A hundred times yes. I don't give any fucks about how someone feeds her baby as long as she's feeding the baby. And I was an extended breastfeeder of two kids.
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
Yes. I'd like to think the mother made an informed choice but I'd support it either way. If this pregnancy were a twin one I wasn't even going to attempt BFing.
Post by hopecounts on Oct 30, 2014 20:24:16 GMT -5
As long as you are feeding your baby in an appropriate manner (i.e. not trying to feed them ice cream at 2 weeks) I don't care how a Mom chooses to feed her baby. FF or BF do what works for you.
A hundred times yes. I don't give any fucks about how someone feeds her baby as long as she's feeding the baby. And I was an extended breastfeeder of two kids.
This exactly. I've breastfed both girls (37 months of Breastfeeding so far and counting), and I could not care less how someone else feeds their child ( you know, assuming they are feeding them something appropriate...). Breastfeeding works for us, but I can totally see how it could not work for others.
As long as babies are fed, I don't see how it is any of mine or anyone else's business. It's not something I even pay attention to when out in public. When it comes to friends I obviously know how they feed their babies, but it's not nearly as controversial IRL as it is here. I was judged more for breast feeding than anyone I know was judged for using formula. Nobody on H's side of the family has B/f a baby.
Yep...I had absolutely less than no interest, but FF was absolutely the best decision for our family. I would have been absolutely miserable if I would have BF. The whole BF vs FF war is out of control, feed your kid and we are good in my book - I really don't care how a family decides to feed their children.
i mean, i have a history of (non-sexual) abuse that maybe subconsciously played a part in that decision but i knew 100% how breastfeeding would make me feel. i wasn't willing to sacrifice my mental health when formula is not poison.
i have had a few moments where i feel like a fucking moron for not breastfeeding in the hospital though. L immediately vomited formula and refused to eat. instead of offering her breastmilk we just tried a million kinds of formulas. i just tell myself it wouldn't have mattered because she would have ended up on neocate anyway. and that to me breastfeeding wasn't what i wanted to do, so i didn't. then i feel better lol
i don't really get the point of not supporting a woman's feeding choices. myob. the kid is eating, what's it to you?
Same. H's mom and sister (and a lot of his family) are really, really weird about BF. It was annoying. I wasn't weird about their FF!
I think this is a weird thing where FFers are shamed online (and possibly in the Pacific Northwest lol) and BFers are shamed in person.
Which is why NO ONE SHOULD CARE WHAT ANYONE ELSE DOES.
EXACTLY.
I have had more than one extremely awkward conversation with my boss regarding his feelings on BF (he gets grossed out). He has 2 kids. WHY ARE YOU TALKING TO ME ABOUT THIS?? lol!
Post by water*drop on Oct 30, 2014 20:54:43 GMT -5
The only part of the FF/BF debate that I care about is that people have support for whatever choice they make.
ETA: "have support" = "are supported by their partners/society/whatever." Not support like I care if they have sources or something to back up their argument. Just in case that wasn't clear.
Plus, part of me thinks many of the supposed benefits are overblown.
I BFed for more than a year, but I also supplemented without guilt. I hated pumping at work. I needed to set limits for my own sanity. For someone else, that line might be 100% formula. :::shrug:::
I don't really blame those that voted No for not coming forward, they know that no good comes from the FF/BF debate. I know who some of the people that chose that option are and I don't hate them for it because while I know that's what they believe, I also know they are good people that are not throwing shade at the moms that choose to FF from day 1.
I thought "Everyone should at least try" before I went through BF hell myself and realized the complexities of the issue.
I hate when people say you should at least try. Why? Why should you at least try if you don't want to?
Nobody has shamed me for FF irl (or really online either), but one of my FB friends advised Kate Middleton (lol) to at least try breastfeeding. And my mom did say a few times while we were talking about bf that she couldn't relate to how much I hated it.
eta: I do think the vast majority of people don't really care what other people do.
Amen. The beginning is the absolute worst part. Why on earth put yourself through that?! Nope. FF away, mamas.