Post by rockinrobyn on Nov 20, 2014 13:59:21 GMT -5
I believe SIL is trying to kick H and I out of Christmas this year! Please correct me if I am wrong. SIL is H's brothers wife, so it would be H's side of the family. Here is the except from the e-mail she wrote me:
Hey just wondering if you guys have thought about Christmas this year yet? We are switching it up because my sister is leaving Christmas day for Florida so we are going to do Christmas Eve with them this year. Didn't know what your Christmas Day plans were and it is dependent on what we do. I can either do Christmas Day here or we can do it there this year. If you are going to be gone to your Family or if your Family is going to be there, then I may just have MIL and FIL come for the day. Let me know your thoughts and we can go from there.
Post by spankswife on Nov 20, 2014 14:14:27 GMT -5
Hmmm...unless there is back story, I think she is just trying to make plans.
It sounds like if your family is coming, she can come to you, but she can't host all of you. Or if you will be with your family, she will have your ILs over.
Otherwise she is willing to host you, DH and his parents, or come to you and you host.
Post by rockinrobyn on Nov 20, 2014 14:17:59 GMT -5
Ok, I guess I am just jaded when it comes to her, because to me it sounds like, If you are going to be with your family on Christmas day and can't have Christmas at your house, then I will just have IL's here and you can stay with your family.
Post by newgirl412 on Nov 20, 2014 14:22:34 GMT -5
To me it sounds like "We cant do Christmas Eve and if Christmas Day is already reserved for your family, then that's all good...we will have MIL and FIL over to our house. If you are available Christmas Day, then lets decide what location we are having it."
Post by luv2rn4fun on Nov 20, 2014 14:22:44 GMT -5
I agree with spankswife. I didn't get any harmful intent vibes when reading what you posted. I think she's just trying to figure out what you and your DH are doing and provide options given certain pre-assumed scenarios.
Post by rockinrobyn on Nov 20, 2014 14:30:15 GMT -5
Maybe I took it out of context. For the last 8 years we have had H's family Christmas on Christmas Eve because that is the only day besides Christmas BIL has off. Because of that I always do Christmas Day with my parents. I just didn't want H and I to be kicked out of Christmas with his family because we would be with my family.
Post by Skyesthelimit1212 on Nov 20, 2014 15:07:27 GMT -5
If it were me and my sil then I'd agree with you lol, BUT as an outsider reading the email i agree with the above posters. To me it sounds like she's trying to be acomidative knowing normal traditions maybe have to be juggled around.
Does she usually do Christmas day with her sister/family?
Is it possible for you to host everyone so you get to see both?
She does Christmas with her side of the family Christmas day.
No, we are not that close. I will just host H's family Christmas day at my house.
I guess I am just upset because in the 8 years I have been going to Christmas with H's family, she has let me host once, and that was when she had her first child 5 days before Christmas. I was unable to host the rest of the time because all the baby stuff was at her house and it would have been too much trouble.
Post by spankswife on Nov 20, 2014 16:21:59 GMT -5
I'm sorry rockinrobyn - I can tell you're upset. I was just trying to be positive. Maybe you can start a new tradition where you see your family on x-mas eve and see your ILs on x-mas day. Or maybe this year is just a fluke.