OMG! Tell me if I'm wrong, please.

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gottadobe, she's given me a bit of grief with almost every serious bf I've had, but it was not this severe..except with xh and well, with him she had a reason.
It could be that she's angry that I don't accept her bf. The truth is, although he's not my favorite person, it was more the timing issue after my SD passed. Had she not acted loony and grieved and given herself time..maybe I wouldn't be so unaccepting.

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@pdx18, thanks!

[jojoandleo]

Nov 21, 2014 14:03:19 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

gottadobe, she's given me a bit of grief with almost every serious bf I've had, but it was not this severe..except with xh and well, with him she had a reason.
It could be that she's angry that I don't accept her bf. The truth is, although he's not my favorite person, it was more the timing issue after my SD passed. Had she not acted loony and grieved and given herself time..maybe I wouldn't be so unaccepting.

I don't know, the timing makes him shady to me. Like, predatory? She's a widow and that's when you pounce? No.

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Nov 21, 2014 14:09:04 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Nov 21, 2014 14:03:19 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

gottadobe, she's given me a bit of grief with almost every serious bf I've had, but it was not this severe..except with xh and well, with him she had a reason.
It could be that she's angry that I don't accept her bf. The truth is, although he's not my favorite person, it was more the timing issue after my SD passed. Had she not acted loony and grieved and given herself time..maybe I wouldn't be so unaccepting.

I don't know, the timing makes him shady to me. Like, predatory? She's a widow and that's when you pounce? No.

I have to agree.  If he had decided to keep in touch with her on a friendly basis (as they've known each other over 30 years) and then something came of it later, then I guess that would have been ok.  But it's like he just came by her house after the funeral and has been there ever since. That, in my book, was just plain disrespectful and disgusting.  Because of all of this, I really don't accept his presence.  She keeps telling me that he wants to win me over and me to love him.  Here's the deal...my father died when I was 5--so obviously I didn't have much time with him.   My stepfather, who took care of me as his own child for 23+ years of my life, who was equal to any great biological father out there and would have killed for me has died...I will never have another father.  I do not want or need another father figure.  They can't seem to understand this. 

[jojoandleo]

Nov 21, 2014 14:23:38 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

Nov 21, 2014 14:09:04 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

I don't know, the timing makes him shady to me. Like, predatory? She's a widow and that's when you pounce? No.

I have to agree.  If he had decided to keep in touch with her on a friendly basis (as they've known each other over 30 years) and then something came of it later, then I guess that would have been ok.  But it's like he just came by her house after the funeral and has been there ever since. That, in my book, was just plain disrespectful and disgusting.  Because of all of this, I really don't accept his presence.  She keeps telling me that he wants to win me over and me to love him.  Here's the deal...my father died when I was 5--so obviously I didn't have much time with him.   My stepfather, who took care of me as his own child for 23+ years of my life, who was equal to any great biological father out there and would have killed for me has died...I will never have another father.  I do not want or need another father figure.  They can't seem to understand this. 

Wait-she wants someone she just started dating to be a father figure to her adult daughter? LOLOLOL. No. You are an adult. At most, he would be a friend. 

Not only was it disrespectful, it seems really freaking creepy. Like he wanted to catch her while she was down and emotional. No good guy wants to date someone in a bad mental/emotional state. 

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Thanks pandora.  You're right about boundaries...being an adult is hard, especially when your parent acts child like.  I love my mom and always will...but she's making me insane! 

[LoveBug]

Omg, this is awful. I hope you know that you did nothing wrong here. It's your birthday and you should decide how to celebrate it. It seems like she is trying to manipulate you. I'm sorry.