I identify with water*drop. I feel better about myself when I'm consistently exercising. I have a pretty good body image - I'm not the thinnest but I'm happy with my size. I'd love to lose 10-15 lbs and be a size 6 but I am proud of my strength and fitness level. I need to exercise for my mental health - I feel better about pretty much everything when I know I'm taking care of my body. Also when I'm eating healthy (I used to eat paleo most of the time) I feel better about myself.
Post by changedname on Nov 26, 2014 14:49:33 GMT -5
I think I think I'm thinner than I actually am. I was always thin in my teens and twenties and now I'm about 10 pounds heavier than then.
Example- I have a pair of pants that I love in a size medium. A friend who I would say is only a tiny bit smaller than me, loved the pants and bought them. Then she told me she had to return then because even the xs was too big. How depressing. I'm obviously a lot bigger than I think.
Post by teatimefor2 on Nov 26, 2014 14:58:35 GMT -5
rugbywife, I think you look great in both pictures.
I'm fairly slender and I struggle with body image and had real issues in HS - diet pills, etc. However with all that, my weight has been the same +\- 10 lbs since high school. I didn't realise when I was younger how good I looked.
The bigger issue is as a pp said, I want to just get dressed without worry about love handles, top length, etc and the first place my weight goes is my face, so it's super noticeable.
Right now, I'm 4 weeks pp and nothing fits me. My pre-pregnancy clothes won't button and my maternity pants slide down all day - so I spend all day pulling up my pants. I feel better when I'm exercising, I feel better knowing way my body can achieve rather than focusing on its overall number.
lol, thanks teatimefor2 - I think I look great too, when I look at them now. But in the moment? It's so weird how my body image is so relative to where I am at any given spot.
I also can totally relate to people who only 'see it' in photos…for me it is usually the photos that kill me…but now having had a baby, I found the pp period to be the worst…nothing fitting clothes wise was brutal.
I just want to pop in and say, daaaaaamn, rugbywife, you look slammin' in both of those, but especially the bikini picture! I feel you, because I, too, hate looking back at photos of myself and thinking about how I didn't appreciate my looks.
See, that's it!!! I wish I had been able to appreciate how much my hard work was worth it, lol, but nope, instead I was like, "yeah, I'm doing okay I guess"…sigh!
I don't feel any different at different sizes, and I don't think I look different in the mirror. But I struggle with pictures of myself.
I pinned an ecard the other day that said, "I wish I were as fat as I was the first time I thought I was fat." It is so true for me. My mom and aunts were always on very restrictive diets and always praised how skinny I was as a child. I remember putting myself on a diet in 3rd grade. It really skewed my perception of myself.
My SIL and I both had babies in October. She is posting on facebook how she is down to 125lbs and is on her way to her next goal. I was feeling horrible about it because I know my mom is going to see me and think, "Oh there is fat CJ, why can't she lose the weight like SIL?" In the mirror I think I look fine. Things are a little displaced and not as tone, but I weight the same as my highest weight pre-pregnancy and am only 6 weeks postpartum. DH tells me I'm beautiful all the time, but I know if I see a picture of myself I will probably cry. It has been hard for me to get in pictures with DD, but I know someday I will regret it if I don't. I just don't look at them for now.
Ugh, I just hope I can break this unhealthy cycle for DD. She deserves better than that.
Well as I said in some thread yesterday I see myself as nothing but giant boobs and a stomach that looks inhuman with how stretched and hanging and protruding it is. So right now I just hate my body. I was never super thin before and I used to really feel pretty much the same about it whether I was thinner or heavier. It really wasn't until it was completely destroyed having the girls that I looked at it and said, wtf?! It's awful.
I think we are FB friends (lol?) and I think you look great. You posted a family pic recently and I thought to myself that you look fab.
I am extremely aware of my own weight fluctuations, but not because I have poor body image. I can just tell when my face looks too thin or when my hips are wider, etc. sSince no one in my extended family has a filter, I know that my own perception is usually accurate.
Well as I said in some thread yesterday I see myself as nothing but giant boobs and a stomach that looks inhuman with how stretched and hanging and protruding it is. So right now I just hate my body. I was never super thin before and I used to really feel pretty much the same about it whether I was thinner or heavier. It really wasn't until it was completely destroyed having the girls that I looked at it and said, wtf?! It's awful.
I think we are FB friends (lol?) and I think you look great. You posted a family pic recently and I thought to myself that you look fab.
lol thanks. To be fair, that picture has the benefit of a strategically placed baby and photoshop.