What are you sensitive about?

[TrudyCampbell]

When we found out Violet was a girl my ILs said to my husband, "Congrats! Wow. There is absolutely NOTHING in the world that is better than having a daughter."

Which I think is hilarious because he is their son! Like... uhhh... thanks?

[carawestt]

Oct 30, 2014 15:52:21 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

I think we all are or would be in relationships with men here, so we must not think the male gender is that terrible. Some of us even let them stick it in us once in awhile.

Yeah but their clothes are sooo boring

[thedahliharpa]

Oct 30, 2014 15:52:21 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

I think we all are or would be in relationships with men here, so we must not think the male gender is that terrible. Some of us even let them stick it in us once in awhile.

Lololololol

[TrudyCampbell]

Oct 30, 2014 15:52:21 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

I think we all are or would be in relationships with men here, so we must not think the male gender is that terrible. Some of us even let them stick it in us once in awhile.

What happened to the gay board member who made a brief appearance? We seriously need some lesbians up in here. 

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Oct 30, 2014 15:54:48 GMT -5 TrudyCampbell said:

Oct 30, 2014 15:52:21 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

I think we all are or would be in relationships with men here, so we must not think the male gender is that terrible. Some of us even let them stick it in us once in awhile.

What happened to the gay board member who made a brief appearance? We seriously need some lesbians up in here. 

There was the random crap exchange and I sent stuff to a lesbian in Minnesota I think? She was a preacher or her wife was.

[laurack]

Working full time and not wanting to stay home. I don't like being alone with them both for even one day and I feel sometimes like I am broken because of this

Feeling "fat" /insecure about my body even though I know logically I am thin and look fine

The fact that I don't dress the kids in nice clothes or care

The state of my house. I wish I were different. It depresses me

How I don't pay attention to my own appearance. I haven't tweezed my brows in weeks. They look bad. My hair hasn't been cut in over a year. I can't take five minutes to put on makeup. I see other girls at work who look so put together and I just look messy

[earlybird]

Being quiet and soft-spoken. Or, rather, the assumption that I lack confidence or am not aggressive because I am those things. Anyone who works with me is quickly disabused of that notion, but I suspect it remains people's first impression. On the plus side, I've been able to call people assholes to their face and it'll be taken well because I said it nicely and with a smile.

[eav2c]

Oh I got another thing I'm sensitive about.

On picture threads, mostly only the ones pertaining to our kids, when someone likes the persons picture before and after me and not mine. It makes me incredibly insecure. I don't understand what would warrant not liking someone's pictures of their kids. I take mental notes of the haters. It happened today and I was like buuuuurmnnnn

[TrudyCampbell]

Oct 30, 2014 15:57:13 GMT -5 @huahualove said:

Oct 30, 2014 15:54:48 GMT -5 TrudyCampbell said:

What happened to the gay board member who made a brief appearance? We seriously need some lesbians up in here. 

There was the random crap exchange and I sent stuff to a lesbian in Minnesota I think? She was a preacher or her wife was.

Yea I think that is her! She was like closeted IRL I think? Anyway, if you're lurking, come on back!

[muppetinma]

I don't understand the comments on the sex of child #2 for anybody. Well, honestly, I don't understand when people comment about the sex of ANY child, but for #2, I feel like it's a win-win. Had a girl and having a boy? WOO HOO! Now you get to have both sexes! That's awesome! Have a girl and having a girl? WOO HOO!!! Sisters are awesome!! Boy and a boy? WOO HOO! They're going to have SO MUCH FUN together!!

I mean, if you had a little boy and you were expecting a squid, I could understand the concern. I mean, it would be hard to love both children equally when one had to live in the ocean. But short of that, how could either sex be a disappointment?

[TrudyCampbell]

Oct 30, 2014 15:58:17 GMT -5 eav2c said:

Oh I got another thing I'm sensitive about.

On picture threads, mostly only the ones pertaining to our kids, when someone likes the persons picture before and after me and not mine. It makes me incredibly insecure. I don't understand what would warrant not liking someone's pictures of their kids. I take mental notes of the haters. It happened today and I was like buuuuurmnnnn

I might do it and its only because I forget what I already liked. 

But I do know what you mean and I feel that way when I post two IG pics back to back and one of them gets more likes than the other. 

[lolaburns]

Oct 30, 2014 15:43:11 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Oct 30, 2014 15:38:39 GMT -5 TrudyCampbell said:

I got the same with two girls though. People just want you to have one of each. My own mother told me she hoped my amnio results were wrong. 

This is true, and it's irritating then too. The only thing people should say when someone announces the sex of their child is "congratulations!"

But then there was also a post either here or on ML about how it was weird for people to congratulate someone on a sex (I'd say gender, but people get sand in their vagina over that too) announcement, so maybe the only appropriate response is "hmm." Although I'm sure people would think that was bitchy.

This has just been an ongoing flame? I guess? around here, and it comes mostly from the boy moms, for whatever reason.

