Not feeling the love

[midnightmare81]

Do you ever feel like you worked so hard for something and when it finally starts to pay off no one seems to care but you? That's how I feel right now and I need to vent.

First off, I should say that my H is a great guy. Part of the reason I love him is because he has always pushed me to do better for myself without making me feel like what I was doing at the time wasn't good enough. My IL's took a while to accept me for reasons I won't go into but in part because they didn't think I would ever "be anything". While even now I'm not anywhere near where everyone here is, I feel like I have worked hard and progressed a lot from where I was only a yr and a half ago when we made the big move and really started our lives. Before this we were a little all over from moving across the country almost 6 years ago for a fun but dead end job to H joining the military and moving all over the country. I went to school and got my certificate in medical billing in prep for the "big move".

We moved down here and I got an entry level job with a major insurance company in the customer service center. Not glamorous at all and not very lucrative but it was a secure job with good benefits and the opportunity to move up. I drove an hour each way because the opportunity to work from home was an option in the future. I had worked in plenty of customer service jobs in the past but never in this type of environment and I struggled for the first 6 months under a very negative leadership. I hated my job so much I cried almost daily.

My manager changed in January and so did everything else. She is great and helped bring me out of my negative space and took me from almost losing my job to being a top performer almost instantly. I was one of only 3 people out of over 400 to be sent to training to add another line of business in March and after an adjustment period I am back in the top 5 again.

What's been the best though is I have received 3 raises totaling more then 20% of my original salary with another coming soon, a small promotion, a bonus tied to performance quarterly since I started, landed a WFH position, and just got my first pick of shift which is also attached to my performance. I also received a glowing review this year. WFH, the most recent raise and promotion, the review, and shift pick were all within the last month or so.

While I realize no one will be as excited about these things as I am, I barely get a congratulations even though everyone knows how hard I have worked and how much these seemingly little things mean to me. I am proud of myself, but it would be nice to feel like those closest to me recognize my hard work too. I know this is silly but I have put a ton of blood, sweat, and tears to get to where I am and have been one of the fastest to progress among my peers but it still isn't enough.
If you got through all that, have a drink with me :drink:

[bostonmichelle]

Congratulations!!! I'm very impressed it sounds like you have put a lot of hard work into this.

[steph96]

Congratulations! That is impressive!! I'm sorry everyone isn't being as supportive as you would have liked. I also recently got a huge promotion and raise in pay and my own mother didn't even tell me congrats or that she was proud. It really hurts. Don't let people make you feel less proud. What you did was great. Not many people are able to make the same advances that you did in the time that you did. You should be soo proud of yourself. I say you should celebrate. Go get a good bottle of champagne and do something that will make you happy!

[crashgizmo]

That's awesome! You should be very proud of yourself for the great things you've accomplished. It's such a great feeling!

[babsbunny]

Take note of the people that congratulate you as they are awesome people. Some of the others might be happy for you but are not sure if they should say anything (or how to say congrats). Lastly, some are simply jealous which is perfectly fine because business is about looking out for yourself first.

If someone has a kind soul, they will be happy for you. If someone is jealous, it could be healthy competition. If someone is mad, then they are not a nice person.

As long as you support others, never apologize for how well you are doing.

[midnightmare81]

Thanks everyone!

Sorry for the post and run. I had to do the dishes and clean up and ended up realizing I was more tired then I thought and went to bed early. I didn't really expect a response since no one really knows me here, I was more just needing to get it out. I appreciate everyone's comments so much! You guys are more excited for me then my own family. It feels good to hear from others that this isn't silly. It's not much in the grande scheme of things but we all start somewhere.

babsbunny- interesting perspective I would not have thought of myself. I will keep that in mind from now on! Thanks!

[karenj]

You kicked ass lady.  Congrats.  I am sorry that others are not realizing how great you have done.  For what its worth, I am proud of you.  You have done great.

[womet]

Damn girl, you are killing it at work! Congratulations!

[FishChicks]

You have every right to be super proud of yourself and to celebrate. If others aren't recognizing you and celebrating with you, that's their loss. Ignore them and feel great - you've earned it!

[Deleted]

Congrats! Your doing awesome! I'm sorry others aren't acknowledging that, but I'm glad you see it. Throw yourself a celebration in whatever way you see fit. Go out to supper, buy a bottle of wine, book a massage, whatever you want to do to celebrate, you deserve it.

[arch01]

Congrats-that's awesome!!

[sweetptater]

I think that's an awesome accomplishment! You go girl!

[cinnamoncox]

Good fir you! This is great. I'd be wicked proud of myself if I were you. Celebrate!

[miniroller]

Congratulations Lady!!! I know what you're saying about a HUGE accomplishment to you that gets a polite nod from others I've worked very hard on my inner self to not need/ want the praise that seems due me. It sounds like it sucks, but I sincerely am a much happier person not relying on others' recognition. And even better, when I DO receive praise for accomplishments, it now means a whole lot more, simply because it's somewhat unexpected.
Again, so well done!! Please don't get discouraged at lack of recognition for the awesome work you've done!!

[KaraOrNot]

You are doing awesome. Congrats on your accomplishments!

[rubytue]

You rock! Don't let anyone make you feel otherwise. We are proud of you

[imojoebunny]

You should be very proud of yourself. The best reward is living well, and it sounds like you are well down the path that you want to go on. Congrats!

[bugandbibs]

Wow, you have clearly worked hard!

[midnightmare81]

You guys are AWESOME! I didn't expect anyone to actually comment. Your words all mean more to me then I can say!

As for celebration, we are headed back home (NJ) for Thanksgiving tomorrow so I will celebrate by enjoying all the bagels, pizza, and diners I can while there! Best way of celebrating I can think of!