State of the Ute 12.9.2014

[oneslybookworm]

1. Where are you in your journey?

2. Are you testing this week?

3. Any vents, thoughts, etc.?

4.  Favorite holiday tradition?

[oneslybookworm]

1. Where are you in your journey? - cycle 22, CD18, 5DPO

2. Are you testing this week? - Nope, we completely missed FW due to both DH and I being ridiculously sick, so no need. Just waiting for CD1, then on to cycle 23.

3. Any vents, thoughts, etc.? - I can't believe we're nearly 24 cycles into it. Since my cyles are less than a month in length, it's not quite two years, but I just honestly never thought it'd get to be so many cycles in.

4. Favorite holiday tradition? - We watch all of the Harry Potter movies leading up to Christmas Eve, then on Christmas Eve we do Midnight Mass and Polar Express...and then I make fatty delicious baked cinnamon French toast for breakfast Christmas morning. YUM!

[miamigirl]

1. Where are you in your journey? TTCAL cycle 2, CD 17, 4 DPO

2. Are you testing this week? No. I will only test of I'm late

3. Any vents, thoughts, etc.? Not much to share. We had good timing this cycle, and I'm feeling hopeful.

4. Favorite holiday tradition? I'm happy I get to see my family. I haven't seen them in almost a year!

[MrsMB]

1. Where are you in your journey? Cycle 13, CD 18, FF says I'm 6dpo, I say I'm 5dpo. Wanna look and tell me if I'm right? www.fertilityfriend.com/home/44a9e3
2. Are you testing this week? Not this week.
3. Any vents, thoughts, etc.? Just really anxious to get DH's SA results back. I know I may not hear until Friday or next Monday. Luckily, work is busy so I'm preoccupied. I thought I would O on CD13 as is my average. However, FF is saying we O'd on CD12. That makes me worry about our timing. We would have had sex on CD 11, but DH had his SA done that day....so I really hope FF is wrong and I really O'd on CD13. 
4. Favorite holiday tradition? Opening a present on Christmas Eve is always fun.

[Mushe]

1. Where are you in your journey?[/p]

TTC #2 since March (can't remember cycle. Now with MMC in May and CP in December.

2. Are you testing this week?

Nada

3. Any vents, thoughts, etc.?

I am swinging wildly between being so upset, and being encouraged that I got pregnant again. Meeting with my doctor on Thursday for a follow up, and I'm going to insist that I get progesterone tested next time. I had two friends email me that they had the same kind of spotting and ended up having low progesterone, despite no other signs like a short LP.

4.  Favorite holiday tradition?
I love to go cut down our own Christmas tree! We ended up not doing it this year because potty training was going so poorly, and I really am disappointed.

[pantaloons55]

1. Where are you in your journey? TTC #1, Cycle 3, CD 11
2. Are you testing this week? Nope, just watching temps and CM
3. Any vents, thoughts, etc.? Just waiting to see what happens this month as we're heading into FW now If we did get pregnant this week, we could potentially know if it worked by Christmas Day, as that should be CD1 for Cycle 4. I am really trying not to think about that, one way or the other.
MIL is starting to drive me up a fucking wall. Fortunately she isn't asking me directly, but H has been reporting on the running commentary. Everything seems to be a 'sign' to her. I don't need assistance with the crazy. She's all about the "Are we pregnant yet?" And oh, how she wants grand-babies, and how I've been looking so 'glowy', and 'healthy'. Every month. And for the record, I'm just getting fat, thanks for asking. LOL. H told her last month that I just put on weight and she is still asking about it. In all honesty, I have put on some post-wedding weight since July (which I'm told is an improvement) but its not that drastic, and clearly no baby bump in sight... jesus.
4. Favorite holiday tradition? Ahh, so many. I love the cinnamon bun breakfast in PJs at Mom and Dad's on Christmas morning. Its Mom, Dad, me and H, and my brother (and sometimes his girlfriend, next year potentially a fiancee!) hang out around the tree, and we eat, listen to Christmas music and open stockings. Its a nice, relaxing morning before the rest of the day gets busy. I figure this might change post-children, and someday we'll have different traditions, but right now, I'm soaking it all up. 

[Mushe]

Dec 9, 2014 14:13:36 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

3. Any vents, thoughts, etc.? I had my first TTC-related meltdown over the weekend. We had dinner with my in-laws in NYC on Saturday and my FIL kept pushing about when we were having kids (they don't know we're TTC). I had to excuse myself and go to the bathroom to cry . I later texted my SIL (who knows we're TTC) that I know they mean well, but to please gently tell her parents to not bring it up anymore, because we've been trying for almost a year and its a sensitive subject for me. She was pretty cold and defensive in her response and that made me even more upset

Oooh, this makes me so upset for you! I'm really sorry. I would hope she's never been in this place, because once you know what this feels like, I don't think you should be able to not empathize.