The saying congratulations on a sex/gender reveal was our board. I remembered it because I tghought to myself " Well, if I can't say congratulations what am I supposed to say....". I think about that post every time we have a reveal post now! LOL

[Deleted]

Oct 30, 2014 15:58:17 GMT -5 eav2c said:

Oh I got another thing I'm sensitive about.

On picture threads, mostly only the ones pertaining to our kids, when someone likes the persons picture before and after me and not mine. It makes me incredibly insecure. I don't understand what would warrant not liking someone's pictures of their kids. I take mental notes of the haters. It happened today and I was like buuuuurmnnnn

Sometimes I start liking pics and then get lazy and stop. However I like a lot on ig. Maybe too much. Pretty much if I see a kid pic I'll like it. That reminds me. I feel insecure when I see people liking other people's pics all the time but never mine. Not in here but like family members. Or when I sent you a text directly to you with an adorable pic of William announcing he's getting a brother and you never respond, that's basically then saying, "fuck you" to me.

[Deleted]

Everything apparently, lol. I don't like feeling left out. I don't like it if I think someone doesn't like me. Criticize my parenting or ANYTHING about my kid and I lose it. I don't feel pretty, so I'm uber sensitive about that.

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Oct 30, 2014 15:59:14 GMT -5 TrudyCampbell said:

Oct 30, 2014 15:58:17 GMT -5 eav2c said:

Oh I got another thing I'm sensitive about.

On picture threads, mostly only the ones pertaining to our kids, when someone likes the persons picture before and after me and not mine. It makes me incredibly insecure. I don't understand what would warrant not liking someone's pictures of their kids. I take mental notes of the haters. It happened today and I was like buuuuurmnnnn

I might do it and its only because I forget what I already liked. 

But I do know what you mean and I feel that way when I post two IG pics back to back and one of them gets more likes than the other. 

I always try to like all sibling pics if I see them on IG. I don't want to leave a kid out. Not that they see it, but still.

[laurack]

Recently (more reading my local mom group on Facebook not here) I've been feeling insecure about the fact I don't plan to move Matilda to a "better" preschool. Her daycare is a preschool but I know there are better ones. Some moms on my local group who use the same daycare have been talking about where to move the kids when they turn 3

I'm not moving her. It's too complicated because we need full time hours and I want them both in the same location for convenience. And this place is the cheapest center around. We really can't afford more

She's doing fine there! But I feel a bit insecure that I'm not going to send her to the fancier preschools and just suck up the increased cost and inconvenience like the other moms

[eav2c]

Oct 30, 2014 15:59:14 GMT -5 TrudyCampbell said:

Oct 30, 2014 15:58:17 GMT -5 eav2c said:

Oh I got another thing I'm sensitive about.

On picture threads, mostly only the ones pertaining to our kids, when someone likes the persons picture before and after me and not mine. It makes me incredibly insecure. I don't understand what would warrant not liking someone's pictures of their kids. I take mental notes of the haters. It happened today and I was like buuuuurmnnnn

I might do it and its only because I forget what I already liked. 

But I do know what you mean and I feel that way when I post two IG pics back to back and one of them gets more likes than the other. 

Fair enough. But if someone is going down the thread and liking one after another in order it's not hard to forget which you did and didn't like, KWIM? Like, it's obvious some people blatantly skip some peoples pictures. It's just weird!

[honeybee503]

Man, this thread is getting me down.

I guess I am sensitive about people being sensitive.

[thedahliharpa]

Oct 30, 2014 15:58:17 GMT -5 eav2c said:

Oh I got another thing I'm sensitive about.

On picture threads, mostly only the ones pertaining to our kids, when someone likes the persons picture before and after me and not mine. It makes me incredibly insecure. I don't understand what would warrant not liking someone's pictures of their kids. I take mental notes of the haters. It happened today and I was like buuuuurmnnnn

Sometimes mobile is really sticky with likes. It doesn't always register or sometimes it registers twice and takes away the like.

[laurack]

Sometimes on my phone I hit the like button and it doesn't register. Like there is a delay. Drives me nuts

Also sometimes I start liking in hdbd and then I have to close out halfway through

[shevacc]

Oct 30, 2014 16:05:01 GMT -5 thedahliharpa said:

Oct 30, 2014 15:58:17 GMT -5 eav2c said:

Oh I got another thing I'm sensitive about.

On picture threads, mostly only the ones pertaining to our kids, when someone likes the persons picture before and after me and not mine. It makes me incredibly insecure. I don't understand what would warrant not liking someone's pictures of their kids. I take mental notes of the haters. It happened today and I was like buuuuurmnnnn

Sometimes mobile is really sticky with likes. It doesn't always register or sometimes it registers twice and takes away the like.

This happens to me all the time.

[TrudyCampbell]

Oct 30, 2014 16:03:45 GMT -5 eav2c said:

Oct 30, 2014 15:59:14 GMT -5 TrudyCampbell said:

I might do it and its only because I forget what I already liked. 

But I do know what you mean and I feel that way when I post two IG pics back to back and one of them gets more likes than the other. 

