Yesterday my secretary said that it would be good if we had a boy and not a girl (since we already have a girl)...because boys carry the family name. FML.
Now tell me your stories about the stupid things people say when you have two of the same (or may potentially end up with two of the same)...
Post by gibbinator on Nov 22, 2014 19:26:04 GMT -5
No one has asked yet if we're going to try for a girl. But my family Dr keeps asking me if I plan to have a big Catholic baseball team worth of kids. I typically reply that tennis doubles is fine. People do like to comment that we're going to be soooo busy with 2 boys. Like girls are low energy or something?
I got negative comments all the time when my kids were little. My aunt told me 2 boys were the "worst case scenario" for twins. A verizon employee told me "it's too bad you didn't have a boy and a girl." And I get a bunch of "are you going to try for a girl now?" Eye roll.
We just get a lot of DH must be so disappointed and wouldn't want to live in your house during the teen years. And asked a lot if we're going to keep trying for a boy
We are team green this with this pregnancy and most people tend to assume we are hoping for a boy so we can have one of each. We just want a second child, and have zero preference to the sex of that baby. I hear a lot of " your husband is probably hoping for a boy this time," too. It's ridiculous!
We have two older girls and when I was pregnant withy third people kept commenting about how we had to try for a boy (we wanted three no matter what). And then when we found out it was a boy there were a lot of "oh you finally got your boy, huh?"
Related: People keep commenting that we can stop now that we have one of each.
People like to comment on stuff.
We get similar comments. Like, oh you have the perfect family because you have a boy and two girls. Or oh you can be all done because you got at least one of each. Whether we had all girls or all boys or a combination of the two we knew we wanted 3 kids.
No one has asked yet if we're going to try for a girl. But my family Dr keeps asking me if I plan to have a big Catholic baseball team worth of kids. I typically reply that tennis doubles is fine. People do like to comment that we're going to be soooo busy with 2 boys. Like girls are low energy or something?
i basically eat bonbons all day long. My girls just sit in a corner and knit and embroider things.
We are team green this with this pregnancy and most people tend to assume we are hoping for a boy so we can have one of each. We just want a second child, and have zero preference to the sex of that baby. I hear a lot of " your husband is probably hoping for a boy this time," too. It's ridiculous!
Ditto. My MIL will not drop it and it's driving me crazy.
I get "bless your heart" a lot. And "you must be busy." Plus a healthy dose of "aren't you going to try for a girl?" Once I got "God only gives us what He knows we can handle," as though my boys are the equivalent of terminal cancer or something. People are assholes.
Post by ilikedonuts on Nov 22, 2014 19:47:39 GMT -5
"You are going to try for a boy right?" "Your husband must be sad he doesn't have a son."
And a bunch of people on DH's side have commented about how now our last name won't carry on once our girls get married because DH is the only male on his dad's side of the family (no brothers and only girl cousins). And now we have 2 girls.
Lately I'm super sick of people with less kids asking if I'm having more (I have 4 girls and am pretty up front that I'll be 40 next year). If I asked YOU that question then fair game, but I didn't so STFU.
Related: People keep commenting that we can stop now that we have one of each.
People like to comment on stuff.
We got this all.the.time after our b/g twins. Everywhere we went, people told us that we should stop having kids b/c we got the perfect combination on the first shot. (And that's frankly the tip of the iceberg of weird questions that twin parents get.)
Then, when we told them that we were having a third, we got a lot of "You do know how that type of thing happens, right?"
Post by undecidedowl on Nov 22, 2014 19:54:44 GMT -5
I've only gotten a few stupid comments, but DS2 is only a few weeks old. I got my first "try for a girl" comment from the OB office receptionist about 5 minutes after we found out the sex.
We just get a lot of DH must be so disappointed and wouldn't want to live in your house during the teen years. And asked a lot if we're going to keep trying for a boy
We get all of this, too.
Dude, I'M OK WITH HAVING GIRLS! To be honest, I actually prefer it at this point.
I get a lot of "oh you're in trouble!" when people find out we're having another boy. Guys, let me hold out hope that my second son will be much calmer than my first, ok?
The only way we would ever try for 3 is if we get 2 girls first. When people hear this they presume it is because we want a boy and they are always like, "you know you could end up with 3 girls".
No, really??? Sigh. That's not why would have three. We can only accommodate three in our house if two share a room (long term, not for a just a while). It works best if the first two are the same sex. But of course, that's not what people presume I care about. It has to be because my life would be incomplete without a boy.
Lately I'm super sick of people with less kids asking if I'm having more (I have 4 girls and am pretty up front that I'll be 40 next year). If I asked YOU that question then fair game, but I didn't so STFU.
I only have three girls but people ask me this often too. I figure it is because I have already had more kids than average so they feel they can no longer predict when I will stop.
I get asked all the time if we're going to go for a 4th, like we turned into the Duggars when we had our third and might pop out another dozen or so kids.
There are only boys on H's side. We were team green and when H went out for DS2 and said he was a boy, SIL says "aww, the curse continues". Uhh, thanks.
There are only boys on H's side. We were team green and when H went out for DS2 and said he was a boy, SIL says "aww, the curse continues". Uhh, thanks.
WTF? That is an awful way to congratulate a new dad.
Post by moopoint17 on Nov 22, 2014 20:22:18 GMT -5
I always get "maybe the third will be a girl" or some variation. And when I give my usual answer of "nope, we're all done" they say I'll change my mind. Sigh.
There are only boys on H's side. We were team green and when H went out for DS2 and said he was a boy, SIL says "aww, the curse continues". Uhh, thanks.
WTF? That is an awful way to congratulate a new dad.
Yeah, we're used to her thankfully. He just rolled his eyes and moved on.
]However, I've also been congratulated by strangers on how white my daughter looks. So, really, people are just stupid,
People sometimes seem way too pleased about the fact that all my kids are blond and blue-eyed. In fact, about the only time that strangers comment positively about my three boys is when they preface it with a comment about their appearance (I.e., "look at all those blond, blue-eyed boys!"). It's weird.