Je étudié la langue pendant neuf ans à l'école. Je ne sais pas pourquoi, parce que je ne l'utilise jamais.
I just want to say that I've been able to read all of the french, in all of the posts! Go high school French class!
I'm constantly shocked by how much I actually understand. It's hard for me to have a conversation in french, but I can read it pretty easily and can get the general idea by listening. I mean, I haven't used it AT ALL in 12 years, so I'm impressed that I still speak any of it.
I don't get it. It doesn't hurt me when people are thrilled to have two boys. I'd like for everyone to be thrilled with the children they have. I feel like I can't express my joy over my family make-up without hurting somebody's feelings.
I'm not sure for people who already have two boys, but me telling people that I'm having another boy I've got comments like, oh, that's okay, I'll still love them. That's the kinda stuff that give me the sads.
Lately I have been extra sensitive to feeling like my boys are less important and inadequate because they are male. Both here and IRL. I get the feeling that folks really think their lives are so charmed because of their girls and like they pity me. I see some people make constant jabs. I want to elbow them.
Me, too. I hate feeling pitied. I know my SIL feels this way because her first response to me telling her it was a boy was "are you disappointed?"
I also get really anxious about how I come off to other people. I worry that I'm annoying and talk too much. I drove home from my girls' night last night analyzing everything I said and finding fault.
I don't get it. It doesn't hurt me when people are thrilled to have two boys. I'd like for everyone to be thrilled with the children they have. I feel like I can't express my joy over my family make-up without hurting somebody's feelings around here (and on ML - there was some discussion of this yesterday).
This is basically what I was just going to say. Also, everyone has preferred boys for like, the entire existence of time, and in most parts of the world they still do prefer boys. But now I will end my participation on this matter . BOYS ARE COOL.
I don't get it. It doesn't hurt me when people are thrilled to have two boys. I'd like for everyone to be thrilled with the children they have. I feel like I can't express my joy over my family make-up without hurting somebody's feelings around here (and on ML - there was some discussion of this yesterday).
It doesn't hurt me when people are thrilled to have two girls. It hurts me when people literally have a complex that their lives are more enriched because of the gender of their children. Yes, it hurts me deeply when a mother of two girls says she would be less happy with a boy.
I don't get it. It doesn't hurt me when people are thrilled to have two boys. I'd like for everyone to be thrilled with the children they have. I feel like I can't express my joy over my family make-up without hurting somebody's feelings.
I'm not sure for people who already have two boys, but me telling people that I'm having another boy I've got comments like, oh, that's okay, I'll still love them. That's the kinda stuff that give me the sads.
I got the same with two girls though. People just want you to have one of each. My own mother told me she hoped my amnio results were wrong.
Lately I have been extra sensitive to feeling like my boys are less important and inadequate because they are male. Both here and IRL. I get the feeling that folks really think their lives are so charmed because of their girls and like they pity me. I see some people make constant jabs. I want to elbow them.
Just think back to the *insert word of choice* post reminding us that your male children will out smart, out perform, and have more general success than the girls.
I'm sensitive about how people perceive me in person. I usually end up standing in the corner in a big group of people or finding one person to latch onto and talking her ear off.
I don't get it. It doesn't hurt me when people are thrilled to have two boys. I'd like for everyone to be thrilled with the children they have. I feel like I can't express my joy over my family make-up without hurting somebody's feelings around here (and on ML - there was some discussion of this yesterday).
I personally don't notice it here. Other than like outfit threads but even as a boy mom, I like reading and participating in those. My comment mostly comes from my ILs favoring my niece. They favored my SIL over my H too, so did his grandparents. Or my MIL asking if I want her to "teach me how to make a girl" if we have another.
My SIL just found out she's having a boy and they are excited so I'm curious to see if they still favor my niece over him or if they will favor both her children and still ignore mine.
I also get really anxious about how I come off to other people. I worry that I'm annoying and talk too much. I drove home from my girls' night last night analyzing everything I said and finding fault.
I do this too, word for word. I come home and always worry that I said too much or said something wrong or awkward.
