G got up at 5:30 this morning. That is like an hour earlier than usual. He was a supreme jerk when it came to nap/rest time. Refusing to stay in bed...jumping on the bed...laughing and screaming...
I calmly and quietly explained that he needed to rest and gave him a book to read in bed. I told him if he got up he would not get TV or outside playtime. Yea. He got up. He is being a maniac. Right now he is locked in his room so I won't lose it. He is throwing shit at the door. I don't know what to do. I just took away the first 3 things he threw but he has a room full of toys.
I'm no help. Violet is giving up her nap and is not as big a fan of quiet time as her sister was. I've made empty threats even though I know that's bad. I need to make a new quiet time plan. I feel your pain. She purposely woke up her brother, too.
He is now playing quietly, so I'm leaving him in there while I finish calming down. Somehow N slept through the banging and screaming. I was hoping. My MIL would come tonight so H and I could escape, but she's a pushover, so I'm not sure she would actually put him to bed early. Normally he's in bed with lights out at 8:30. Tonight its gonna be 7.
The thing is, if he actually lays down (and reads a book, or plays quietly w/stuffed animals) he goes to sleep. If he's sleeping 90% of the time I know he still needs it, and an earlier regular bedtime doesn't work for us because my H isn't home until 630-645. So I'm not ready to give up on the "you have to stay in your bed" rule just yet.
Ummm...when Joey pulled pretty much the same thing a few weeks ago, I went into his room with garbage bags. I bagged up every toy he had and left nothing in there but his bed, lamp and dresser. Then I hid 5 garbage bags of toys over my washer and dryer and made him earn them back one at a time with good behavior.
I have no idea if that's correct parenting but his behavior hasn't been quite as horrible since.
By the second week I was like , "Oh you ate dinner! Great! Go pick 5 toys to take back!" though because I was tired of shit falling out of the bags in the middle of the night and scaring me.
Lol. There is literally no place in my house for the toys except his room. Closets are all full, we have no garage, and unless I want. bags of kid crap lined up in my bedroom it needs to stay in his room.
Ummm...when Joey pulled pretty much the same thing a few weeks ago, I went into his room with garbage bags. I bagged up every toy he had and left nothing in there but his bed, lamp and dresser. Then I hid 5 garbage bags of toys over my washer and dryer and made him earn them back one at a time with good behavior.
I have no idea if that's correct parenting but his behavior hasn't been quite as horrible since.
By the second week I was like , "Oh you ate dinner! Great! Go pick 5 toys to take back!" though because I was tired of shit falling out of the bags in the middle of the night and scaring me.
Lol. There is literally no place in my house for the toys except his room. Closets are all full, we have no garage, and unless I want. bags of kid crap lined up in my bedroom it needs to stay in his room.
Totally have done this enough times that even the threat of it is enough to get DD back on track. We have had laundry baskets of kid crap lined up in our room. It sucked and drove DH and I batty, but it seemed to work (more or less). Plus, confiscating all of her toys gives me a chance to cull through them and toss shit.
NandaB - I took away TV time a couple of days ago. OMG it sucked. I even gave her a couple of chances to earn it back. She did not. Sads for everyone.
My husband is awesome. I was practly in hysterical tears when I talked too him earlier when he said his mom wasn't coming tonight. So he callled my bff and told her she needed to take me out to dinner and he came home early.
Post by amynumbers on Nov 21, 2014 23:45:00 GMT -5
So DS1 who is just four gave up naps this time last year. He never did do quiet time in his room, but we always content to play by himself quietly, watch a show, or do some sort of art project, puzzle or game with an adult at that time.
I mention this because just in the past month or so he has started declaring "I need a break" once or twice a week in the afternoon. He marches himself to his room and takes a nap, unprompted.
So DS1 who is just four gave up naps this time last year. He never did do quiet time in his room, but we always content to play by himself quietly, watch a show, or do some sort of art project, puzzle or game with an adult at that time.
I mention this because just in the past month or so he has started declaring "I need a break" once or twice a week in the afternoon. He marches himself to his room and takes a nap, unprompted.
Kids are weird.
Don't you dangle that dream in front of my no-napping-children face!
Post by fancynewbeesly on Nov 22, 2014 8:14:13 GMT -5
Reese has mandatory quiet time in her room--usually between 2-3:30. She can play with her quiet toys. Sometimes she falls asleep on the floor. She does ask for quiet time though.
Jack has nothing in his room because everything becomes a projectile. He has a bed, a cozy chair and his Mickey Mouse. That's it. I can't see the floor of my garage, but there is nowhere else to put the toys
I got tired of fighting naps with DD so I decided to do quiet time instead or let her choose between nap and quiet time. She rarely takes naps for me anymore but will for DH. If she comes out of her bedroom during quiet time I add 5 more minutes on the clock and let her know I'm doing so.
So DS1 who is just four gave up naps this time last year. He never did do quiet time in his room, but we always content to play by himself quietly, watch a show, or do some sort of art project, puzzle or game with an adult at that time.
I mention this because just in the past month or so he has started declaring "I need a break" once or twice a week in the afternoon. He marches himself to his room and takes a nap, unprompted.
Kids are weird.
Mine does this too. He never did quiet time in his room. But he'll often say he needs some private time and he'll go to his room.
My theory on why he does it is that when he's having a particularly rough time we tell him to go play quietly in his room and come back whenever he feels like he's changed his attitude. Sometimes he's back in 30 seconds and sometimes it's 30 minutes but he always has a fresh attitude.