How bad would this be?

[snipsnsnails]

Haha, it would be a little weird given the lead-up, but if your DH is a-ok with it, aloha, baby.

[8675309]

See I would kind of be bummed that my mom had a timeshare and didn't invite my family too. Is your brother single? Why does he get the free vacation. I'm such a brat that I'd be jealous!

Oh and no, I would not go without my family without feeling super duper guilty.

[livinitup]

I sent DH to go to Florida with his brother to see his parents for 5 days.

I see no problem with you doing the same in HI.

[So_Fetch]

I believe your DH just gave the go ahead. DO IT!

[8675309]

Call your brother and ask him if he'd care. He might want to bring back some Hawaiian beauties and you're going to ruin his game. LOL!J/K

Hey man, if your hubby says do it, I'd be allllll over it. I think my H would be supportive too but it doesn't mean I wouldn't feel guilty a tiny bit.

Mom's deserve a break too so go for it.

PS: Can you see how ALL over the place my response is? This is why I understand your tough position.

[hopecounts]

I would totally go.
DH has an annual Guy's weekend with his buddies and I would see this as no different and would feel no guilt in going.

[sugarbear]

Take me with you.

I mean... Not bad at all.

[bluemonster]

GO!! Ok, that's what I would say but I would feel guilty as crap. DH would go w/out a second thought, so I think I should too.

[ECB]

Nov 14, 2014 16:45:10 GMT -5 hopecounts said:

I would totally go.
DH has an annual Guy's weekend with his buddies and I would see this as no different and would feel no guilt in going.

Exactly. My DH would kick me out the door!!

[pixy0stix]

... and you're bringing your friend who would be happy crashing on the floor.

[otowngirl]

What about bringing just one of the girls?

[mellymel]

I could not do it to DH, but he's a SAHD and he does tons of time by himself with the kids, obv. I wouldn't be able to live with myself, LOL. I would probably send DH!

[RoxMonster]

Looks like you got the go ahead from your H!

I don't have kids, so it's kind of hard for me to answer, because I would feel like not that bad at all about going without my H haha. He could fend for himself a few days, eat lots of wings, watch sports all the time and not clean while I was gone and would probably be content.

[shell24]

Well I'm going to Florida in February for 5 days and leaving my H home with 3 kids sooooo..

My answer is to go lol

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Nov 14, 2014 17:52:41 GMT -5 otowngirl said:

What about bringing just one of the girls?

I love this idea

I would take my DS with me if this was me

[mmmomof2]

Could you leave the girls with your in-laws and take DH to Hawaii?

[jane6672]

DO IT.

If he has the chance to do a fun trip later, you encourage him to go. You have the all clear on this!

[datass]

Wait. If it is a time share, can't you all go when they're not using it? FTR I am for you going sans family.

[littlepeanut]

I would be going. Have fun!

[sequins]

You are going to have so much fun!!

[bronxgirl]

Have a great time!

[sofamonkey]

Honestly, I think it's kind of lame. You will be on a couch or rooming with you brother? And you invited yourself. What were they supposed to say when you took them off guard? Probably not what they were thinking.

I mean, if you need a break, take one. But don't do it this way. It's kind of selfish & entitled TBH.

[marylennox]

I'm kind of torn. If I were you, I would want to go. If I were your H, I would not want you to go, and honestly, while I wouldn't stop you, I would probably feel a little shitty about it if you did.

I think if you do go, he gets to take a vacation of his own later on while you stay home with the kids. Which is a situation I wouldn't want, so guess I probably wouldn't go. Lol.

[pantsparty]

I go home all the time to see my family without my H. Of course, we don't have kids, but it's a lot of fun reconnecting without being distracted by him. LOL. You are so rarely together as adults, I say take this opportunity.

[pantsparty]

Geez, more than one person I wouldn't want to be married to in this post. Yikes.

[hisno1girl]

Nov 15, 2014 0:51:21 GMT -5 pantsparty said:

Geez, more than one person I wouldn't want to be married to in this post. Yikes.

Right?

Boner killers!

[sofamonkey]

Nov 15, 2014 0:59:06 GMT -5 farmvillelover said:

we are a pro separate vacation household.

go and enjoy, and give him a pass if he wants to go on a long weekend away without you guys sometime soon too

We are too here, and we don't do the "but you owe me one later" thing, because it is lame.  Get out when you need to. 

[marylennox]

We are pro solo vacations and have both taken them. But we don't have kids. So, I don't know, I just imagine I would not enjoy being home alone all week with two kids while H was on vacation, so I tried to factor that into my response. Maybe it's nbd.

[irishbride2]

I take trips with my family alone. Nbd. In fact I think it is healthy and good for my side of th family. Sometimes it's nice just to have your blood family spend some time together.

[shell403b]

1. Your husband is funny. I like his responses.
2. I would go. Sayonara family. Or rather "Aloha family, Mahalo for being cool (breezy?) with me going!"
3. H and I are going to Kauai in January for H's work. jenny1980, any recs? We are staying at the Hyatt property there.

ETA--I have no idea why #3 is italicized.