I'm seriously side-eyeing the chick on the SAHM-TB board who says she worries about money and whatnot but stays at home anyway. And her and her H are going to try for #2 in 2015.
If you're that worried about money, a) why are you SAH and b) why would you even consider having another kid who will undoubtedly cost you $250,000+ in the next 18 years?
@kimbus22 - DS woke up 3x last night because of teething. H slept through all of it, and then had the audacity to roll over and whine that DS woke him up at 5:30 this morning when he wanted to come in our bed and cuddle. I made H go sleep in the guest room, because I'm not tip-toeing around the house all morning.
Is it too early to drink? We've had a shittastic morning. Two tantruming kids when the bus arrives is no Bueno.
Us too I will join you. A sick baby fight over the correct spelling of the word reason (that I obviously changed the morning of the spelling test), and a shirt that was strangling my son. Add that to the fact that I get to eat three thanksgiving meals (not really eating just sitting) in the school cafeteria today and it is shaping up to be an amazing day.
I almost ended up on a Snapped episode last night. Mallory got up crying 5 times. Joey got up crying 2 times. DH slept through it all and was snoring like a fucking freight train any time I came back to bed and tried to sleep. I settled for punching his pillow really hard every time he made a noise and then pretending to be asleep when it would wake him up and he'd roll over to see what I wanted.
Wake his ass up! Seriously your DH is coming off as bad as haves lately.
Is it too early to drink? We've had a shittastic morning. Two tantruming kids when the bus arrives is no Bueno.
Us too I will join you. A sick baby fight over the correct spelling of the word reason (that I obviously changed the morning of the spelling test), and a shirt that was strangling my son. Add that to the fact that I get to eat three thanksgiving meals (not really eating just sitting) in the school cafeteria today and it is shaping up to be an amazing day.
That must make my FFFC that I am ridiculously excited to go to Mini's Thanksgiving feast today at Preschool. It's her first one and I can't wait to eat crappy turkey. I am sure in a few years I will be over this...but today..I am charging up the video camera and in total mom-dork mode.
Post by penguingrrl on Nov 21, 2014 9:29:48 GMT -5
We're really struggling with the girls in the morning lately. Emma has trouble waking up and moves so slowly that they've been late to school twice this week (under 5 minutes after the bell but still late). If one of us doesn't sit in her room with her making her get dressed she'll just sit there passive aggressively and not do anything, which hasn't been an option with H traveling this week and me trying to get all three ready. No amount of sticker charts or anything like that will get her motivated (we've tried) because she's just too tired. So now I'm not letting her eat breakfast until she's dressed on school mornings, which I don't love since she may get food on her clothes then.
But I also am of the mind that school starts too damn early, so it's not 100% her fault. Doesn't change that being late is unacceptable and that I'm riding her ass about it because it doesn't matter if it's hard. But school starts at 8 and left to her own devices Emma isn't up before 7:30-8 no matter how early she goes to bed (girl could fall asleep at 6 and would still sleep until 8). I would never tell her I feel this way because school and I are a united front, but I actually sympathize with her because it's really hard to wake up before your body's natural rhythm wakes you. It's something I've struggled with my whole life and still do.
We're really struggling with the girls in the morning lately. Emma has trouble waking up and moves so slowly that they've been late to school twice this week (under 5 minutes after the bell but still late). If one of us doesn't sit in her room with her making her get dressed she'll just sit there passive aggressively and not do anything, which hasn't been an option with H traveling this week and me trying to get all three ready. No amount of sticker charts or anything like that will get her motivated (we've tried) because she's just too tired. So now I'm not letting her eat breakfast until she's dressed on school mornings, which I don't love since she may get food on her clothes then.
But I also am of the mind that school starts too damn early, so it's not 100% her fault. Doesn't change that being late is unacceptable and that I'm riding her ass about it because it doesn't matter if it's hard. But school starts at 8 and left to her own devices Emma isn't up before 7:30-8 no matter how early she goes to bed (girl could fall asleep at 6 and would still sleep until 8). I would never tell her I feel this way because school and I are a united front, but I actually sympathize with her because it's really hard to wake up before your body's natural rhythm wakes you. It's something I've struggled with my whole life and still do.
Um, it sucks to get up earlier than you want to, but school starting at 8 isn't all that early. Or uncommon. How old is she? If I just sat and chose to do nothing just because I didn't feel like it in elementary school I wouldn't have time to fix my hair. Or eat breakfast. Sounds like maybe she needs to be woken up earlier to have time to wake up. My H can get out of bed and get straight in the shower, but I need 15 min to drink my coffee and sit on the couch before I actively start getting ready. Maybe she needs some built in wake up time.
