I haven't finished reading yet, I'm just so up in arm that you are being downgraded for needing to work on your relationship with P, when clearly its known he is gruff. Is he also being downgraded for not working on his relationship with you? (Granted, it's not like you can know that). But I just have a sneaking suspicion there is gender bias going on here, and it's up to the woman to be nice to the cranky asshole man.
Edit: Oh ha! I missed this was yesterday. And it seems my sentiment was covered. Moving along...