[pantaloons55]

Dec 9, 2014 14:13:36 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

1. Where are you in your journey? TTC since Feb '14, CD6

2. Are you testing this week? no

3. Any vents, thoughts, etc.? I had my first TTC-related meltdown over the weekend. We had dinner with my in-laws in NYC on Saturday and my FIL kept pushing about when we were having kids (they don't know we're TTC). I had to excuse myself and go to the bathroom to cry . I later texted my SIL (who knows we're TTC) that I know they mean well, but to please gently tell her parents to not bring it up anymore, because we've been trying for almost a year and its a sensitive subject for me. She was pretty cold and defensive in her response and that made me even more upset

4. Favorite holiday tradition? We go to NYC for a weekend every December, which is always fun. My BFF and I also always get together for a fancy dinner and Christmas TV episode marathon (this Friday).

I'm so sorry you are dealing with such insensitivity  (hugs)

[MrsMB]

scm1011 I really hope someone wakes up and realizes they need to be much more respectful!

[oneslybookworm]

Dec 9, 2014 14:13:36 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

1. Where are you in your journey? TTC since Feb '14, CD6

2. Are you testing this week? no

3. Any vents, thoughts, etc.? I had my first TTC-related meltdown over the weekend. We had dinner with my in-laws in NYC on Saturday and my FIL kept pushing about when we were having kids (they don't know we're TTC). I had to excuse myself and go to the bathroom to cry . I later texted my SIL (who knows we're TTC) that I know they mean well, but to please gently tell her parents to not bring it up anymore, because we've been trying for almost a year and its a sensitive subject for me. She was pretty cold and defensive in her response and that made me even more upset

4. Favorite holiday tradition? We go to NYC for a weekend every December, which is always fun. My BFF and I also always get together for a fancy dinner and Christmas TV episode marathon (this Friday).

I am so sorry! That's terrible that she was so insensitive!

[HoneySpider]

1. Where are you in your journey?
TTC since Jan 2012, Cycle 21 TTCAL, CD8
2. Are you testing this week?
Nope
3. Any vents, thoughts, etc.?
Nah, just waiting for our follow up meeting with the RE next week to go over all of the test results. We're not expecting anything different from the results we got last year but you never know.
4. Favorite holiday tradition?
Pork roll on Christmas morning!

[Mushe]

pantaloons55 the SIGNS! OMG, my mom does the same.

I hoping you get good news on the 24th, and that if not, your MIL chills out.

[Koala]

1. Where are you in your journey? TTC since Feb.  TTCAL Cycle 4 CD26 10DPO
2. Are you testing this week? Maybe on Thursday because we have a holiday party that night and are traveling on Friday.  I want to know if I can drink at the party. 
3. Any vents, thoughts, etc.? Not feeling very hopeful.  Starting to get some cramps (which isn't a normal PMS symptom for me).  So, who knows.  We did have really good timing this month though.
4. Favorite holiday tradition?  I enjoy spending time with family, and also just hanging out at home with DH.  Things have changed over the past few years, but that's ok.

[ginkgoleaf]

1. Where are you in your journey? TTC #2 since August 2013, CD8. We had an IVF consult this morning after our 6th failed IUI. Looking to start in January if my hormones were ok today, otherwise it'll be February.
2. Are you testing this week? Nope
3. Any vents, thoughts, etc.? My RE seemed very optimistic that the first IVF should work. I did baseline bloodwork and ultrasound today and as long as hormones are ok, I'll start BCP ASAP in prep for IVF. If not, I think they'll let me get my next period and then start BCPs... waiting for the call this afternoon. A very good thing is that our insurance is changing and it looks like we will have some infertility coverage! We've been all OOP so far, so this would be awesome news, just in time for starting IVF.
4. Favorite holiday tradition? Just being with family and having a nice relaxing day together.

ETA: Just got the call from the nurse, my hormones are good and I'm starting BCP tomorrow morning in prep for a January IVF cycle.  Woot!

[EllenGriswold]

1. Where are you in your journey? TTC since Nov. 2013, MC Mar. 2014; CD 6

2. Are you testing this week? Nothing for me this week. H is doing a second SA on Thursday.

3. Any vents, thoughts, etc.? I am not temping this cycle, and not expecting anything and so far it's kind of wonderful. Hoping just to get through the holidays without stressing over TTC, it's just too much. Also seriously considering deleting my Facebook, I'm just so done with the baby pictures and pregnancy announcements!