Also, if she won't get dress alone in her room, what about making her get dressed where you are? So if you're making breakfast she has to bring her clothes into the kitchen and get dressed where you can see her?
But I have a hard enough time getting 2 kids ready, I don't know what the hell I'm going to do when there is a 3rd to get dressed and fed.
We're really struggling with the girls in the morning lately. Emma has trouble waking up and moves so slowly that they've been late to school twice this week (under 5 minutes after the bell but still late). If one of us doesn't sit in her room with her making her get dressed she'll just sit there passive aggressively and not do anything, which hasn't been an option with H traveling this week and me trying to get all three ready. No amount of sticker charts or anything like that will get her motivated (we've tried) because she's just too tired. So now I'm not letting her eat breakfast until she's dressed on school mornings, which I don't love since she may get food on her clothes then.
But I also am of the mind that school starts too damn early, so it's not 100% her fault. Doesn't change that being late is unacceptable and that I'm riding her ass about it because it doesn't matter if it's hard. But school starts at 8 and left to her own devices Emma isn't up before 7:30-8 no matter how early she goes to bed (girl could fall asleep at 6 and would still sleep until 8). I would never tell her I feel this way because school and I are a united front, but I actually sympathize with her because it's really hard to wake up before your body's natural rhythm wakes you. It's something I've struggled with my whole life and still do.
Um that's 30 minutes later than my kids go to school. I would light a fire under her ass. She obviously needs to go to bed earlier if she can't get up on time. I would make her get dressed then eat, sucks to miss breakfast.
Also, if she won't get dress alone in her room, what about making her get dressed where you are? So if you're making breakfast she has to bring her clothes into the kitchen and get dressed where you can see her?
But I have a hard enough time getting 2 kids ready, I don't know what the hell I'm going to do when there is a 3rd to get dressed and fed.
Eh it's not that bad. My kids have to be dressed before they eat. This morning DS was dragging ass. I dressed him in the kitchen and now he goes to bed thirty minutes earlier tonight because he couldn't do it. I get myself dressed and breakfast made before the kids are up so I only have to make sure they are dressed and fed, and nurse DS. It takes some time the night before, but the teacher in my will not let them be late for school. I figure a whole butt load of working moms can get out the door a hell of a lot earlier than me I can do it too.
We're really struggling with the girls in the morning lately. Emma has trouble waking up and moves so slowly that they've been late to school twice this week (under 5 minutes after the bell but still late). If one of us doesn't sit in her room with her making her get dressed she'll just sit there passive aggressively and not do anything, which hasn't been an option with H traveling this week and me trying to get all three ready. No amount of sticker charts or anything like that will get her motivated (we've tried) because she's just too tired. So now I'm not letting her eat breakfast until she's dressed on school mornings, which I don't love since she may get food on her clothes then.
But I also am of the mind that school starts too damn early, so it's not 100% her fault. Doesn't change that being late is unacceptable and that I'm riding her ass about it because it doesn't matter if it's hard. But school starts at 8 and left to her own devices Emma isn't up before 7:30-8 no matter how early she goes to bed (girl could fall asleep at 6 and would still sleep until 8). I would never tell her I feel this way because school and I are a united front, but I actually sympathize with her because it's really hard to wake up before your body's natural rhythm wakes you. It's something I've struggled with my whole life and still do.
Um, it sucks to get up earlier than you want to, but school starting at 8 isn't all that early. Or uncommon. How old is she? If I just sat and chose to do nothing just because I didn't feel like it in elementary school I wouldn't have time to fix my hair. Or eat breakfast. Sounds like maybe she needs to be woken up earlier to have time to wake up. My H can get out of bed and get straight in the shower, but I need 15 min to drink my coffee and sit on the couch before I actively start getting ready. Maybe she needs some built in wake up time.
She's 5. So far our mornings have consisted of a ton of screaming at her to get ready and a lot of tears on her end. She gets up at 6:45 and an hour isn't enough, but since she seems overtired waking her up earlier doesn't seem good either (but I can't imagine her being dressed and fed in less than an hour). She hasn't watched TV in weeks over it (TV is her only screen time), we've taken away favorite toys, we've moved bedtime earlier and so far nothing has helped. I'm hoping saying she can't sit and eat breakfast until she's ready for school motivates her.
