Post by carolinagirl831 on Nov 29, 2014 7:27:48 GMT -5
We did 9 days at 14 months. Dd stayed with the grandparents. They both loved it and she is fine. Don't feel guilty. I think time apart is good for all, esp if you and your DH are getting away! Enjoy
This past June I I went to Europe for 14 days on a once and a life time research trip to Normandy. My husband stayed behind to watch our son, who had just turned 2 a few months before. While I felt initially guilty, I was so busy that those feelings faded fast.
They were completely fine and I was so excited to come home and see them! Also, I don't really know of my son noticed I was gone for so long. When I got him up the next morning I got the same greeting as I would on a normal wake up. That helped with any residual guilt feelings.
Dh has gone 2 weeks, I've never gone more than 2 nights (and that was to have another baby). I'd be perfectly willing to leave ds1 with his grandparents for a week though (he's 2.5). It's more lack of opportunity and grandparent availability than guilt.
I have done 9-10. We are doing this over his spring break too as he will be going to Disney with Nana and Papa. Usual standard is 5ish days for work travel (which I will be doing starting tomorrow).
We did 10 days when he was 9 months for a trip to Thailand. It was awesome and although I missed him and didn't talk to him much due to the time difference (11 hours), I was definitely OK and had a blast.
Post by karinothing on Nov 29, 2014 8:21:40 GMT -5
I am doing a week next week but DH will be here. Dh has gone on week long work trips since ds was a year or so. I do not know when we would go for a week together. Maybe not ever. Not because we do not want to leave but because we have limited time/money for vacation and i don't think it would be fair not to take DS with us
We don't have any viable childcare so it's impossible for us. But if we had an opportunity in the toddler years I would take it.
Remember you're not just enjoying for yourselves but also giving her a model of taking care of yourselves and learning independence. She'll do great and be so happy when you're back!
the only good reason we have is that I want to have fun with my husband prior to hypothetical child 2. I took child 1 so rough and I don't want to waste this potential golden period. But now that is upon me I am like whyyyyy. DD keeps saying "mama I love you so much. Mama stayyyy."
I wish we would have done more before TTC again for this exact reason. We've done nights away, but we've never done a longer trip. I'm having a rough time with the idea of potentially having a high needs newborn again, and I think I would be struggling less if we had taken the time to have more fun as a couple once DD hit the good stage.
the only good reason we have is that I want to have fun with my husband prior to hypothetical child 2. I took child 1 so rough and I don't want to waste this potential golden period. But now that is upon me I am like whyyyyy. DD keeps saying "mama I love you so much. Mama stayyyy."
Dude, go for it. This is a legit reason as any and you may not get the chance again for a long, long time. LOL that J already knows how to give you a guilt trip.
I did a week away when DD was 21 months; DH watched her. The longest both of us have been away was three nights, but we're tossing around the idea of a week or so in Europe in the spring. DD will be 4.
The biggest hurdle for us is just opportunity. We live far from family, so we'd have to fly DD to our parents and then leave from their airport. By the time we add up the cost, it's cheaper and easier to take her with us. But, again, that's us! You should go!
Post by cincodemayo on Nov 29, 2014 10:57:24 GMT -5
We have done 3 nights away twice, and have a week long trip coming when he is 18 months. After that, I hoper don't travel without him for awhile. I'm already sad thinking about it.
Once DD weans, I've promised H that we'll do some solo time away. She's 18m and we just did one night away a week ago which is my first time away. He's done 4 nights or so for work.
We just did 5 nights away in Oct. when DS was 2 1/2ish. He was totally fine. It helped that I told my parents to take DS to school every day and keep his routine going. He DID stay up the night we got back in until almost 11PM because he would not go to sleep knowing we were flying back home.
I handled it ok-ish since we had FaceTime and could see DS at really anytime (as long as the network complied!) and DS was fine. He was all "mama and dada in ChiCAgo. See you soooooon.!" He loves his grandparents and he was really good for them.
So far, I have only been away from ODS 2 nights while I was in the hospital having YDS. It isn't that I WOULDN'T do it, but we don't have anyone that can watch the kids for extended periods overnight, and we can't afford a sitter for that amount of time. In theory, I would go for a week now. (ODS is turning 4 next week, and YDS is 1.5). In reality, even if I had the funds, I probably would have a hard time with it just because I can be a bit controlling, and I have a hard time letting anyone take the reigns. If I were you though, I would do it. ;-)
Post by wanderlustmom on Nov 29, 2014 12:46:27 GMT -5
We left DS for 11 days when he was 15 months and both of them when they were three and one for ten days. We have done lots of weekends in there as well. Now that they are nine and seven, we mostly bring them along for the big trips. Now it's easy to bring them and we keep thinking sooner than later they may not even want to come with us! LOL.
DS is 5. We probably did a week around a Year and a half. We went away 12 days around 3.5. Sadly he's in school now so this botches Al the plans - we normally scheduled trips around footbal games. One in the home city and one in an away city and sometimes some time in Vegas in between. Our childcare is my dad and he lives four hours away and still has kids at home.
DD was just shy of eight months. Daycare was closed and we asked my mom to come stay for a week; she offered to take DD to her house instead and we jumped at the chance. DD could not have cared less.
We did it again this past summer when DD was about 20 months and my mom said there was really only one time when she seemed bothered by the fact that we weren't around.