Yes. I am drunk in my office at 1:45 in the afternoon. I sympathize with teachers who have to deal with parents who can't except that their "perfect" little minion may not be.....perfect. She asked a question and was given an honest answer. I'm sorry if the truth hurts but the outrage over the teacher is ridiculous.
Where in all fanciful fuck did you get the idea that this is what Stellas was trying to do?
I don't know Stella but based on this thread....yeah she is one of those.
Because I nicely asked a question and am sad he's having trouble?
No. I don't blame you at all. You are a concerned parent who has a right to know how your child is doing. Your child is 5 and in K- I'm sure he will be just fine. I am referring to all the hefers in this tread that have no clue what they are talking about and are ready to string this poor teacher up by her toes. Her response was appropriate to your question.
He is in private school, right? Have you had parent-teacher conferences yet?
I have been shocked by how much work is expected in Kindergarten. And how seemingly tough the Kindergarten teachers are. I was expecting more play time and fun, less rules. Finley is expected to a read a book aloud every evening, write a couple sentences about said book, have a book read aloud to her, go through ~100 flash card sight words and do a couple sheets of homework each night during the week. It is a lot. Kindergarten was essentially a half day of play when I was in school and the expectations are so much higher now.
Post by hopecounts on Oct 30, 2014 12:59:22 GMT -5
are you able to observe him in class? there are 2 options here, either she has unrealsitic expectations or she is seeing problems beyond the normal kindy boy issues. Best way to find out is to see what is happening in class and hwmit compares to his classmates. If he has ADHD (honestly have no idea) by finding out and getting him help you will make his life better and easier, at this age you could start with behavorial supports/therapy which may lessen the need for meds later. I will say it sounds like she is reasonable about homework 10-20 minutes is fairly age appropriate if you are going to give kindy kids homework so I wouldn't dismiss her thoughts out of hand without doing some checking to see if there is any validity to them. Then once you have more info see where that leads you.
Because I nicely asked a question and am sad he's having trouble?
No. I don't blame you at all. You are a concerned parent who has a right to know how your child is doing. Your child is 5 and in K- I'm sure he will be just fine. I am referring to all the hefers in this tread that have no clue what they are talking about and are ready to string this poor teacher up by her toes. Her response was appropriate to your question.
Yes. I am drunk in my office at 1:45 in the afternoon. I sympathize with teachers who have to deal with parents who can't except that their "perfect" little minion may not be.....perfect. She asked a question and was given an honest answer. I'm sorry if the truth hurts but the outrage over the teacher is ridiculous.
Ugh RITE? Effing parents and their effing expectations that teachers be reasonable and developmentally appropriate when dealing with they're little rug rats. AND not sound like uneducated flakes when addressing a concern with their child. Intitled assholes. All of them.
This teacher was reasonable. Should she lie to the Mom and say that little whoever is doing GREAT! when he is actually struggling. All people are not created equal. We are all different with different talents and abilities.
You are a legal secretary right? Maybe you should stick to typing and leave educating children to the people who have spent years in school learning how to do just that.
It looks like this teacher knows lot's and lot's about teaching little kids.
No. I don't blame you at all. You are a concerned parent who has a right to know how your child is doing. Your child is 5 and in K- I'm sure he will be just fine. I am referring to all the hefers in this tread that have no clue what they are talking about and are ready to string this poor teacher up by her toes. Her response was appropriate to your question.
"Heifers." And "thread." You're welcome.
Thanks bitch. I still have more education and make more money then you ;-)
Ugh RITE? Effing parents and their effing expectations that teachers be reasonable and developmentally appropriate when dealing with they're little rug rats. AND not sound like uneducated flakes when addressing a concern with their child. Intitled assholes. All of them.
This teacher was reasonable. Should she lie to the Mom and say that little whoever is doing GREAT! when he is actually struggling. All people are not created equal. We are all different with different talents and abilities.
On a serious note, stellas , is there any way to make homework time a little more upbeat? I don't know your evening schedule, but maybe a couple times a week you could stop by the library to knock out the 15 minutes of homework and pick out a movie or book as a reward? Maybe browse around a little first to get him loosened up? Hit the park and have a snack and then sit down and do it in some fresh air? I think much like adults who have difficulty working from home, kids can have the same issue with homework. Especially if he is sleepy and once he gets home, all he can think about is being done. Maybe being out and about will help keep his brain up and running?
Can you go in and shadow in the classroom for an hour or two? I did this when DS was in preschool and having some issues and it helped me to understand what was going on and how to address it with his teacher.
Also, I have found that setting meetings with my kids teachers seems to be the way to go when there is an issue. Something about talking about it in person seems to be more effective.
My DS is soooo different as a student now (4th grade) then he was in kinder so while feedback is good a year can make a big difference.
