years. I did think about changing to my mom and step-dad's last name, because they were my true parents, but I just never did. When I divorced XH, I kept his name so I wouldn't have a different name than DD, even though I hated the name before I hated the guy. 5 years after my divorce, I married DH. I was so happy to drop XH's name, even though DS, DD, and I all have different last names.
I keep going back and forth on this one. My married name is weird and definitely not common and I kinda hate it, but my kid has that last name and I feel like if he has to be stuck with it, then maybe I should, too.
I've been divorced almost 4 years and I haven't changed it yet. I told my son (9) that I was thinking of changing it and he got super excited. He thought that meant he could change his last name too! He doesn't like it because he gets teased about it. He was very disappointed when he found out he couldn't change his too and he wants to have the same last name as me.
I changed it back to my maiden name. It was a pain, but I'm glad I did. It was the last tie I had to him. It may sound cheesy, but during my divorce I became "me" again. I didn't want the constant reminder of who I was when married. I'm much happier now!
Post by pinkdutchtulips on Oct 29, 2014 11:44:12 GMT -5
never changed mine to begin w/ too much of a hassle to change everything from one name to another. I don't think i'll EVER change my name which means IF I ever get re-married, it'll be a 3 ln household - his, mine and dd.
when my mom divorced, she kept her married name and only changed it when she got re-married.
First Name, xhusband name-new husband name = Sally King-Smoothberry (yes, my xh name was King) I thought it was a hoot, new husband not so much.
That's my maiden name. LOL! It's so generic and I don't have a strong connection to it. My married name is Hispanic, which can be fun for me, since I'm blonde. It's annoying to have to spell it out for people all the time, but at least I can just assume I have to spell it out, rather than waiting for someone to ask me how to spell King. You wouldn't believe (or maybe YOU, seabitch, would!) how often people would ask or misspell KING.