4. Favorite holiday tradition? Since we've been married I get DH a different edition of The Night Before Christmas every year. I try to make it related to something we did that year, or just find a really pretty one, so one day we will have this awesome collection.

[awick14]

((scm1011)) people can be so insensitive sometimes.

1. 26 months into TTC. CD 68.

2. I tested this morning as per doctors orders, BFN. (I know that already.)

3. I am on CD 68 and my dr has prescribed me progesterone to try and restart my cycle. Hopefully this starts AF. I am also getting my hopes up as the last time I had to take progesterone I got pregnant right after. But over 2 years in I shouldn't get my hopes up just in case. Ugh!

4. Watching old Christmas movies from our childhood with DH. We watched these ones the other day.

[callmehales]

1. Where are you in your journey? cycle 13, CD 17, 4DPO (even though FF doesn't think so, i do)

2. Are you testing this week? no tests until i'm at least 15DPO

3. Any vents, thoughts, etc.? remember last week i mentioned my friend who's TTCAL this spring, and how i'd be sad if she got PG before me? oh yes, you guessed it, she called me saturday to tell me she got a positive test.  so no more commiserating with her.  she was all "i had this weird cramp last week, did you know you can FEEL ovulation pains??".  yeah, yeah i did know that. and i know the word for it. and all the signs for ovulation beyond just plugging dates into a phone app and having it alert you that it's probably your FW.  and where to buy OPKs. and how to tell whether they're positive or negative.  and all this other information you think it's "so great" that i find out, when in reality i wish i didn't know any of it. i wish i could be like you and not feel like getting PG on my own is slipping away. OH, and another friend who got PG last year WHILE she took plan B keeps telling me if i want her to ask her BIL who's an OB about what my next steps might be or what to expect, she will. BITCH HE WILL NOT TELL ME ANYTHING I DON'T KNOW ALREADY. i'm not some dumb girl just floating around blindly hoping to get a baby. i'm doing EVERYTHING i can.

4. Favorite holiday tradition?  in the last few years, DH and i started going to waffle house for dinner one night, then driving around to look at lights.  i've got lots of stuff i do with my family, but this one is just ours. i can't wait to be able to do it with our kids one day.

[bcv513]

1. Where are you in your journey? TTCAL Cycle 1, CD 31

2. Are you testing this week? Nope. I was told it could take up to six weeks for everything to re-start

3. Any vents, thoughts, etc.? I see my new OB one week from today. I'm excited. I'm also struggling with a lot of guilt around the m/c. My OB told me that even though my betas kept going up that there was no point, and to stop taking progesterone and see what happened. I feel like I should have done more or kept taking the progesterone

4. Favorite holiday tradition? I love Christmas Eve with my family. We get Chinese food, open presents, it's just really relaxing. When I was a kid, my dad would always dress up as Santa and give each of us a present, and my grandfather would read all of us "The Night Before Christmas."

[preppy]

1. Where are you in your journey? Cycle 11, CD26 9 DPO
2. Are you testing this week? Yes, I will likely start testing Saturday since I will be in SF before that and don't want to test without DH. I am not bringing any tests so that I will have to go out of my way to get any in SF, lol. I am hoping this forces me to wait.
3. Any vents, thoughts, etc.? I am not feeling great about this cycle after DH's SA results even though we had damn near perfect timing. I am hoping I am wrong. I have been off BC and not using protection for 15 months and "officially" trying/timing for 11 cycles. I am ready for some good news.
4. Favorite holiday tradition? Hmm. We don't have a ton of traditions. We do something different every year for the most part since we are going back and forth to different places. This year we are staying home by ourselves on xmas eve/morning and I am SO fucking happy about this. I hope this is the new tradition to stay home and see no one till later in the day. I like our extended families but I prefer to just be with DH, lol.

[preppy]

Dec 9, 2014 14:13:36 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

1. Where are you in your journey? TTC since Feb '14, CD6

2. Are you testing this week? no

3. Any vents, thoughts, etc.? I had my first TTC-related meltdown over the weekend. We had dinner with my in-laws in NYC on Saturday and my FIL kept pushing about when we were having kids (they don't know we're TTC). I had to excuse myself and go to the bathroom to cry . I later texted my SIL (who knows we're TTC) that I know they mean well, but to please gently tell her parents to not bring it up anymore, because we've been trying for almost a year and its a sensitive subject for me. She was pretty cold and defensive in her response and that made me even more upset

4. Favorite holiday tradition? We go to NYC for a weekend every December, which is always fun. My BFF and I also always get together for a fancy dinner and Christmas TV episode marathon (this Friday).

