Unpopulars/Flameworthies/Confessions?

[aurora]

I guess my flameworthy is that I spent a bit of time trying to figure out what was going on at ML. Then I gave up and came back here.

I'm happy to be boring.

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Oct 31, 2014 14:36:30 GMT -5 aurora said:

I guess my flameworthy is that I spent a bit of time trying to figure out what was going on at ML. Then I gave up and came back here.

I'm happy to be boring.

I'm right here with you. The drama and the fast pace are too much for the amount of time I want to put into GBCning. MM 4 lyfe

[aurora]

Oct 31, 2014 15:09:41 GMT -5 nuggetbrain said:

....so lemme get this straight. People on ML who are all "I am so glad I don't post on MM!" are bad, however the multiple posters in here who are all "I'm so glad I don't post on ML!!" is totes cool?

I won't try to speak for anyone else, but instead of calling ML boring I called myself boring (and maybe dumb, since I couldn't figure it out).

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Oh s/o ml drama....

I love giving BJ's. Not sure why Kore got flack for giving them so frequently. Admittedly, I'm not entirely sure of her story.

[lindyanne]

Oct 31, 2014 13:16:32 GMT -5 v said:

Oct 31, 2014 13:14:18 GMT -5 @ruralrabbit1 said:

I like being called ma'am. I also like it when a guy calls me honey or baby. I don't find it degrading, but I can understand why some do.

I don't ever want to be called ma'am.  Ma'am is for olds and I don't want to be an old

Funny, I don't mind ma'am after spending some time in the south but I want to curb stomp anyone who calls me honey or sweetie.

[v]

Oct 31, 2014 15:31:18 GMT -5 lindyanne said:

Oct 31, 2014 13:16:32 GMT -5 v said:

I don't ever want to be called ma'am.  Ma'am is for olds and I don't want to be an old

Funny, I don't mind ma'am after spending some time in the south but I want to curb stomp anyone who calls me honey or sweetie.

I don't mind "honey" or "sweetie" (probably because my mom uses them both constantly, to anyone), but if you're calling me something that starts with an m I'd really like it to be "miss."  

"Babe" or "baby" is not okay from strangers.

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Oct 31, 2014 15:09:41 GMT -5 nuggetbrain said:

....so lemme get this straight. People on ML who are all "I am so glad I don't post on MM!" are bad, however the multiple posters in here who are all "I'm so glad I don't post on ML!!" is totes cool?

I post on both, so that's not me saying that. I consider MM my "home" board since that's where I started, but I read and comment on both boards almost daily. I'm also on SO a lot so IDK if I should even consider anything my primary board anymore.

I think the difference is that we (or at least, I) were talking about people who used to be primarily MM posters now basically saying they are too cool for this board. I don't think anyone who was a ML regular has adopted MM as their primary board and said they are so glad they left those losers behind. 

I think there are a lot of smart, interesting, funny women on both boards. I actually don't think they are as different as people act like they are, other than that ML has some more outspoken posters and is a larger board in general so accordingly ends up with more drama.  

[emilyinchile]

Oct 31, 2014 12:52:06 GMT -5 kadams767 said:

Oct 31, 2014 12:01:33 GMT -5 toledo said:

I can't believe I have to point out the obvious difference here: Gypsy and I are not BFFs.
She dislikes me and is demonstrably crazy.

now back to your minion talk, lol.

I'm not discounting your beef with Gypsy.  I am just saying that, in reality, I say crap like that all the time, and not only about my BFFs or husband.  It honestly never even occurred to me if I said something to a friend along the lines of "OMG, if my boss doesn't stop acting like such a jerk, I'm going to throat-punch him", that someone would take that seriously.  Hence my wondering now how many people I've said something like that to who now think I am a total nutto. 

Yeah, this is essentially where I am. I understand toledo being pissed/upset/weirded out by the comment because it was about her, but I don't put what I consider to be a throwaway "ugh, I can't stand this person, [insert hyperbole]" comment up there on anywhere near the same level of as the booby trolling and Jezebel under-the-bus-ing, and it seems as though some people do.

[L]

I read that entire ML thread..damn! Let's just say I'm glad I never gtg with the ML CO people...and while I'm not nuts & there are some nice people, I will say there are a high proportion of crazies here it seems. Our local board had some pretty vicious people on it at one time.

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Oct 31, 2014 15:41:51 GMT -5 v said:

Oct 31, 2014 15:31:18 GMT -5 lindyanne said:

Funny, I don't mind ma'am after spending some time in the south but I want to curb stomp anyone who calls me honey or sweetie.

