Since someone asked and the episode is already online, here's a screen shot of me as a dead zombie (hello boobs), haha! It's not much, but it's exciting to me because last year I filmed two days and didn't make it to tv. This year I only filmed this one scene. I don't think this shows any spoilers. ETA: I kept staring at Daryl in between takes because....well duh! It was a night shoot and after the wrap, he said "good night babe" to me. ::swoon:: LOL!
Question y'all.....let's say you got an invite to watch the Walking Dead at a friend's house and the invite said something along the lines of "Hey, Walking Dead is this Sunday, watch with us, come around 730ish, show starts at 9".... Also, the invite is via word of mouth, or FB message. No official email or e-vite.
Would you as a guest think this is something casual and you would just show up to hang out and not expect much? If you were a host, you would have a couple of low-key snacks and a couple bottles of wine.
or
Would you as a guest think this is a party where there would be lots of food, plus many alcohol options? If you were a host, you would expect an RSVP from all invitees and want to know if they were bringing guests...you would expect to have lots of food options, plus multiple bottles of different types of wine and beer.
Or, is the invitation too casual and vague to know?
Okay, unanimous for #1, which makes me feel better. Story is, the WD episode I filmed over the summer is airing this sunday (I'll be a dead zombie on the ground if the shot doesn't get cut, haha), and I invited less than 10 people to come watch it. My intention was for it to be super casual and very low-key, come if you want, if you don't, that's cool, too....no worries. I told people either via word of mouth, or FB message.
My neighbor (who's also invited) went crazy on me today because I didn't ask people for an RSVP and guest head count. She said I needed to get a head count so I could prepare the appropriate amount of food and that I needed several bottles of wine, some chilled, and beer. I was trying to explain that it's not that formal of a party. I wanted it to be low-key and people could show up if they want, and if not, I'm fine with that, too. I was planning on serving a few snacks and have a few bottles of wine. She basically kept insisting that if I didn't do it the proper way, I was a bad host. Her argument was that I'm asking people to give up their Sunday night and spend it with me, during dinner time, no less. It got me frustrated enough that I decided to cancel the party because I'm not up to host a fancy party this week.
Now I'm mad at myself for being so influenced by her. I was looking forward to this for a couple of weeks. I told people the party is off. A couple of them, I said there was no formal party but if they wanted to watch it with me at 9, they're more than welcome. One friend was really disappointed and mad at my neighbor for making me feel this way. I also told her and she's welcome to watch at 9, but again, no formal party. Maybe I should've been more clear in the "invite."
ETA: I think I just needed unbiased internet validation that I'm not crazy for wanting to have a casual (poor etiquette, according to her) party to watch the show.
Post by mrs.jacinthe on Nov 14, 2014 17:49:50 GMT -5
You're not crazy. Your neighbor is. I mean, it's one thing to not have a formal head count on an NYE cocktail party (do people do those anymore?) or a more formal dinner party but "come watch tv with me" does not scream for formalities. For realz.
Dude, it's not dinner time. I mean, I routinely eat at 7:30/8, but I'm not the norm. I'd probably have a light dinner/snack around 6 in that case and then show up and have snacks.
It starts at 9. NINE! And people are being told to show up early and hang out if they want.
Plus, do you know how hard it is to get a proper head count from people?! Good luck tracking people down to RSVP. I'm also assuming that with 10 people, they are people you know pretty well and see on the regular and who are okay with casual get togethers.
I am mad at your neighbor for making you feel like that. Also, like msmerymac said, 7:30 is not dinner time for the vast majority of people. People should not expect a meal.
I wouldn't assume anything and would probably be confused, mainly because of the time. Coming that early makes my brain think that there would be some kind of food/snack/dessert.
I have been to too many gatherings at or near mealtimes that don't have anything to eat to make assumptions so I would call/email to see if you wanted me to bring anything, just to fish around for more information.
Uh...what? I'm sorry you felt the need to cancel your party over your nuts neighbor. I'd call all your friends back and say it's on. No sense in ruining your fun.
And does neighbor do that for every gathering/person she has over? For real?
Hmmm..I guess I'm pretty much a bad host about every other weekend then. Doesn't she just have friends over for a quick gathering/hang out/have a beer/let the kids play? That's 99% of my social life these days.
