how to find a good therapist?

[Deleted]

I guess that's what I'm looking for......?

My in-laws are a clusterfuck.

DH knows this, but he seems to be struggling with it a lot. I don't like my husband feeling guilty for enjoying life. We dont really associate with his family, but we still get random texts and voicemails. He's done everything but block their numbers. I don't think he can bring himself to do that yet.

He has family members who support him, and me, and even my parents who are aware of the situation and have assured him he's not doing anything wrong, but I think he really needs a professional to work through 37 years of emotional manipulation.

I don't think I personally know anyone who has been to therapy (or at least told me about it), so aside from personal recommendations, I'm not sure where to start.

[7costanza]

Does either of your employers have an EAP? That would be a great place to start, and they usually offer a few sessions free.

[DarcyLongfellow]

Start by finding someone who is covered by your health insurance. That will likely narrow the possible list considerably. Also, my insurance company lists all the providers and what areas they specialize in, so you could find someone who has experience working with the sorts of things he needs help with.

[sjh722]

Nov 19, 2014 12:42:29 GMT -5 DarcyLongfellow said:

Start by finding someone who is covered by your health insurance. That will likely narrow the possible list considerably. Also, my insurance company lists all the providers and what areas they specialize in, so you could find someone who has experience working with the sorts of things he needs help with.

This is how I would do it.

[Deleted]

Ask your GP or his GP. They will almost certainly have a recommendation.

Your insurance can provide a list then you can use the "find a therapist" feature on Psychology Today to read about their specialties and interests.

[Deleted]

the therapist did call me back that I contacted through my EAP, but that may have been a one-off.

[lys]

Your physician will have a recommendation

[davidavich]

Depending on where you are, there are several good online directories. The best in my opinion is Therapick where you can watch videos of therapists to get a sense of them before choosing the one to call. Notice I said "the one to call."  You should always call a therapist and interview them about how they can help you personally before making an appointment.  Remember, you're interviewing them for a job, not the other way around.  Therapick is www.therapick.com and there's also Psychology Today but there are so many therapists on there that it may be hard to narrow them down.

[Deleted]

Definately look at where they went to school and what training they have.

[tacosforlife]

You definitely know someone who has been to therapy. You just aren't aware. Depending on how comfortable you are putting this out there (and probably not very, since it's not for you), you could start asking around. You can even phrase it without directly asking someone if she's in therapy - "Hey, could you ask around your family and friends and see if anybody has a recommendation?" type of thing.

I went the all-out "fuck it" approach and posted a question on Facebook. I got several private recommendations, one of whom is my current (awesome) therapist.