What do you want for Xmas/Hanukkah?

[gottadobe]

Dec 5, 2014 22:32:49 GMT -5 heyjude said:

I asked for a sewing machine because I want to learn. I think I'm going to get it too because I've seen messages back and forth from my sewing friend and my H about supplies.

I just bought myself a sewing machine off Amazon's lightening deals.
I can't wait to get it, I'm going to hem EVERYTHING.

I haven't touched one since I was a kid. This should be interesting.

[ajj]

Dec 5, 2014 20:04:24 GMT -5 Michelle said:

Peace. Not world peace, just peace in my life - for a year maybe. That'd be something new and different.

For my husband to go to counseling with me

This is what I want too. Things have been a roller coaster of emotions for about a year and half now. I need a break. I know life has ups and downs, but it has been down for a long time now and I need some relief. The past few weeks have been seeming to get better and I'm actually scared to be happy about that.

Also, just wanted to send you some support. I know the feeling of needing the counseling and I hope that works out. 

Let me know if you want me to edit the quote out on that.

[orangeblossom]

Phillips Sonicare toothbrush
tfal actifry or Phillips Air Fryer
Dry container for Vitamix
Fitbit or something similar

[christy082]

New Ipod
Brighton necklace
Travel hand steamer
Folding chairs
Gift cards for takeout after the baby comes

Super exciting stuff, lol!

[partyinmytummy]

I asked for a new bedding set for our bedroom and tickets to see The Nutcracker. Got my husband a new set of ratcheting wrenches and an Xbox One (though he has NO IDEA about the last one!)

[ttt]

Dec 6, 2014 0:48:12 GMT -5 @dyermaker said:

Dec 5, 2014 22:15:33 GMT -5 ttt said:

Have you used this before? I only ask because I had a terrible skin reaction to the mask and I'm hardly allergic to anything. I returned it.

I haven't used the mask - I wanted this because I loooove the moisturizer and this set is the same price as the moisturizer alone. But I will definitely do a skin test of the mask now!

[Deleted]

Dec 6, 2014 4:59:52 GMT -5 orangeblossom said:

Phillips Sonicare toothbrush

This reminds me of being in my 20s and living in WI. My mom called me saying she couldn't wait for me to open my Christmas gift she had sent. My, my, what could it be? So excited I was with anticipation, and she had me call her as I was opening it... and I had to pretend to be excited about a Sonicare toothbrush. :rolleyes:

[MrsAxilla]

Dec 6, 2014 1:00:44 GMT -5 nuggetbrain said:

VEGAS.

This is what I'm getting this year!  My parents live there (well, near-ish) and they got DH and I a hotel room and are going to babysit the kiddos overnight.  My sister is going to get us a gift card to a fancy restaurant.  That frees up all our money for blackjack!  Ah, an overnight Vegas date with DH - can't wait!

[bimbi284]

I want donations to my org. This seems to upset my family because they want to buy me things. I'm refusing to make a list because of this. Only H knows of things I might want because of convos we've had recently, but he knows I don't want random crap.

[Deleted]

I got DH a huge ass picture of himself to hang in our living room. It's payback for him hanging one of me that my mom had framed. So obnoxious, so I'll be damned if I'm the only one hanging there.

[RoxMonster]

Tory Burch purse
Right hand ring from H (I know I'm getting this because he bought it when I was with him!)
A couple of the Naked Palettes
Hozier CD
Scarves
GCs for clothing stores
New stemless wine glasses

[chedifuen]

I asked for a purse and new black boots.

[Aquatica]

A positive pregnancy test would make me happy but other than that, neither of us want anything this year. I'm just happy it'll just be the two of us for the holidays. No family, no drama, and actually enjoying the holiday.

[mominatrix]

My H convinced me to make a pinterest board as my Christmas/other gift list. It's cool. It means that I can pin stuff throughout the year, and it's all there for him to see.

I already know about some stuff... we're getting Kindles (me, H, and DD), so I want books for mine.
I'm also getting red leather riding boots; they've been a holy grail item for me for years.


other highlights of my pinboard...


