I have a friend from middle school and a few from high school. Also a few from my military days. Those are my lifelong friends. Some live within an hour but we don't see each other often. The people I meet now are friends but I don't think the friendship will be lifelong.
I think making friends as a adult IS hard. I have one friend that I'm super close with from college who lives in another state. My local friends are great but I'm not super close with any of them. Other than that, I have other close friends but none of them live close enough to visit on the regular. It kind of sucks.
Yes. My BFF and I met in second grade and I still keep in touch with/am IRL friends with a few junior high/high school friends. Most of the people I regularly socialize with, though, are the friends I made in college (mostly sorority sisters). I've known some of them half my life now so I consider them lifelong at this point
I have one friend from first grade that I'm still really good friends with. After nearly ten years of living in different places, we're only about 45 minutes away from each other now and try to get together, either just ourselves or our families, once a month. There are definitely others that I'm still in contact with, but in a much more casual way.
Post by mrsukyankee on Nov 24, 2014 10:51:05 GMT -5
Living overseas means any friends I grew up with are no longer near me. I communicate with a few via Facebook but that's it. I have developed friends in London that I've known for years and they are definitely friends - the sort that I'll call at any minute to bitch about something or to see if they can join me for a drink. It took a bit of time to get there but it's been worth it!
I think so, yes. I have one friend who was my bff all through middle and high school, and a few others from HS I'm still close with.
But I'm in a weird phase of my life where I have kids and my life revolves around them, while my best long term friends are kid less, dating, finishing grad degrees, etc. So I end up hanging out with my newer mom-friends much more often.
I really never stayed friends with people I went to school with/grew up with beyond fb. Childhood was not really a great memory, and school was painful, so I had no desire to hang on to that.
The sole exception long-term friend is my bff I met in college. She started dating her now ex-H at the same time H and started dating. We've been bffs for 14 years. When she got divorced, I finally convinced her to move to my town and now she and her daughter live about 2-3 miles away. I love it.
I met my best friend in 1st grade, and here we are 30 years later, so yes. I have another close friend I met in middle school, and 4 or 5 others that I don't talk to often, but when we do we pick up where we left off.
All my closest local friends though I met through my kids. I lived here 5 years before having a baby, and made zero friends in that time. It hard to make new friends as an adult.
I have one childhood best friend who lives in another city. Sometimes we don't talk for a month or two, but we always pick up where we left off and visit each other once or twice a year. There are a few other friends who I can pick up where we left off, but we sometimes don't see each other for years. I know those people will always be friends. I feel like we all know each other so well we're more like family.
Post by cuddlyevil on Nov 24, 2014 10:53:26 GMT -5
Yes. I have a few from high school, but some of my oldest friendships are people I met in college or on another (now defunct) messageboard--they're like family to me.
I'm still friends with a girl that I met when we were 5. My BFF and I met when we were 14/15, but didn't become super close until 18. My closest girlfriend right now I've only know for about 5-6 years and she's the wife of one of DH's fraternity brothers.
Yes, my BFF and I have been best friends since second grade. I even lived with her my senior year of high school. We live only a mile apart and our daughters are best friends as well. My other close friend and I have been friends since college.
I have a few other ones I would consider friends and many acquaintances who I am friendly. It is hard as an adult and being busy with kids, etc does make it harder. I did make several friends with moms of my oldest DD once she started sports as a young teen and saw them over and over the years.
Yes probably my two best friends are my friends I have had since grade school. We don't live by each other anymore and the three of us are in different places in our life. But we talk reguarly and get together at least once a year. It actually is really cool to think we have been close friends for almost 30 years now. They are the people beside my husband I can be the most honest with and I expect the same from them.
Post by waffletime on Nov 24, 2014 10:59:14 GMT -5
Yes, my best friend is a girl I met in 2nd grade, but didn't start hanging out with until 7th grade. I hardly ever get to see her anymore though; maybe once a year if we're lucky. I moved to the US, and she moved to Alberta (we're from Ontario), so we only get to hang out when we're both home. She did come down here for my wedding though, and that was awesome.
I just moved an hour north of where I was to transfer schools, and I have yet to make any new friends here. I still work in old town, and I started college four years after high school, so I'm now 24 and in classes with 18/19 year olds...I hated teenagers when I was one, and it hasn't gotten any better. We still hang out with a couple we're friends with in old town fairly often, but it's not like we can just say "Hey, come hang out and have dinner with us" like we used to. Especially since I work 8-5 on weekends.
Oh and making friends as adults is so much harder. I don't have the time to foster a deep relationship. I have friends and I like hanging out with them. But my closest friendships are still the ones I had pre husband and kids.
My best friend as a kid from pre-school to college was the same person. We've stayed in touch but she lives out of state now and has young children. I'd still do anything for her though.
Same way with my other friend who we went all through elementary school, high school, and college with. We had stayed closer since she was local (an hour or so away) but we haven't seen each other in a year. I guess I should really make an effort to reach out to her because I'd do anything for her too.
I have cousins that are, but my one 20+ year best friend betrayed me terribly about a year ago and I cut off all contact. Still hurts, but it was unforgiveable.
I have three close friends. Known them 25, 18, and 15 years. I don't have many friends in general (lots of acquaintance level friends though), but these are the three people I would trust with just about anything. It's hard for me to become close friends with people. I tend to be pretty closed off and don't like to share much. I've become a master at making people feel like they know me without really having much bingo about me at all. It's not the best and I'm working on it in therapy
My bestest BFF and I have known each other since we were like, five (and we're 34 now). She still lives in my hometown, which is 90 minutes away, but she's moving here in the next couple of months, so I'm super excited about that!
Other than her, I have one other friend I've known since kindergarten, but unfortunately she and I don't get to talk or hang out as frequently as we'd like even though she's only about 40 minutes away.
Post by DotAndBuzz on Nov 24, 2014 11:31:24 GMT -5
Yes. My bff and I "met" when we were 10 months old. Our parents went to HS together, and reconnected at church and infant swim class for us. We've been friends, and basically sisters, ever since. 34 years now!
My other closest friends I've had since I was 5 (met in kindergarten), and 18 (sorority pledge class).
None of them live close to me at all, 3 hours away minimum, but we keep in touch w/ text and phone calls through the week. Sometimes text a lot more than that!
I have two friends I've known since infancy, but we aren't as close anymore. My best friend I met in late highschool. I have friends I made as an adult, and we are getting closer, so maybe they're keepers.
Nope. I am not in touch with anyone from HS or earlier, beyond being FB friends at least.
I have a few friends that I've known 8-14 years that I think I'll be friends with for life. Unfortunately, none of them live close and IDK if we'll ever live close to each other again (probably not). I currently live somewhere I've only lived for 6 years, so no lifelong friends here. I honestly doubt I have any friends locally that I'd keep in touch with if I moved out of the area... I have a lot of great people in my life locally but we're not super close.
Post by revolution on Nov 24, 2014 11:37:25 GMT -5
I have 2. One I've known since I was 5. The other since 8th grade. I am 3 hours from each of them and don't see them a whole lot. But they are my person(s).
Yes, I am still very close with my childhood friend, since third grade. My other BFF is from middle school. I'm also still friends with a few from high school.
It is difficult to make friends as an adult. Any adult friends I've made have been through my kids schools and sports.