Well what are the items that look ok but cost too much?
The do have a steak entree, but it's listed as "market price" and then a Trout platter, which I might end up going with that is $18. Normally we go to Chili's and order from the 2 For $20 menu, so I'm clearly cheap LOL
I'm fairly cheap but occasionally I like to splurge on some nicer food. just pretend it says $8 and make sure your DH gets the bill!
Here's what you do: message the friends behind your H's back, and tell them his restaurant pick is terrible. Ask them to text your H to suggest a different choice. Then if your H complains, you can blame it on the friends, and that way you can pretend to still be breezy!
Yes, I realize that this is my own doing. I do this with other things too, pretend to be breezy, when I'm not actually. Clearly I need to work on this because it comes back to bite me in the butt
I don't understand this post at all. With whom are you annoyed? Your DH, for choosing a restaurant that you don't like when he has zero idea what you would like because you've never told him? No. Yourself, because you refuse to express an opinion? Then that's ok.
I still don't get why you feel you can't tell your DH that you don't like the restaurant, though. A few people have asked this, and you still haven't answered. Will he yell at you? Have you given him no end of shit for being picky and lorded your false breeziness over him so much that now you don't feel like you can ever refuse anything? Or what?
Well what are the items that look ok but cost too much?
The do have a steak entree, but it's listed as "market price" and then a Trout platter, which I might end up going with that is $18. Normally we go to Chili's and order from the 2 For $20 menu, so I'm clearly cheap LOL
Um. A restaurant where the entrees are $18 and up will most likely be light years better in terms of quality than Chili's. Maybe your DH just wants a decent meal for a change?
Can you post the menu that you find so distasteful? I'm trying to imagine a menu where there isn't anything I would want, and I'm having a really hard time.
Expressing preferences isn't the same as confrontation. It's being an active participant in your life.
Starting is difficult, but it gets easier with practice.
This. "Do you want to go here? Nah, there isn't really anything on the menu that sounds good to me" is not confrontation. Never expressing an opinion and always just going with what other people want sounds like kind of a miserable existence, for you and for them. Don't be so afraid. What do you think will happen if you disagree with someone's opinion?
And why is your DH allowed to have preferences and you aren't? Do you consider your DH's pickiness to be confrontational? Is he even really picky, or do you just think that's what it means when someone expresses likes and dislikes?
I'm serious. Why do you feel the need to be so passive? I can be the same way and you have to understand you can't be pissed at someone else when you haven't told them what you want.
I am really indecisive when it comes to food. I have a hard time deciding where to go because I rarely have a craving for something specific, and I really can find something anywhere. Usually several things and I have a hard time choosing which of them to order! So I kind of get being breezy if you are really like I am. I don't know how many times I've wanted to pick up work lunch (so by myself!) and ended up just buying something stupid at the cafeteria because I spent the whole morning thinking about which of 10 places to go and couldn't choose.
However, if there was a place I actually did not feel like going and wasn't in the mood for, I'd speak up! I think you should do this now