Wonder Woman socks:




Case for my chromebook that looks like a book:




Geek jewelry:

[ChillyMcFreeze]

Brown booties
All the makeups
Spending $$ for our NYC trip
AE jeggings in every color

[Michelle]

Dec 6, 2014 2:08:03 GMT -5 ajj said:

Dec 5, 2014 20:04:24 GMT -5 Michelle said:

Peace. Not world peace, just peace in my life - for a year maybe. That'd be something new and different.

For my husband to go to counseling with me

This is what I want too. Things have been a roller coaster of emotions for about a year and half now. I need a break. I know life has ups and downs, but it has been down for a long time now and I need some relief. The past few weeks have been seeming to get better and I'm actually scared to be happy about that.

Also, just wanted to send you some support. I know the feeling of needing the counseling and I hope that works out. 

Let me know if you want me to edit the quote out on that.

thanks for the support. I am totally there with prolonged "downs" in life and I am ready for a break. I did not expect the amount of loss and death I have faced in the last two years until i was old. And I understand why so many olds are grumpy as all the people around them pass one right after the other where the funerals are monthly. And I know it could be worse so it feels wrong to complain here. But the spouse could be more supportive. If there are lurker that see this that know me IRL so be it. DH and I are not the kind who expect a divorce. But if we could communicate better and he could understand my support needs through grief and stress our relationship would be stronger and happier. And we would be better parents.

My sweet compassionate daughter was looking through pictures last night and said, "wow mom. You have been having a lot of hard times lately. I wish you could have a break." Incredibly compassionate for a 7 yr old and yet I wish DH would stop and consider that and when I say, "hey would it be a problem if once a month I left for a sew-in all day to have some stress relief and creative time to myself?" It would be great if he would encourage it rather than say," yeah, probably. What if I want to play disc golf or something?" Get a fucking babysitter? I dunno. Let me not have to figure out the plan for child are for one day a month!

Overall my husband is not a dickhead. But he Has been displaying some stereotypical only child behaviors lately when I need a supportive shoulder to lean on.

[Deleted]

Huge hugs, Michelle.

[laurenpetro]

i asked for knitting lessons and a brooklyn dodgers hat.

[sparrowsong]

Dec 6, 2014 11:47:00 GMT -5 mominatrix said:

Wonder Woman socks:

Oh dear. I bought my sister adult size Wonder Woman underroos. Now I want to add these to her gift. Must. Not. Spend. Any. More. Money. On. Gifts.

[secretlyevil]

Well H didn't let me update my wish list. He purchased a few things.

[ajj]

Big hugs Michelle. The losses I have had this past year have been rough, too. I've been having the same thoughts as you about watching the people around you pass while you continue in life. It's so hard and it's only been my grandparents this year. It just makes you start thinking about everything else.

I hope your husband is able to figure it out and be there for you and I hope life starts on an upswing for you.

[secretlyevil]

Dec 6, 2014 12:48:15 GMT -5 Michelle said:

Dec 6, 2014 2:08:03 GMT -5 ajj said:

This is what I want too. Things have been a roller coaster of emotions for about a year and half now. I need a break. I know life has ups and downs, but it has been down for a long time now and I need some relief. The past few weeks have been seeming to get better and I'm actually scared to be happy about that.

Also, just wanted to send you some support. I know the feeling of needing the counseling and I hope that works out. 

Let me know if you want me to edit the quote out on that.

thanks for the support. I am totally there with prolonged "downs" in life and I am ready for a break. I did not expect the amount of loss and death I have faced in the last two years until i was old. And I understand why so many olds are grumpy as all the people around them pass one right after the other where the funerals are monthly. And I know it could be worse so it feels wrong to complain here. But the spouse could be more supportive. If there are lurker that see this that know me IRL so be it. DH and I are not the kind who expect a divorce. But if we could communicate better and he could understand my support needs through grief and stress our relationship would be stronger and happier. And we would be better parents.

