Annoying.

[berbles]

Friends of BF's are having a party tonight.  The invite repeatedly says NO RANDOMS - Please check with the hosts before bringing anyone.

My girlfriend was telling me she didn't have Halloween plans, so I told her I'd check with them.  They know her.  Host says of course she can come (as long as she's in costume!).  So I tell her she's welcome to come, and send her the FB invite.

Then she tells me, "Oh I'm hanging out with this new guy tonight, so I'm going to bring him.  He's been to the bar, so [insert people the hosts know but who will not be at the party] know him."  

Dude.  No.  You can't bring some new dude you just started dating to a party that specifically and repeatedly says DO NOT BRING PEOPLE WE DON'T KNOW.  

What the FUCK.


This is not the first time this friend has made bizarre and selfish assumptions w/r/t social events.  This is the same friend who gets herself dropped off to events and just assumes I will drive her home, without first asking me if I can/want to (thereby leaving me in the position of either driving her home or leaving her alone).  

Oh, and she wants me to help her get "party favors*."  For tonight.  NO.  I HAVE PLANS.  Stop last-minuting me!  

*I'm not side-eyeing that she wants them or that she needs my help getting them.

[lexxasaurus]

Oh hell no. My ex used to do this. We'd be going to someone's house for a party or whatever and he's like "Oh, and so and so is coming with us". WTF? No. They do not know him. I'm not bringing your fucking junkie friends to OUR friends house. Because why? Because he's likely to steal their shit and do damage and then I WILL NEVER BE INVITED BACK. Or we'll show up and they'll be like "bitch, no" and you've ruined everyone's night.

...it was obviously one of our more heated topics. Lol.

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Not cool of her.

[berbles]

Oh I told her no. She understood. I'm just annoyed at her even presuming, after I had already told her I had to ask if she could even come, and I know the hosts know her.

[mcc]

I get it, although I'm often the other person brought along so I always appreciate a "more the merrier" attitude and try to adopt it when I host as well. I understand wanting a party where you know everyone though with a guarantee that it won't turn into some frat house rager.

[jojoandleo]

That is annoying. If her approach had been, "hey, will you also ask if X can come?" I still would have been a bit annoyed, but less so than her assumption she can just bring him.

A party I went to this weekend had some randoms show up who annoyed the shit out of me. Then, when they left, they asked the host if they could take my almost full bottle of vodka. She was all, "Uhhh, it's not mine, I can't tell you you can take it." Who asks to take alcohol they did not bring home with them from a party they were not invited to? Really, who asks to take alcohol home with them from a party? SO WEIRD! So, I can kind of get the "no unapproved randoms" thing.

[berbles]

Nov 3, 2014 9:54:11 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

That is annoying. If her approach had been, "hey, will you also ask if X can come?" I still would have been a bit annoyed, but less so than her assumption she can just bring him.

A party I went to this weekend had some randoms show up who annoyed the shit out of me. Then, when they left, they asked the host if they could take my almost full bottle of vodka. She was all, "Uhhh, it's not mine, I can't tell you you can take it." Who asks to take alcohol they did not bring home with them from a party they were not invited to? Really, who asks to take alcohol home with them from a party? SO WEIRD! So, I can kind of get the "no unapproved randoms" thing.

JFC!  People are so ballsy.

I just wanted to update that she texted me this morning and apologized for asking.