Do you have an advance directive and/or living will?

[les]

I am working on the paperwork for mine now. I feel a bit hypocritical not having them already given my line of work.

If you don't mind sharing, who did you designate as your healthcare DPOA? Do you have any special preferences for end-of-life care?

[midnightmare81]

H and I both have one. He is mine and I am his. My mother is the back up in the event he is unable to act. His mother is his for the same reason.

We both request that if we are deemed brain dead or will be a "vegetable" that we are not put on life support. No more then 6 months in a coma if there is uncertain prognosis.

Is that what you were asking?

[ECB]

Yes. we are each others and I can't remember who our back ups are.

We've both expressed to not be kept on life support if brain dead

[vtdiamond]

Very timely topic as I'm going in for surgery on Monday. My hospital gave me a fill in the blank type one with the preregistration paperwork. I'm going to try to fill it out with DH this weekend.

Neither DH or myself would want to be on life support for a long length of time if there is no chance of recovery, but not sure how long we'd want to wait before being taken off it.

[meltoine]

We are each other's. Part of me wanted to put my mom since she's great under pressure and fills the role for several friends and family members since she deals with the stuff all the time for her job. But MH would have been hurt and I can't say for sure that my mom would have been as cool with her kid in the bed as she's been with others.

I have several preferences all leaning toward non-intervention. I also have a separate clause for if I am pregnant at the time since I would prefer certain measures to try and save the fetus to which I would not consent otherwise.

[Susie]

Calvin had one before we met. His DPOA is a good friend of his. I don't.

I should, though. My mom did a living will, etc. a couple years ago, shortly after her cancer came back. It was more traumatic/emotional for any of us than it would've been if she'd done them earlier in life, before she was sick. These sorts of things are easier in the abstract sometimes. Her illness didn't change her choices; if anything she only felt stronger about it.

All of which is to say I really should do one!

[CrazyLucky]

We both have one. We have power of attorney for each other. If we are both incapacitated, mine is my little brother and his is his sister. I think my older brother would be too quick to pull the plug and my sister too slow. It's been a while, but we have standard language about not living in a vegetative state and doing whatever possible to become organ donors after we are brain dead. Besides that. I've talked about it a lot with my family. They know what I want, and hopefully wouldn't fight DH on it. I wouldn't want a Terry Schiavo type thing.

[drloretta]

H and I both have living wills. My dad is POA for both of us. DH wants everything done for him, I'm more selective

[raangoli]

We are actually going to do this soon. Neither of us want to be on life support and I am already a registered organ donor, so I will make sure that is reflected in the documentation as well. I imagine that our backups should we not be available for one another would be our respective siblings.

[Deleted]

Yes. We were able to fill out basic ones that are on file with our health insurance provider. We actually did them when Dh was in the hospital last year. Convenience > morbid.