Fair enough. But if someone is going down the thread and liking one after another in order it's not hard to forget which you did and didn't like, KWIM? Like, it's obvious some people blatantly skip some peoples pictures. It's just weird!

Well, in my case, I go into threads 100 million times. So I'll go in and like every picture in there, and then leave, and then maybe you post, and when I come back later I accidentally skip your pic. 

[betsyray]

Oct 30, 2014 15:43:11 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Oct 30, 2014 15:38:39 GMT -5 TrudyCampbell said:

I got the same with two girls though. People just want you to have one of each. My own mother told me she hoped my amnio results were wrong. 

This is true, and it's irritating then too. The only thing people should say when someone announces the sex of their child is "congratulations!"

But then there was also a post either here or on ML about how it was weird for people to congratulate someone on a sex (I'd say gender, but people get sand in their vagina over that too) announcement, so maybe the only appropriate response is "hmm." Although I'm sure people would think that was bitchy.

This has just been an ongoing flame? I guess? around here, and it comes mostly from the boy moms, for whatever reason.

I honestly think some of it is defensive. A lot of women (myself included) wanted to experience daughters. Let me preface this with the fact that I adore my children and wouldn't trade even one of them for five girls but:

I feel like quite often I see moms of two girls being really happy with their family unit. They don't feel like they're missing out on anything by not having a boy. Then I feel like, what is wrong with me that I feel like I'm missing out on the mother/daughter dynamic? So it's hard to read the complete satisfaction stories, because it makes me feel guilty that I don't feel that way.

This isn't aimed at you, or really anyone here. It has more to do with me and my emotions. I was just agreeing with @eac2c that it can be hard to read that stuff and feel like people pity you (even if they don't actually).

I know we've moved on lol it just took me awhile to figure out how to phrase this.

[laurack]

Also I bite my nails and they look so terrible. I'm really embarrassed but I can't stop it's especially bad since coming back to work after William. I feel ashamed at work that people are looking at my hands and like "OMG what is wrong with her"

[fryjack2]

This isn't about me and probably doesn't have a place jn this thread. Lol.

I'm not sensitive about H's teeth but I'm aware of them-----They are yellowed from years of coffee and wine. I finally convinced him to get them whitened. If only he would find the time.

They aren't awful, but if they were mine I'd be whitening the heck out of them. I'm trying to find a way to do my own that won't hurt like crazy since my teeth are crazy sensitive.

[Deleted]

Oct 30, 2014 16:10:56 GMT -5 laurack said:

Also I bite my nails and they look so terrible. I'm really embarrassed but I can't stop it's especially bad since coming back to work after William. I feel ashamed at work that people are looking at my hands and like "OMG what is wrong with her"

Mine used to be really bad. They would always randomly start bleeding and I would get blood on things.

[TrudyCampbell]

Oct 30, 2014 16:12:41 GMT -5 fryjack2 said:

This isn't about me and probably doesn't have a place jn this thread. Lol.

I'm not sensitive about H's teeth but I'm aware of them-----They are yellowed from years of coffee and wine. I finally convinced him to get them whitened. If only he would find the time.

They aren't awful, but if they were mine I'd be whitening the heck out of them. I'm trying to find a way to do my own that won't hurt like crazy since my teeth are crazy sensitive.

Mine are so sensitive too so if you find a way please let me know!

[Deleted]

The sentiment that girls are more wanted on this board and IRL is so foreign to me. Boys in my family growing up were always treated "better". My dad and boy cousin still get special food cooked for them, and served to them, on that side when my aunt and girl cousins never do/did. I love the girl I have, and if I have another one I think it will be the best thing ever. If I have a boy next time, having a girl and boy will be the best thing ever. Everybody is always goign to think what their family is is the best. Everybody else is always going to have an annoying opinion about it no matter the sex.

[DesertMoon]

Oct 30, 2014 16:01:57 GMT -5 @dragonmommy422 said:

Everything apparently, lol. I don't like feeling left out. I don't like it if I think someone doesn't like me. Criticize my parenting or ANYTHING about my kid and I lose it. I don't feel pretty, so I'm uber sensitive about that.

I know it can be easy to just take what im about to say and dismiss It as oh, shes just trying to be nice or brushing it off but...

i really think you are beautiful and you have so many incredible qualities. I always marvel at your work out ethic and pictures because i wish i could do it. I know insecurities run so deep, but you should know that you are very pretty and i KNOW other people will completely agree. 

[Deleted]

Oct 30, 2014 16:18:02 GMT -5 DesertMoon said:

Oct 30, 2014 16:01:57 GMT -5 @dragonmommy422 said:

Everything apparently, lol. I don't like feeling left out. I don't like it if I think someone doesn't like me. Criticize my parenting or ANYTHING about my kid and I lose it. I don't feel pretty, so I'm uber sensitive about that.

I know it can be easy to just take what im about to say and dismiss It as oh, shes just trying to be nice or brushing it off but...

i really think you are beautiful and you have so many incredible qualities. I always marvel at your work out ethic and pictures because i wish i could do it. I know insecurities run so deep, but you should know that you are very pretty and i KNOW other people will completely agree. 

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