Post by iheartthe80s on Nov 21, 2014 10:22:32 GMT -5
DD is on the bus at 6:50. Missing the bus is not an option. Does she pick out clothes the night before? DD usually dresses in the family room and we do hair and teeth in the kitchen. She gets distracted f she returns upstairs.
Also, if she won't get dress alone in her room, what about making her get dressed where you are? So if you're making breakfast she has to bring her clothes into the kitchen and get dressed where you can see her?
But I have a hard enough time getting 2 kids ready, I don't know what the hell I'm going to do when there is a 3rd to get dressed and fed.
That's a thought. We've been trying to teach them to get dressed in their room for privacy reasons but maybe she loses the privilege of sitting in her room.
Post by amynumbers on Nov 21, 2014 10:27:57 GMT -5
Also, I am Team LOL Put the Kid to Bed Earlier.
I can start the routine at 6, 7 or 8. DS1 is asleep at 9. His body clock gives absolutely zero fucks.
Like I said, there is nothing you can do about when school starts, but it's still dumb. I mean, some schools start at 7:30 am -- add on a long bus ride, and it's obviously not designed for optimal learning.
I can start the routine at 6, 7 or 8. DS1 is asleep at 9. His body clock gives absolutely zero fucks.
Like I said, there is nothing you can do about when school starts, but it's still dumb. I mean, some schools start at 7:30 am -- add on a long bus ride, and it's obviously not designed for optimal learning.
Right? I often turn the lights out in their room by 7:30 and Emma lays there awake because going to bed early and waking up early are just at odds with her natural biological rhythm.
Drew is going to rock at this school thing, though. He wakes up by 6:30 no matter what. He's the only one of my three who has ever naturally woken up early in his life. Until last year, when Julia started 1st and had to be at school at 8:05 nobody in our house except DH was ever stirring before 8 am.
The start time is an interesting discussion - right now it's our high schoolers that have to be out the door by 6:45 and the elem kids not until 8:15 (to catch the bus, school starts at 8:55). But there is a big movement to flip flop things so that the little guys start early & the high schoolers go in later. There are good reasons for everyone wanting the later start time - but everyone can't have the later start time. Times are staggered for bussing.
That's an aside. We had a lot of issues w/ DD1 last year in preschool but things are much better this year. Honestly, I think a big part of it is the bus. She's deathly afraid of missing the bus (even though I've explained I can easily drive her). When we're having a rough time, we pick out clothes the night before to help. We also eat first and get dressed afterwards. We have about an hour in the morning to get ready - and I try to let breakfast be the wake up, slower time so that they have 30 minutes to eat, goof off, etc. Then we get down to business & get dressed, hair, teeth. We do most of it downstairs so I can tend to all 3 more easily.
Is taking the bus an option? Don't know if that fear of missing it would help.
We're really struggling with the girls in the morning lately. Emma has trouble waking up and moves so slowly that they've been late to school twice this week (under 5 minutes after the bell but still late). If one of us doesn't sit in her room with her making her get dressed she'll just sit there passive aggressively and not do anything, which hasn't been an option with H traveling this week and me trying to get all three ready. No amount of sticker charts or anything like that will get her motivated (we've tried) because she's just too tired. So now I'm not letting her eat breakfast until she's dressed on school mornings, which I don't love since she may get food on her clothes then.
But I also am of the mind that school starts too damn early, so it's not 100% her fault. Doesn't change that being late is unacceptable and that I'm riding her ass about it because it doesn't matter if it's hard. But school starts at 8 and left to her own devices Emma isn't up before 7:30-8 no matter how early she goes to bed (girl could fall asleep at 6 and would still sleep until 8). I would never tell her I feel this way because school and I are a united front, but I actually sympathize with her because it's really hard to wake up before your body's natural rhythm wakes you. It's something I've struggled with my whole life and still do.
My H is like this. It takes him hours to get ready for work. I have tried everything in my power to encourage him to do things in a timely manner but nope. I feel you because he's an adult and knows damn well he has this issue and yet does nothing about it.
But when it's your kid I can't imagine how frustrating it is
Also, if she won't get dress alone in her room, what about making her get dressed where you are? So if you're making breakfast she has to bring her clothes into the kitchen and get dressed where you can see her?
But I have a hard enough time getting 2 kids ready, I don't know what the hell I'm going to do when there is a 3rd to get dressed and fed.
That's a thought. We've been trying to teach them to get dressed in their room for privacy reasons but maybe she loses the privilege of sitting in her room.
