Post by VeryViolet on Nov 22, 2014 23:21:08 GMT -5
For house guests I always have a ton of food options in the house. For my sister she has definitely shown up to pretty bare cupboards before. Most of the time I try as make sure there is at least a lot for my nephew and also if I don't have food I get food (takeout or going out).
What is your sister going to eat while you are there? Is she just going to go to chipotle and not get any for anyone else?
I'd stop and eat on the way there. She really has nothing for you and your children to eat there? You need to bring your groceries home, they get along fine with nothing it seems.
If she does this every time, then you need to adjust your expectations. Maybe talk BEFORE you are in the car on the way there - perhaps the day before or earlier. If nothing else, you need to order some pizza to be delivered to their house about the time you will arrive, because fuck that. That's a long drive to not have dinner when you get there!!
We were really hungry. No one else was. We ordered pizza and suddenly everyone was ravenous. Breakfast this morning was "Wawa is right down the road if you are hungry".
I know I should expect nothing different, and I honestly don't. But I can't stop bitching about it every single time, lol.
We were really hungry. No one else was. We ordered pizza and suddenly everyone was ravenous. Breakfast this morning was "Wawa is right down the road if you are hungry".
I know I should expect nothing different, and I honestly don't. But I can't stop bitching about it every single time, lol.
I would stop for a meal just before I got to her house. I can't believe she sent you to WAWA for breakfast. what?
Post by indianchica on Nov 23, 2014 8:38:07 GMT -5
She's being an idiot. Anyone who is close enough to stay in my house also gets fed delicious meals and/or has the freedom to choose where we go to eat. If someone else has spent the time and money to come visit, they do not spend money on food, much less energy thinking about whether or not there will be any. This is a crazy situation.
Yeah, we stay overnight every time we come down because it's 3 hours each way and my kids would bug if we tried to do a day trip. I seriously have to do a grocery shop every time I come. I'm very tempted to pack it up and take it home with me, but I feel like that would be as rude as not providing for guests. But, it might drive the point home. Or probably not.
Since she provided no food I would have no qualms about taking what I brought with me! Do eet!
And take your wine home too! Well when I bought it I thought it would be for a special occasion that WE celebrated, you know, TOGETHER.
Is there any chance she does this because she doesn't want houseguests and you're just not taking the hint?
I was just about to respond this way. She doesn't clean, she doesn't even have milk or staples in the house, when you call she has nothing planned nor wants to make a plan while on the phone - "grab a couple pizzas on your way in"or "I will call for chinese right now". I think the writing is on the wall
Is there any chance she does this because she doesn't want houseguests and you're just not taking the hint?
Nope, this is just her. She invites us down, I never ask if we can visit. Today is her thanksgiving because her husband will be away. She has always been like this, she is just socially clueless when it comes to being a host for anything.
Does she have a reason/justification for doing this? Have you ever asked her about it? (I'm genuinely curious--b/c that is SO RUDE.) HTF do you not have food on hand for your guests? I went to the store at 11PM on Friday night [after getting up at 5AM, working all day, cleaning the whole house, getting my son from preschool to meet the 'rents for dinner AND having an water heater gas leak which required the purchase/installation of a new water heater!] b/c my parents were spending the day at my house.
Hell, if a person can do ALL OF THAT in one day, surely a person could provide dinner (or at least a plan to provide dinner).
Yeah, like I said, I always shop on the way here. But, we usually get here in the morning, not at dinner time. I did think she might have a plan since we were arriving at dinner time and since we are not the only guests this weekend.
If I invited people to be my houseguests, yes, I would plan to have food. But if people kept assuming I was hosting or I kept always having to be the host for family get together and no one offered to help with food then maybe I'd stop having food lol.
We were really hungry. No one else was. We ordered pizza and suddenly everyone was ravenous. Breakfast this morning was "Wawa is right down the road if you are hungry".
I know I should expect nothing different, and I honestly don't. But I can't stop bitching about it every single time, lol.
Wow, this blows my mind. That just seems so.. backwards, and odd. And kind of rude, frankly.
Post by twodogsandababy on Nov 23, 2014 13:28:40 GMT -5
This is how my inlaw are. It is incredibly rude. They beg us to come out, and we fly from the west coast to Florida with the kids, at least have some food for the kids! They usually only eat one meal a day and it is generally take out. No staples in the house. They are very well off, so it isn't a money thing. We usually stop at the store on the way from the airport, then they eat what we bring!
No, they are absolutely not struggling. They are just all wishy washy, can't make plans, or a decision. We made the decision and they ate.
I can't tell if your sister is simply thoughtless or does this because she doesn't want houseguests.
Yeah. The only thing that makes me think thoughtless rather than houseguests is that she's doing this to FRIENDS, not just family. Family should be treated well, but arguably you take them and their desire to stay in your house for granted. Friends? I'd die.
My bff is usually walking up to the door with a sack of groceries as I arrive because she's the queen of the last minute shopping trip, and we typically go back at least once because she'll do things like buy dip and forget chips, but she's TRYING. And she does this to everyone, and did it even when she and I shared an apartment. Lol.
Maybe she doesn't want friends to come over either. LOL.
God, but they're so much fun. It's like college again, only we don't have to drink Natty light.
Unless they have kids and are weirdly judgmental. Not like I am thinking about a friend of my husband's and the friend's wife who raised an eyebrow at the teddygrahams in my pantry or anything like that.
Post by BunnyMacDougal on Nov 23, 2014 19:49:01 GMT -5
I'm slightly aghast that they are having houseguests and assuming people will bring all their own groceries. Like not even make a polite gesture and get a thing or two they've asked whether people like.
And desserts. You have to at least have one nibbly, "let's eat something spontaneously" food. Right?
I picture her raised in an actual barn with actual hay in it.