It would be too much genius. I'm not a teacher. You couldn't pay me enough to do that job b/c of parents like you people.
I love how you just picked up the "to much" LOL!
Guys, the teacher says that "lot's" is totes okay now
I realized she was being sarcastic with the "lot's". She just screwed up her grammer (and/or was typing fast and not putting too much effort into an internet msg board:-) with the "to". It happens.
Also, her use of an inappropriate apostrophe on the plural of "lots" would make me automatically negate any professional advice she gave on this subject. lol.
ETA: Also, the use of "to" in the phrase "to much."
Agreed. I would further disregard all future communication for this very reason.
(But really, I think this is normal. I would not freak out.)
Her normal routine is to post at night, be all, "I AM A LURKER, I LOVE ALL YOU GUYS. HIIIIIIII!" But she does it when she's rill, rill drunk, and it goes poorly, and everyone laughs at her and she gets huffy puffy. Then she'll come back the next day and apologize, which is still pretty weird.
He is in private school, right? Have you had parent-teacher conferences yet?
I have been shocked by how much work is expected in Kindergarten. And how seemingly tough the Kindergarten teachers are. I was expecting more play time and fun, less rules. Finley is expected to a read a book aloud every evening, write a couple sentences about said book, have a book read aloud to her, go through ~100 flash card sight words and do a couple sheets of homework each night during the week. It is a lot. Kindergarten was essentially a half day of play when I was in school and the expectations are so much higher now.
See, my kid has about 1/5th of that in grade 1.
My kid is in grade 2 and has 1/5 of that. Her homework is to read 15 minutes a night. And study for a 7 word spelling test on Friday. She's also only 1 year older than pp's kid but in grade 2.
This teacher was reasonable. Should she lie to the Mom and say that little whoever is doing GREAT! when he is actually struggling. All people are not created equal. We are all different with different talents and abilities.
Ugh RITE? Effing parents and their effing expectations that teachers be reasonable and developmentally appropriate when dealing with they're little rug rats. AND not sound like uneducated flakes when addressing a concern with their child. Intitled assholes. All of them.
This teacher was reasonable. Should she lie to the Mom and say that little whoever is doing GREAT! when he is actually struggling. All people are not created equal. We are all different with different talents and abilities.
No. No she was not. She's being unreasonable in homework expectations, she's being unreasonable in implying that a rough adjustment period to kindergarten (especially for boys) is abnormal and potentially something to address with P's pediatrician (implying that there's an actual pathology), and she's being unreasonabe in suggesting punishment for non-completion of homework. For a FIVE year old. Way to foster a love of education there Teach.
But you're right in that all people are not created equal, and that we all have different talents and abilities. Shockingly, not all 5 year olds are able to self motivate or stay on task all the time, nor will they consistently display these skills when they do develop them. This isn't indicative of a problem. This is indicative of a completely normal 5 year old kid.
But yeah, we just suck as parents and are bitching about our Speshul Snowflakes.
I got this response: "Payne is doing a little better keeping up, but still needs reminders to get started or stay on task when it comes to working independently. He has been keeping up during whole group when we are working in Math and our Superkids lessons. I and the other teacher that maybe in the classroom, give him lot's of positive encouragement when he stays on track.
I see this attribute from time to time, mostly in boys. I know Payne's birthday is in November, but I do see a lot of immaturity in his ability to self start and self motivate. You may want to speak to your pediatrician the next time you visit about some of the issues Payne is having. As far as the homework goes, that tends to be a typical thing as far as getting it done.
My suggestions with homework would be to have consequences and some small positive reinforcements. I would also have a timer. Homework should not last more than 15 to 20 minutes. If you feel that it is to much, just do a page or two.
Payne still has some time for growth until the end of the year, however if we are still seeing the same issues with Payne in the Spring, we will definitely revisit and consider our options. Our ultimate goal is for Payne to be successful!"
So, is she saying she think he might have ADD or something? Is she talking about maybe holding him back? I'm sad because until this year it was always "he's fine! He's great!". I don't want school to be so hard for him.
1. Sees this attribute from time to time? Not every.single.year. as a 30 year K teacher? Weird.
2. Speak to your pedi about what? One million dollars says your pedi will tell you that his attention span is normal. The majority of kids his age are more interested in the stuff kids around them are doing than working independently.
3. No. No. No. There should not be consequences for homework in K.
4. No shit. He will have grown and changed so much by the end of next month.
The good stuff she wrote include positive reinforcement of positive behaviors. Also, the timer idea is a good one. Kids seem to love timers. Can you start a routine? Like, after school you get an hour of free play. Then as you are making dinner (or whatever) tell him its time to set the timer for 10 minutes for homework. Start at 10 minutes. The general rule is that kids should be able to focus for 2x the number of minutes as their age. Then have dinner. Doanother 10 minutes at some point if you want before bed when he is winding down.