If she's really that sleepy in the morning I don't thing 10 min is gonna make or break her, ya know? I would give her 10 min to sit and wake up and then if she isn't dressed in 10 min (maybe use a kitchen timer?) she has to bring her clothes into the kitchen. I would present it like a "big girl" thing. Big girls who are responsible for themselves have privacy to get dressed alone, but just like the baby doesn' have privacy because he needs help, she doesn't get privacy if she needs mom to remind her to get dressed.
It's pointless. In the time it takes me to get him awake and standing up, I can have the kid back asleep if I do it myself.
He's got one more week then I'm at work 5 nights a week and he's gonna have to deal.
Is he going to wake up when you aren't there? I would so be worried about that.
My H sleeps through everything. Babies, dogs, coyotes behind our house...I usually just get up myself because its easier, BUT G has slept through the night since 9 mo. N gets up once still, but she's easy to get back to sleep. When I'm gone for the night he is HYPER aware though. He cranks up the monitor, but its like his body knows. He's told me before that he wakes up at every little sound. HA!
The start time is an interesting discussion - right now it's our high schoolers that have to be out the door by 6:45 and the elem kids not until 8:15 (to catch the bus, school starts at 8:55). But there is a big movement to flip flop things so that the little guys start early & the high schoolers go in later. There are good reasons for everyone wanting the later start time - but everyone can't have the later start time. Times are staggered for bussing.
That's an aside. We had a lot of issues w/ DD1 last year in preschool but things are much better this year. Honestly, I think a big part of it is the bus. She's deathly afraid of missing the bus (even though I've explained I can easily drive her). When we're having a rough time, we pick out clothes the night before to help. We also eat first and get dressed afterwards. We have about an hour in the morning to get ready - and I try to let breakfast be the wake up, slower time so that they have 30 minutes to eat, goof off, etc. Then we get down to business & get dressed, hair, teeth. We do most of it downstairs so I can tend to all 3 more easily.
Is taking the bus an option? Don't know if that fear of missing it would help.
We're a mile away, so no bus is available to us. I've actually often thought that having a bus to miss would be the exact kick in the ass she needs.
Our HSers start earlier than the elementary here so it's not even that they're flipping it to help adolescent sleep cycles. It seems this town just runs on a very early schedule.
Post by wheresmyspatula on Nov 21, 2014 10:45:45 GMT -5
I'm babysitting my cousins daughter next week while she is being induced. I'm the only family nearby and am happy to help....except she mentioned last week that she is so happy that I'll have L the whole time she is in the hospital. Uhhhh what??? That's not what I agreed to. I planned in having her the day she is induced, during labor and then maybe a half day or so after that while they get settled then I figured her husband would come and get her (I'm just a few miles from the hospital). As long as the baby is healthy I don't feel that there is any reason for me to keep L that long.
If it gets to be too much for me to handle I fully intend on calling her husband and having him come get her ( after the baby is born and they are settled, of course). I went home from the hospital a day early against my drs wishes because I felt bad that my mom was at my house with Jack by herself. Her mom will be here too so if her husband wants to stay at the hospital with her than her mom can come get L. I just don't see any reason for me to have her that long.
That's a thought. We've been trying to teach them to get dressed in their room for privacy reasons but maybe she loses the privilege of sitting in her room.
If she's really that sleepy in the morning I don't thing 10 min is gonna make or break her, ya know? I would give her 10 min to sit and wake up and then if she isn't dressed in 10 min (maybe use a kitchen timer?) she has to bring her clothes into the kitchen. I would present it like a "big girl" thing. Big girls who are responsible for themselves have privacy to get dressed alone, but just like the baby doesn' have privacy because he needs help, she doesn't get privacy if she needs mom to remind her to get dressed.
Is he going to wake up when you aren't there? I would so be worried about that.
My H sleeps through everything. Babies, dogs, coyotes behind our house...I usually just get up myself because its easier, BUT % has slept through the night since 9 mo. N gets up once still, but she's easy to get back to sleep. When I'm gone for the night he is HYPER aware though. He cranks up the monitor, but its like his body knows. He's told me before that he wakes up at every little sound. HA!
I am like that! In college DH used to have to carry me out of the dorms when the fire alarms were blaring because I wouldn't hear them! The last night Drew slept with me was the night DH heard him crying from across the house before I heard him in bed next to me and had to come wake me up. And last year when DH was away for him annual conference I happily reported that Drew slept through the night so well and Julia spoke up and said "no he didn't, he cried a lot." I felt awful. This was despite having the monitor cranked all the way up and next to my ear.