As for your neighbor...she seems...fun...to say the least. Casual and last minute is apparently not her strong suit.
For something like this, I would maybe grab some extra cookies and pretzels at the grocery and just open up the fridge. We always have a decent selection of soda and plenty of alcohol, but I don't bother specifically chilling wines and such. Good lord.
I don't find it an imposition to hang out with friends. I feel happy when they invite me over and really don't expect much but a seat, a glass of water and a reasonably clean bathroom. It's not a subpoena. If people don't want to watch Walking Dead, they stay home!
I love in Kansas City I think most people eat about 6 here.
Post by sailorgray on Nov 15, 2014 14:36:06 GMT -5
Call your friends back. Tell them it's on. You should be excited. Your neighbor needs to chill. I have a friend that would do the same exact thing. I mentioned her before on here and how I finally cut her out bc she was so opinionated and controlling and I was easily influenced by her.
Did this post remind anyone of the woman who used to post and D&R with the beautiful Victorian home. She was in NJ, I think. I just remember her getting really bent out of shape bc a friend wanted to bring a friend to her book club and was pissed bc she didn't want to have to make the friend's friend a personalized canvas bag or something. I think she got chased off the boards, but maybe she came back? Anyone?
Did this post remind anyone of the woman who used to post and D&R with the beautiful Victorian home. She was in NJ, I think. I just remember her getting really bent out of shape bc a friend wanted to bring a friend to her book club and was pissed bc she didn't want to have to make the friend's friend a personalized canvas bag or something. I think she got chased off the boards, but maybe she came back? Anyone?
I remember her. Her house was very girly and pink, right?
I am a real stickler for RSVPs and even I think this would be a slam dunk #1, and of course you should still have your get-together. If a friend invited me to this I would expect very little beyond getting together with friends and maybe a few snacks, and I would likely show up with some wine or beer in hand.
I enjoy reading all the replies! And I'm certainly glad to see I'm not the crazy one - she can be extremely intimidating and forceful in the moment and it caused me to doubt myself. She threw in something along the lines of "You're a classy woman and you should know better. You should've been raised this way and if you weren't, now you know." Or something to that effect.
Whatever. I feel bad complaining excessively about her because, in all honesty, she's a great person and has been a wonderful friend over the past year. But lately, I've about reached my limits of tolerance with her. She even warned me she gets extra crazy during the holidays because she's single and lonely. I've put a drastic filter on sharing personal bits from my life with her because I'm tired of her dramatic reactions.
I told her I was canceling the party and I told her friend, too. My friends - I told them just come watch the show at 9 and I'll have a few snacks. I don't know if she'll show up or not. I assume she will because usually it's the two of us watching each week, and if she does, great. Again, I maintain my "come if you want" stance.
ETA - She's been texting me like there's nothing wrong since last night and I've just been responding to very little. I'm not mad at her, per se, I'm mad at myself for being so easily influenced. But I think I need a break from her. Glad Thanksgiving break is coming up soon!
Post by spunkarella on Nov 15, 2014 23:25:32 GMT -5
Lurker chiming in, but #1 all the way.
We don't have cable, so we have a standing date at our friends' house to watch Walking Dead on Sundays. Sometimes we bring snacks and come a little early, but most of the time we roll in at 8:55 with our pajamas on. And that's how we all like it. I love that we have friends we can just chill and be our slovenly selves with.
I'm sorry you were made to feel so poorly. maybe next time don't invite this woman and don't tell her your plans so she can't be so rude.
we get/extend invites like this all the time. they are the least formal events in the world. we're watching TV for goodness sake! the host will usually have some snacks and beer on hand, but everyone else brings stuff too.
Post by whiskeytails on Nov 16, 2014 16:35:41 GMT -5
I'd love a follow-up post later this week with you pointing out which zombie you are! So neat! I want to ask questions but I don't want to be a spoiler.
Since someone asked and the episode is already online, here's a screen shot of me as a dead zombie (hello boobs), haha! It's not much, but it's exciting to me because last year I filmed two days and didn't make it to tv. This year I only filmed this one scene. I don't think this shows any spoilers.