Post by undecidedowl on Oct 31, 2014 20:58:26 GMT -5
Ugh. I'm such a huge mess. We brought DS2 home from the hospital last night and I had been feeling so great and confidant as a second time mom. Well, not anymore. My boobs are killing me, my nipples are trashed, DS1 isn't handling the transition well, and I keep forgetting to take care of myself. Oh, and my mom was going to stay and help our first few nights home but since we were in the hospital longer than expected she decided to go ahead and leave tonight. I feel ridiculous but I am so overwhelmed I have just been crying the past hour.
Ohhh YES it gets better. Deep down I bet you know that but when you're in the middle of it all and post partum hormones are messing with you it's hard to remember that. [[Hugs]] Take care of yourself!
It will get better!! As other have said those hormones really suck! You will soon be in a new routine and everyone will get used to the new addition. Take care of yourself, especially now!
I don't know how it is to have a baby AND a toddler, but the infant stuff DOES get better. You're allowed to be a mess right now. You just had a baby. *hugs* Hang in there.
“Life is not orderly. No matter how we try to make it so, right in the middle of it lose a leg, fall in love, drop a jar of applesauce.” - Natalie Goldberg
It will get better! Try to take a nap or do something to take care of yourself for a bit. I know it's easier said than done, but I remember feeling very similar after DD was born and even taking a long hot shower by myself was big boost for my sanity!
Post by JayhawkGirl on Oct 31, 2014 22:21:18 GMT -5
You can do this. I promise, you can totally do this. Make sure you and the baby eat and sleep. Keep chugging yor water. Plug in a dvd for your older child and keep pressing play. You got this!!
Post by undecidedowl on Nov 1, 2014 1:30:13 GMT -5
Thanks for the encouragement, everyone. It really helps, especially knowing that others struggle too. My neighbor came over with her newborn talking about how well everything was going and it made me feel like I'm doing it all wrong because DS2 is having all the same problems that DS1 did (jaundice, bad latch, etc.)
@supergreen DH took this week off unpaid while we were in the hospital so he is here. I know I'm borrowing trouble worrying about what next week will be like. I think I'm trying to do too much. I feel better when I'm productive but I'm getting no sleep and the hormones are starting to take over.
Hugs! I'm right there in the trenches with you and it's still an emotional ride.
My two year old has decided that my nursing his brother is an act of treason against him personally. Fifty percent of the time it cues a major meltdown and on Thursday, everyone is tears. I keep telling myself that I know what the outcome will be: DS2 will sleep through the night, he will not starve, he will learn to BF and I latch onto the confidence of knowing I've had DS1 for 25 months.
I'm trying to savor the baby moments, DS2 is one week, because I don't know if I'll have another baby.
And other moments, I think WTF have we done?!?! Hugs, I know that it will get better in my logical head, but trying to hold on to that through the mess of PP hormones combined with the stress of worrying about both my babies (DS1 and DS2) something's feels impossible. You are doing a great job!!
Post by zeewifeandmama on Nov 1, 2014 5:39:16 GMT -5
Our transition from a family of three to a family of four was... Not graceful. My three year old was not into it, she only wanted me, and DS was much, much fussier than DD had been. It was rough. I can remember sending an email to one of my friends in the middle of the night asking if I had just broken my family. In the end though, hormones leveled out, we all got used to each other and all was ok. It will all be ok! ::: hug:::
((Hugs)) I'm 3 weeks out with#2 and felt the exact same way as you those first nights home. My mom left early ,DS1 was jumping all over me while trying to nurse, zero sleep and just felt like crap. I felt like I was in a complete fog the first week home. Take help wherever you can, don't try to do too much. It will get better.
Those first days are so hard and the hormones make it all feel worse. It will get better, I promise. Just try to rest as much as possible and know that you are doing a great jobĂ·
Post by thatgirl2478 on Nov 1, 2014 10:09:21 GMT -5
you have a lot to get through right now, but it does get better!!
can you have someone come in and just bring the baby to you when he needs to eat so you can sleep during the 'off' time? I know that if I don't get enough sleep even the little things get ridiculously overwhelming.