I don't mind "honey" or "sweetie" (probably because my mom uses them both constantly, to anyone), but if you're calling me something that starts with an m I'd really like it to be "miss."  

"Babe" or "baby" is not okay from strangers.

I use "babe" for strangers. Or hunny, lamb, Pumpkin, doll, etc. I'm a huge nickname / pet name person.

[v]

Oct 31, 2014 15:59:51 GMT -5 @blissoff said:

Oct 31, 2014 15:41:51 GMT -5 v said:

I don't mind "honey" or "sweetie" (probably because my mom uses them both constantly, to anyone), but if you're calling me something that starts with an m I'd really like it to be "miss."  

"Babe" or "baby" is not okay from strangers.

I use "babe" for strangers. Or hunny, lamb, Pumpkin, doll, etc. I'm a huge nickname / pet name person.

I should have said, from a male stranger.  I'd be okay with it from a woman.

If a stranger called me "lamb," I would probably assume the stranger was insane.   Regardless of gender.

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Oct 31, 2014 16:03:10 GMT -5 v said:

Oct 31, 2014 15:59:51 GMT -5 @blissoff said:

I use "babe" for strangers. Or hunny, lamb, Pumpkin, doll, etc. I'm a huge nickname / pet name person.

I should have said, from a male stranger.  I'd be okay with it from a woman.

If a stranger called me "lamb," I would probably assume the stranger was insane.   Regardless of gender.

Lol. I always say "be a lamb and grab me....".

[kadams767]

I dying at the idea of Gypsy and Wandering making shanks together. Nice, @songforyou. Nice.

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Stan thank u for making me bust out laughing.

[orangeblossom]

This is so not like me, but I'm slightly smug and too bad, so sad, that MIL had found herself in a bind.

Her car was totaled, and she owes more than what it's worth. She's called us asking for help. We're strapped tight at the moment, and really can't do it, and to be honest, I don't really want to.

She didn't need that brand new car, especially after DH helped to get her a working car (time and money). We would never say "I told you so", but we tried to ask why she was getting such an expensive car, and she responded "because she deserved it". Okay , then.

I'm not totally heartless, as I thought about it, there may be one sure we could give her some money, without it hurting us, but in the end it'll be up to DH.


ETA: I'm not happy her car was totaled and all of the stress that goes along with it, because that sucks. I'm glad she's okay, I'm just over being the default for help, for messes of her own making.

[AAM2012]

I ordered an assortment of cookies, brownies and cupcakes from a bakery that are all gluten free for work. Total price/ $140!!!!!!! I should have just got them from a normal store but we were going to this bakery for breakfast and I had no idea how expensive they were.

Instead of backing out of the order I just paid. I was so embarrassed of the price I refused to use my corporate card for the entire purchase and paid out of pocket for a good portion of them.

[Ohhmm(bligo)]

Is anyone still very surprised that ML is agog that someone would remain friends with someone like Gypsy?

WE'RE ONLY HERE TO HELP.

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Nov 1, 2014 20:49:35 GMT -5 Ohhmm(bligo) said:

Is anyone still very surprised that ML is agog that someone would remain friends with someone like Gypsy?

WE'RE ONLY HERE TO HELP.

I'm not sure why anything surprises anyone on these boards.

Someone on the interwebs went batshit crazy, shocker.

[lemons]

Oct 31, 2014 10:56:56 GMT -5 BeagleMama said:

Each week a friend posts a photo with the "count" of how old her baby is on Instagram and Facebook.

We're on week 32.

Dear God, make it stop.

Now that takes dedication and commitment! 32 weekly pics?!

[v]

Nov 2, 2014 9:21:50 GMT -5 @sfgal530 said:

Nov 2, 2014 8:50:35 GMT -5 lemons said:

Now that takes dedication and commitment! 32 weekly pics?!

I've heard of people posting a photo of their baby every day for the first year of life.

Again, I stand by my previous statements that your entire social network is not THAT interested in your child. If you want to do that shit, use privacy filters and set it so that only you and your H and a select group of family can see it.

Oh yes -- I know someone who did a picture of her kid every school day for years (all marked with "day [   ]").  The kid was in grade school at that point so it isn't even like he was changing that much.

[v]

Nov 2, 2014 9:35:38 GMT -5 @songforyou said:

My nephew was 5 months yesterday and my sister and my BIL have taken no less than 100 pictures of him.  They have a photostream for just immediate family on both sides and my sister's two best friends.  At this point, if 3-4 days pass without a picture, I'm texting her to find out if her camera is broken (in addition to our weekly FaceTime sessions).  Long-distance aunting is brutal, I need those pictures lol!  I still don't think any of us are foolish enough to believe anyone else cares about seeing 5+ pictures a week of this kid.  I'm actually surprised her friends even care, but they seem pretty engaged. 

