When you had your first fertility appointment

[redshockz]

Did you feel like you were trying to sell you on a certain procedure?

Did you feel as though they could have suggested something other than IVF or another procedure?

How is your spouse during the whole entire meeting?

Did you beat yourself up as they go through the whole entire process of how the female anatomy is more complex in this process verses the male?

I apologize, I am a total lurker and just I'm rushing in and don't know anybody in this place in real life.

[King26]

I did not feel liek they were trying to sell me a certain procedure. My RE went over all the possible things we could do including medication, IUI's and IVF. We finally decided on medicated IUI's before anything else. My husband was quiet and really shocked during the entire thing. I had researched a lot and knew most of what the doctor was saying but my husband did not.
I wouldn't say I beat myself up over the process. It gets me down, and sometimes I think why is this happening to me, but we are unexplained so there's nothing to get down about.

[boiler717]

No, my RE really left the decision up to us, just gave us info about our options. Really everything was on the table for our diagnosis.

I've had my diagnosis for 9 years before TTC, so I had a long time to come to terms with it. I never really blamed myself -- there's nothing I did to cause it, it's just the luck of the draw.

[montywho]

I did not feel like he was selling me on anything. I went in there with some knowledge (because of this place really) and I was the one who actually suggested I might have a luteal phase defect and he was quick to give me progesterone suppositories. I left there feeling like a totally different person and much more positive and like there was hope. That was in July and I am still not pregnant. I just had an iui last week. But no he never suggested any procedures until months later.

Do not feel pressured into doing anything you don't want to do. I would listen to what he has to say but there is a lot of time, money and emotions involved and you have to do what is best for you.

[ouokie]

My first appt was really to go over test results and to get a better sense on what might be happening. She also did an ultrasound and blood work. We did talk about what our options would be and decided to start with Clomid and see how that would go.

[shauni27]

My first real appointment with the RE was two weeks ago--at the 11 month mark. She is so patient and answered all of our questions. She gave us lots of information and suggested one thing (iui) but told us of all the next and possible steps.

My husband was there but he said he felt really overwhelmed with all of the acronyms, especially since I already knew them. With our follow up appointment he felt a lot better.

[ghostmonkey]

Did you feel like you were trying to sell you on a certain procedure? Absolutely not. A few potential options were discussed, but he was not even close to even suggesting anything until we got test results back.

Did you feel as though they could have suggested something other than IVF or another procedure? He didn't feel that IVF would be necessary for us at that point as my tubes were clear and there were no sperm issues. The only other option really is medications and IUI or TI.

How is your spouse during the whole entire meeting? He was fine and happy to be there to hear things explained and be able to ask questions directly.

Did you beat yourself up as they go through the whole entire process of how the female anatomy is more complex in this process verses the male? Not at all. Are you positive doing testing and treatment is a step you are mentally ready to take? We put ours off a while because we weren't ready emotionally. There's nothing wrong with that.

[belovedbride07]

Did you feel like you were trying to sell you on a certain procedure?
 Did you feel as though they could have suggested something other than IVF or another procedure?
No. It was pretty clear based on DH's numbers that TI/IUI were not viable options. However, the doctor made it clear that the choice was ours; we could start with IUI if we wanted, but he really recommended we go straight to IVF, which is what we did.


How is your spouse during the whole entire meeting?
DH has been very involved in the whole process. In fact, he tends to handle most of the questions during emotionally charged RE appointments (the initial one, and then all of the subsequent follow-ups after failed cycles) because he is able to hold it together more than I can.


Did you beat yourself up as they go through the whole entire process of how the female anatomy is more complex in this process verses the male?
I'll conjecture "no," but I'm not that sure I understand the question. Are you asking if I blamed myself? Or just generally lamented the fact that the female body is more complex in reproductive matters?

You've posted a couple times now, and have seemed very unsettled by this whole situation. Would you like to share your story? You could do that here or on Trouble TTC; I get the impression you are feeling a little lost in this experience, and maybe we could explain some things.

[fluffydamn]

Did you feel like you were trying to sell you on a certain procedure?

-no not at all. He explained to use why we should go straight to ivf/icsi. DH has bad motility and morph. We only have 3% normal forms. The first SA before he took vitamins was 0% normal forms. I also have endometriosis. He made us feel secure in the decision and had a lot of medical info about us to back up why we should do ivf/icsi

Did you feel as though they could have suggested something other than IVF or another procedure?

- not really. If we were to do iui, he said with DHs issues that we would be lucky if he got enough good sperm to do it. May have enough but what are their morphs so to speak.

How is your spouse during the whole entire meeting?
-he was silent and just soaking it all in. He didn't know what to really say.

Did you beat yourself up as they go through the whole entire process of how the female anatomy is more complex in this process verses the male?

-no because I knew going in what was going on.