My sweet compassionate daughter was looking through pictures last night and said, "wow mom. You have been having a lot of hard times lately. I wish you could have a break." Incredibly compassionate for a 7 yr old and yet I wish DH would stop and consider that and when I say, "hey would it be a problem if once a month I left for a sew-in all day to have some stress relief and creative time to myself?" It would be great if he would encourage it rather than say," yeah, probably. What if I want to play disc golf or something?" Get a fucking babysitter? I dunno. Let me not have to figure out the plan for child are for one day a month!

Overall my husband is not a dickhead. But he Has been displaying some stereotypical only child behaviors lately when I need a supportive shoulder to lean on.

I think you need to force him to that realization. Instead of asking, say starting in January I will be participating in xyz on this day of the month. This is me time. If something comes up and you need to get a babysitter, no big deal. Your mistake here is asking, like you need his permission. You do not. You're an adult. You are partners. You both created this kid, you are both EQUALLY responsible for the welfare and happiness. You deserve to be happy.

[Michelle]

Dec 6, 2014 14:51:24 GMT -5 secretlyevil said:

Dec 6, 2014 12:48:15 GMT -5 Michelle said:

thanks for the support. I am totally there with prolonged "downs" in life and I am ready for a break. I did not expect the amount of loss and death I have faced in the last two years until i was old. And I understand why so many olds are grumpy as all the people around them pass one right after the other where the funerals are monthly. And I know it could be worse so it feels wrong to complain here. But the spouse could be more supportive. If there are lurker that see this that know me IRL so be it. DH and I are not the kind who expect a divorce. But if we could communicate better and he could understand my support needs through grief and stress our relationship would be stronger and happier. And we would be better parents.

My sweet compassionate daughter was looking through pictures last night and said, "wow mom. You have been having a lot of hard times lately. I wish you could have a break." Incredibly compassionate for a 7 yr old and yet I wish DH would stop and consider that and when I say, "hey would it be a problem if once a month I left for a sew-in all day to have some stress relief and creative time to myself?" It would be great if he would encourage it rather than say," yeah, probably. What if I want to play disc golf or something?" Get a fucking babysitter? I dunno. Let me not have to figure out the plan for child are for one day a month!

Overall my husband is not a dickhead. But he Has been displaying some stereotypical only child behaviors lately when I need a supportive shoulder to lean on.

I think you need to force him to that realization. Instead of asking, say starting in January I will be participating in xyz on this day of the month. This is me time. If something comes up and you need to get a babysitter, no big deal. Your mistake here is asking, like you need his permission. You do not. You're an adult. You are partners. You both created this kid, you are both EQUALLY responsible for the welfare and happiness. You deserve to be happy.

Yep. I know this. I wanted to give him the opportunity to show his supportive side. The only correct answer to the question was, "I am sure one day a month is something we can work out." OR "um, of course!"

I am actually pretty directive when I am stressed and he has said I have been bossing everyone around like he and DD are my employees (note, I do not usually have to boss around my employees; most of them see shit needs to be done and they do it.) So I was being sensitive to that... Backfired. So now I am just going to tell him I am doing it and I will give him the phone numbers of babysitters if he needs one.


Eta sorry to hijack this post. I am going to take my bitching over to the grumpy ransoms thread.

[nsl]

I've mentioned steak knives and a new silver watch with a rectangular face. I'd really like to get the living room painted, though.

[saz]

I asked DH to buy me non athletic looking sneakers. I showed him the exact pair.

I don't really know what else to ask for, but no one else has asked. Gift cards or money is what I would most like.

Last year, all I wanted was a bfp and got one Christmas Eve so I'm still kind of riding the high of that.

[sparrowsong]

These shoes or these shoes
A new cat tree. My kitties have shredded theirs. 
An eco, ethanol burning, fireplace insert for my non-functional fireplace.
Guide book for the Colorado trail

[Vespasia]

I am not sure what I want but I know what I am buying for everyone here.





Posting on my phone, hope this works.