This I find completely appropriate.  You have to consider your audience.  I'm happy to see as many photos as my sister/cousin/closest friends want to share of their kids, so if they want to clog up a photo stream or instagram or whatever with those photos, go ahead and you'll get zero judgment from me.  

But people should be much more restrained when sharing things with several hundred Facebook friends, many of whom they probably were never close friends with and haven't spoken to in years.

[sh10]

I post weekly pictures of my kid, though I plan to stop at one. I love to scrapbook, so I use the pictures for that, and we live far from both of our (large) families. In addition to the weekly pics, I also post a lot on our photo stream. I love kid pictures, and I love seeing other friends' kids.

Here's the flameful, maybe only on MM, I would much rather see kid pictures than dog pictures.

[Pom]

Nov 3, 2014 8:40:31 GMT -5 nuggetbrain said:

I like ML, because they have repeatedly turned the same level of intensity we have towards drama to helping a poster in need and defending them when they've been wronged. Anybody who thinks ML is just about the drama and people yelling at each other and being "mean girls" obviously hasn't really spent any good amount of on there.

You are right, there are some wonderful, supportive things that happen on ML.  I admit to lurking when shit gets slow over here and I can't sleep.  It beats the shit out of thinking about my IRL drama. I don't post very often there because I have seen the whole WTF are you ? call outs and honestly, I am too exhausted to engage in that.  I get why everyone is angry at Gypsy (who I liked from way back, BTW) but I've seen nutty posters on both boards and The Nest since I've been around since 2005. It's really not ALL that shocking. I have really come to love many posters like you, Sue Sue, Nomad100, and I think there are plenty of smart, funny, wise women who can offer much to both MM and ML.  I think it's sad that some of the old regulars have not only left but talk regular shit about MM like they are too cool for it, but whatever.  It's fine to move on.

All I want to say is that I hope more posting gets done by all parties, on any board that suits their fancy.  It doesn't have to be a kiss-ass fest, but it's nice when there can be discussion without hostility.   


 

[BeagleMama]

Nov 3, 2014 9:17:04 GMT -5 sh10 said:

I post weekly pictures of my kid, though I plan to stop at one. I love to scrapbook, so I use the pictures for that, and we live far from both of our (large) families. In addition to the weekly pics, I also post a lot on our photo stream. I love kid pictures, and I love seeing other friends' kids.

Here's the flameful, maybe only on MM, I would much rather see kid pictures than dog pictures.

Well, considering I don't have a kid - everyone gets to see my dog. 

[Deleted]

I don't really understand the jabs that people take at entire boards.

This goes for MM and ML. There are some wonderful people on ML, but I don't understand the constant hard on that a few posters have for making fun of MM. Likewise, a few MM'ers do the same.

And I also think the jabs made at shoegal in the wandering witch hunt post were uncalled for, but again, someone who can't get rid of their MM erection.

[kadams767]

Nov 3, 2014 9:55:00 GMT -5 papiercherri said:

I don't really understand the jabs that people take at entire boards.

This goes for MM and ML. There are some wonderful people on ML, but I don't understand the constant hard on that a few posters have for making fun of MM. Likewise, a few MM'ers do the same.

And I also think the jabs made at shoegal in the wandering witch hunt post were uncalled for, but again, someone who can't get rid of their MM erection.

I have to agree with the part about Shoegal.  I think someone called her boring, which really, was not only totally uncalled for, but completely false.  @shoegal leads a pretty damn impressive life and has some awesome traveling adventures.  I don't know many people who would find her boring.  

[mrshandy]

I try to stay out of drama, but insulting whole boards is silly. Variety is the spice of life. If you don't like a board, don't post.

[Deleted]

Wait...am I getting slammed on the boards somewhere!? WTF!

ETA: nuggetbrain, I am pretty obsessed with early retirement so you are probably thinking about me 

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nuggetbrain yeah that is totally me with my state of the union meetings You made my day with that suggestion to write a book - I totally want to spend my entire second career (in retirement) helping people better manage their money. I am just a little passionate about $$$$$

[aurora]

Nov 3, 2014 12:38:06 GMT -5 @shoegal said:

Wait...am I getting slammed on the boards somewhere!? WTF!

ETA: nuggetbrain, I am pretty obsessed with early retirement so you are probably thinking about me 

Someone said something about how negative you are, but then someone else pointed out that they clearly have the wrong person.  So, I think it was more of a case of mistaken identity.