Started talking to RR on EHarmony around the weekend of the Sept 12. We talked on the phone and texted for 2 weeks and our first date was Sept 22. Every single day we text back and forth, mostly a good morning text (either he or I initiate), some chatting throughout the day, especially after work until around 9-11pm depending on the day. Then it's a good night text.
We've been on a handful of dates. He travels for a living and is out of town a lot, but even when he travels he makes time to text me. He came over my apartment on Sunday and we hung out for a little bit. He had to go out of town Monday until Thurs/Friday. I heard from him Monday. Nothing yesterday and nothing today. Yesterday I texted him a typical good morning and I told him about my friends getting engaged and about stuff going on in my day. No response. Today, I let it go until around 1pm, and just sent "Hope all is well". No response.
This is strange.
How long do I wait until I know for sure I'm being ghosted? I'm kind of aggravated by this because it doesn't seem like him to do that. He's been respectful the whole time and usually when he's busy with work or his son or his dad, he'll tell me.
I hope nothing bad happened to him.
ETA**** NOT BEING GHOSTED!! Just crazy busy at work. He just texted me. Thanks everyone.
Ehh. I'd probably give it until the weekend since he's out of town. He could be really busy and have his phone at the hotel or in the car or something.
Usually if I think I am being ghosted it is because I am. But there could be a million reasons why he hasn't texted you back especially if he is out of town (maybe he forgot his charger). Only time will tell.
That's the thing about being ghosted is you don't usually expected it. It definitely sounds like a ghosting to me. I've never been so incredibly busy that I didn't have time in 48 hours to reply to someone I cared about or was interested in. It sucks and is also why I gave up on dating.
How long do I wait until I know for sure I'm being ghosted? I'm kind of aggravated by this because it doesn't seem like him to do that. He's been respectful the whole time and usually when he's busy with work or his son or his dad, he'll tell me.
I hope nothing bad happened to him.
The sucky thing is that you can never really tell. I was once ghosted by a guy I dated for 8 months and had discussed marriage with. He was the the nicest most respectful person I had ever met and then bam...gone.
I hope it is nothing and that he is just in an area with shotty service the the texts aren't getting through.
Post by Wanderista on Oct 29, 2014 15:57:00 GMT -5
I agree that you should keep yourself busy and not assume it is a ghosting before you get through the weekend. The best thing to do when you aren't sure whether it is a ghosting or not is to be nice to yourself and to keep yourself busy. Basically, keep busy with being nice to yourself.
If you are being ghosted then that will help soften the blow. If you aren't being ghosted then you'll have something nice to talk about when you hear from him, if you still want to hear from him. (I'm not making a value judgment on whether or not you should want to hear from him).
Post by pinkdutchtulips on Oct 29, 2014 16:34:44 GMT -5
I was fully convinced I was being ghosted once too ..... figured I'd been ghosted and wouldn't hear a peep out of this guy. he resurfaced 3 weeks later - no explanation for why but then again we hadn't gone out or anything, just a bunch of texts. he was one of 2 who texted me the play by play for the last 2 innings of Sunday's giants game ... go figure ...
eta - I second keeping busy. I didn't let being quasi ghosted bring me down. I had a more of a 'his loss' attitude about it and didn't give it a second thought. if it's meant to be, he'll resurface. I'm eternally grateful that I have a kindergartener and we're both ACTIVE in Girl Scouts right now ....
I was fully convinced I was being ghosted once too ..... figured I'd been ghosted and wouldn't hear a peep out of this guy. he resurfaced 3 weeks later - no explanation for why but then again we hadn't gone out or anything, just a bunch of texts. he was one of 2 who texted me the play by play for the last 2 innings of Sunday's giants game ... go figure ...
eta - I second keeping busy. I didn't let being quasi ghosted bring me down. I had a more of a 'his loss' attitude about it and didn't give it a second thought. if it's meant to be, he'll resurface. I'm eternally grateful that I have a kindergartener and we're both ACTIVE in Girl Scouts right now ....
I can't wait until S is Daisy Girl Scout age. I loved GS.