Post by DesertMoon on Oct 30, 2014 15:41:22 GMT -5
Im a very "oh well, thats your opinion" person, but I get incredibly sensitve about pretty much every word out of my dads mouth. He is so hurtful under the guise of joking or being sarcastic. He makes me cry everytime I go to Michigan (im there now) stuff he says about my kids and me. It has a lot im sure to do with all the fucking beat dows he gave me well into my twenties.
Lately I have been extra sensitive to feeling like my boys are less important and inadequate because they are male. Both here and IRL. I get the feeling that folks really think their lives are so charmed because of their girls and like they pity me. I see some people make constant jabs. I want to elbow them.
I feel this way too. Then stupid shit gets me all riled up, like there was a Hanna sale this week- boys was 20% off, then a few days later girls was 40% off, wtf? Yes i realize this is ridiculous but i am cranky. I am so excited for my new little boy though.
Post by honeybee503 on Oct 30, 2014 15:41:42 GMT -5
I also get sensitive about formula feeding sometimes. I'll feel like I'm secure with FF and over other people opinions, but then I see some stupid FB or blog post and it gives me the sadz.
I also get really anxious about how I come off to other people. I worry that I'm annoying and talk too much. I drove home from my girls' night last night analyzing everything I said and finding fault.
I do this too, word for word. I come home and always worry that I said too much or said something wrong or awkward.
Lately I have been extra sensitive to feeling like my boys are less important and inadequate because they are male. Both here and IRL. I get the feeling that folks really think their lives are so charmed because of their girls and like they pity me. I see some people make constant jabs. I want to elbow them.
Just think back to the *insert word of choice* post reminding us that your male children will out smart, out perform, and have more general success than the girls.
I don't know who said that (did I? Because woah if I did... That's unlike me) but I try to place no gender stereotypes ever on anything. It would be my hope if I ever had a daughter that she would be just as successful as her brothers.
Ugh DesertMoon I am so sorry. You are beautiful and smart and funny and your kids are perfect.
betsyray I feel that way about social situations too! For what it is worth you seemed quietly confident and intelligent and thoughful when I met you! Which of course made me super nervous per above lol.
I'm not sure for people who already have two boys, but me telling people that I'm having another boy I've got comments like, oh, that's okay, I'll still love them. That's the kinda stuff that give me the sads.
Yeah, those kinds of comments are shitty, no argument there.
You saying you love having two girls I wouldn't take offense to at all. I'm not sure what you say, but if you said I love having girls because boys are awful, that's when I could see someone being hurt. I don't see you saying that though... Out loud at least. Lol
I don't know who said that (did I? Because woah if I did... That's unlike me) but I try to place no gender stereotypes ever on anything. It would be my hope if I ever had a daughter that she would be just as successful as her brothers.
I think it was @thadsrad? Sorry if I am completely off-base there.
I think so. It's the only gender related thread that really burned my britches. A lot of it is true in 2014, I hope it's not in 2034.
ETA: my use of the word hope is bothering me. I'm not content with hoping.
I actually wanted (and prefer) to have same sex siblings, whether it was 2 girls or 2 boys. I'd want a third a boy. Now I'm probably being insensitive to those with (or having) one of each lol.
And FWIW, I don't feel offended by people who are glad to have two girls, I get more down about people (no one on here!) saying boys aren't as fun because the clothes are boring.
In my family I was the only girl of all the grandkids and you would have thought I would have been spoiled, but it was the exact opposite. In my family girls and women are treated like crap and men are superior. No wonder I have nothing to do with most of my family.
I actually wanted (and prefer) to have same sex siblings, whether it was 2 girls or 2 boys. Now I'm probably being insensitive to those with (or having) one of each lol.
And FWIW, I don't feel offended by people who are glad to have two girls, I get more down about people (no one on here!) saying boys aren't as fun because the clothes are boring.
Before I knew if this baby was a boy or a girl, I searched some baby girls and baby boys clothes and I liked none to almost none of the girl things and loved so many boys things. My mind has totally flipped from before I had kids.