Safety on here

[anna7602]

I am FB friends with about half of the MMM population now, but I don't like to post my children's first and middle name combos here because of the google-ability factor. I just don't want everyone in my life to know I'm also anna7602, just you ladies.

[arch01]

I work with a bunch of crazies on a day to day basis and don't need people connecting the dots.

[Deleted]

I don't really want IRL people to find me, at least not super easily (that went badly for me in the old place). I don't want online people to know my real identity when I inevitably piss off the board and make a ton of enemies. I prefer to keep it separate.

I have had some FB friends from the old place in the past. I ended up axing them all when I realized I didn't really care about the details of their life and didn't want to share mine so broadly. I like to talk to people, but I don't really need photos of their cat.

[mlt]

I don't share anything identifying because I'm afraid SIL or someone equally heinous will find me and make my life more difficult. I also work in law and don't want an employer or client to find me and know about my sex life, ha.

[karinothing]

Doesn't @supergreen have a son? Am I confusing her?


I think I posted DS' name once when he was born, but haven't since. I don't think I have ever posted what I call him IRL. I don't think I ever will since it is not common. I have posted limited pictures on her. I just don't feel comfortable doing it, since I can't monitor who sees it. Plus, you can't really google image search adn get FB pictures. You can google image search and get pictures from here. I don't like that.

[SJ]

I am only concerned about IRL people googling me and finding GBCN/reading my posts.

I am not at all concerned about GBCN people knowing about my life.

[Deleted]

I am not 100% anonymous but I'm not super sharey either. I don't know. I don't see any real reason to let it all hang out, and you never know who's out there. The internet is a big place.

Sort of off topic, but I have recently (like in the past couple of months) gotten FB friend requests from people that I have only GBCN mutual friends with, so I assume they are from here. That's fine but if I don't recognize your picture (and unless it is the same as a signature photo on here I probably won't, because my memory is like a sieve), I need a PM here or on FB just so I can know who you are before accepting. I really like to keep my FB list pruned to people I know (or "know") better than just in passing.

Not that everyone is clamoring to be my FB friend... it's just come up a few times so I thought I'd put it out there.

[cowboyjoe]

I try to stay anonymous on here. I've been on MM since 2008, but change names often and try to not to post too much.

I had an IRL stalker that makes me very cautious of my online presence.  I think this person still googles me on a regular basis and I don't need them knowing details about my life.  Any time they learn new information about me it seems to spark the obsessive behavior again.  I have a photography blog, but even keep my DD's existence off of it.  It sucks that I feel so vulnerable after all these years.  I feel like I'll never truly get rid of this person.

[Deleted]

I don't care as much about anyone on here knowing the information as much as I do about someone I know be able to come on one day and be like "Hey that's Drewly!" I want to continue complaining about my family in anonymity.

[water*drop]

I don't care if people I interact with here know information about me. I do care about lurkers I know IRL finding me. That's happened to me in the past and was not pretty. This is why I accept people from here on IG - my account is private, so it's a limited audience.

[ohgillian]

I don't want IRL friends to read about my parenting struggles, my fights with H, and the like. I also have shared on here that I have an ED history, which almost no IRL friends know and which is a private, horrible topic for me.

Finally, I like to manage my kids' future privacy. I don't want DS's girlfriend to be able to find my posts about his pooping on the floor, etc.

[ssmjlm]

Well if you're my FB friend and google my name, all of my work stuff comes up. It's hard to remain anonymous when my full name, employer, phone, and email are right there.

[redpenmama]

I'm anonymous probably because of unnecessary paranoia.

I don't like putting up pics of my kids on public websites...too many creepy people out there.

I have my own business, and people Google my name to find my website/contact me. I don't want my name on here (not that anyone has their full name, but still, I'm paranoid), so I keep things anonymous.

That said, I am IG friends with a few of you, and I love seeing your cute babies. And I am glad you can see mine.

[mpc]

If someone IRL lurks here and figures out who I am, more power to them, I guess. I just don't want to make it super easy for them. Ideally, I would like to know if someone recognized me here. I did recognize a friend of mine on the bump a few years ago, and didn't mention it to her, so I guess that makes me a hypocrite.

[thebreakfastclub]

I have my son's name in my ticker, but his name is Owen, and there are thousands of him floating around out there. I'm not worried about that.

I don't have FB or IG in real life. It's just not my thing. I am not a big picture sharer IRL, or here. Even if I did, I am not sure I would want to have worlds collide. GBCN is what it is, and I leave it at that.

[VillainV]

I guess I worry about internet crazies having access to my info. Most of you seem pretty normal, but having observed some of the craziness on ML I know that this isn't a safe place to share info. This is also why I don't participate in SS or Facebook with GBCNers. I just can't be sure you aren't crazy people.

[brooklyn]

I'd be in trouble if my in-laws ever found me here.

[jeaniebueller]

These boards are public and I don't want people who know me to find me. Then I can't bitch about them

[ssmjlm]

Oct 30, 2014 14:27:26 GMT -5 VillainV said:

I guess I worry about internet crazies having access to my info. Most of you seem pretty normal, but having observed some of the craziness on ML I know that this isn't a safe place to share info. This is also why I don't participate in SS or Facebook with GBCNers. I just can't be sure you aren't crazy people.

I'm totally a crazy person.

Just ask my IL's.

[Susie]

Like a bunch of people, I don't want IRL people to find me here. GBCN is sort of like my safe place! I try to not be too google-able.

I'm not that worried about GBCN regs knowing me, and I'm FB friends w/ a bunch of H&F people. (Somehow that seems less scary because race results/bibs numbers/etc. are somewhat verifiable, which makes it feel safer to think people really are who they say they are.) But I try to remember that anybody anywhere can lurk, and we have no idea. I am uncomfortable with putting too much out there, knowing anyone could be reading it and I'll never have any idea.

[kittycatlove]

I'm a paranoid person in lots of aspects of my life, not just on here. So it's pretty easy for me to not share too much info. Though I have to say that it brings back all my memories of a kid where I didn't fit in and have a lot of friends when I see all the FB friending going on. I kind of wish I wasn't so paranoid of the crazies so I would feel more part of the GBCN community.

But I don't post a ton or consistently for people to really know who I am. So it is what it is.

[heygrey]

i operate under the assumption that someone i know IRL is at least lurking here. i have 9 sister in laws, after all this means i stick to pretty benign post topics and try to keep my complaints (at least as they pertain to other people) to a minimum.

[stacyb1983]

It's a personal choice. I don't judge other people's level of comfort. I am not opposed to being friends with people from here IRL. I am still new and cautious.

I am hesitant to post identifying information about my kids because I don't know what the internet will become in the future. My kids probably won't want their friends to know how long it took to potty train or other stuff that seem innocuous now, but will live on indefinitely. On a personal level, I don't want people IRL (coworkers, certain family members) to find me on here. I am more open about therapy and my struggles with depression than I am IRL.

There is always the issue of "creepers."  If you look at the number of views vs. likes/responses on posts, there are a lot of people who lurk on these boards. Who knows what their intent is **Monterey Bride photo bucket.**

[sjh722]

Oct 30, 2014 14:34:42 GMT -5 @marshmallows said:

It freaked me out that we were linked on jezebel. Like, a lot.

Wait, what?

I need to change my screenname to something totally non googleable. Like s. LOL

[mandapanda18]

I'm not too worried about it... but then again, I feel left out, I am not friends with anyone on here and FB. Dang, I need to work on my people skills apparently :/

[stacyb1983]

Oct 30, 2014 14:34:42 GMT -5 @marshmallows said:

It freaked me out that we were linked on jezebel. Like, a lot.

How did I miss this? Was this recent? **puts on tin foil hat**

[sjh722]

I chewed the nest a new one and got them to change my SN, post-migration, when I realized that people were pinning links from nest posts. Like, I clicked through a photo on pinterest and BOOM. There I was, in a post.

Andplusalso, I googled Grandma Nugget's Mac and Cheese recipe the other day to link to someone in a post. Some idiot around here went ahead and pinned that to pinterest, too.

NOT COOL, people.

[Deleted]

Oct 30, 2014 14:42:40 GMT -5 sjh722 said:

I chewed the nest a new one and got them to change my SN, post-migration, when I realized that people were pinning links from nest posts. Like, I clicked through a photo on pinterest and BOOM. There I was, in a post.

Andplusalso, I googled Grandma Nugget's Mac and Cheese recipe the other day to link to someone in a post. Some idiot around here went ahead and pinned that to pinterest, too.

NOT COOL, people.

Um, you think this place is secret or something?

Google finds us here, just fine.

[sjh722]

Oct 30, 2014 14:46:27 GMT -5 @tokenhoser said:

Oct 30, 2014 14:42:40 GMT -5 sjh722 said:

I chewed the nest a new one and got them to change my SN, post-migration, when I realized that people were pinning links from nest posts. Like, I clicked through a photo on pinterest and BOOM. There I was, in a post.

Andplusalso, I googled Grandma Nugget's Mac and Cheese recipe the other day to link to someone in a post. Some idiot around here went ahead and pinned that to pinterest, too.

NOT COOL, people.

Um, you think this place is secret or something?

Google finds us here, just fine.

I don't think it's secret, but my random IRL friend or SIL is a lot less likely to be googling "macaroni and cheese recipe" or "revere pewter paint" vs. clicking around on pinterest links. 

[Deleted]

I am worried that someone IRL will find me here. I love this place too much to leave! Or to start over with another screename as a newbie. Also there's LOTS of CRAZINESS on other boards. Cat fishing, saving other nextie's photos on their own albums, trolls who reveal personal information just because it's fun, etc. The less fodder I give out, the less that could come back to hurt me.