I hate people. I am sorry your SIL and FIL were both snatches. HUGS!

[Deleted]

1. Cycle 15, CD 28 or 29 (maybe 13-14 DPO)
2. Not testing this week, waiting for AF. May test a week from now if it's late.
3. No thoughts.
4. My favorite holiday tradition is making borscht for Christmas .

[belle55]

Dec 9, 2014 13:53:42 GMT -5 oneslybookworm said:

1. Where are you in your journey?

2. Are you testing this week?

3. Any vents, thoughts, etc.?

4.  Favorite holiday tradition?

1. TTC since Nov. '13, Cycle 3 AL, CD 3
2. Nope.
3. Just ordered FertileCM thru amazon so am going to try that out this cycle. Bummed I won't be pregnant by Christmas. Annoyed my FW falls during Christmas week with houseguests and traveling.
4. Growing up we always opened gifts with my immediate family on Christmas Eve so I've made a point to continue that with me and H. A special meal, gift opening, a Christmas movie. MIL is a little miffed we won't be traveling to see them until Christmas Day, but I just want this ONE night. So she can deal.

[aprilsails]

1. Where are you in your journey?
Cycle 8, CD 25, 9DPO

2. Are you testing this week?
Going to wait until Saturday although I'm hoping my chart tells me the truth before then.

3. Any vents, thoughts, etc.?
I'm obsessively stalking my chart. I had a really big odd dip at 7 DPO when I had nothing weird going on with myself physically to cause it and I took my temps on time. I didn't think this cycle would work because DH was so sick but fingers are still crossed. My temp rose just a shade above usual today too. Luckily work is crazy busy so I am keeping myself distracted here.

4. Favorite holiday tradition?
Just the usual massive family Christmas get-togethers. The ILs go to a late mass Christmas Eve and then have a midnight dinner. My Mom's family celebrates on Christmas Day (there will be 30+ people). My Dad's family celebrates Boxing Day (25+ people). I love seeing all of my cousins and their kids.

We also put up a Christmas tree for the first time in our house since our kitchen renos knocked down a wall and freed up the space. It's so beautiful and it was fun pulling out the decorations that had been boxed up for 4 years.

[aprilsails]

Dec 9, 2014 14:40:27 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

Thanks, ladies. I appreciate the empathy and hugs!

I'm so sorry this happened. I would suggest you have your DH tell his parents what is going on and that they need to back off. You don't need this.

Big hugs and lots of good wishes for 2015.

[Blackout81]

1. Where are you in your journey?
TTC#2 cycle 4 CD26

2. Are you testing this week?
If AF doesn't show up, either tomorrow and/or Thursday

3. Any vents, thoughts, etc.?
Not feeling very hopeful, as I posted my boob soreness is nearly gone. Our timing was really good and frequent this month so it's particularly frustrating. My sister and her family will be staying with us during next anticipated O time, which is also frustrating because it will be harder to get things done, so I feel like like we're out till the new year.

4. Favorite holiday tradition?
Seven fishes on Christmas Eve

[ellipsis]

1. Where are you in your journey?  Cycle 4, CD32, 11 or 12 DPO
2. Are you testing this week? I think I will on Friday morning if AF hasn't arrived. I had some cramps over the weekend and dark spotting yesterday (and nothing since even after doing jump rope at the gym last night). I'm kind of freaking out.
3. Any vents, thoughts, etc.? This week is going by sooo slowly.
4. Favorite holiday tradition? DH and I have Christmas morning with just the 2 of us and I love it. No crazy in-laws, distractions, or drama.

[tiptoetulips]

1.ttc since June '13 ttcal cycle 2. Cd 6
2. No
3. This past cycle was the earliest I've ovulated (cd 19) since going off bc 2 years ago. I feel like my body is finally figuring things out I hope this gives us a fair shot
4. We do breakfast just the 2 of us brunch with his family and dinner with mine Christmas Day it's perfect

[daisy]

1. Where are you in your journey?
Cycle 6, CD 8
2. Are you testing this week?
Starting OPKs Friday
3. Any vents, thoughts, etc.?
I'm so excited because after the last 2 cycles of not really trying we're going to TRY TRY this cycle.
4.  Favorite holiday tradition?
We usually go to MIL's on Christmas Eve and that's really fun.

[kellikans]

1. Where are you in your journey?
cycle 14, cd12

2. Are you testing this week?
OPK's

3. Any vents, thoughts, etc.?
had my day 12 monitoring appointment today.  I'm not on Clomid this cycle and had a 15mm follicle.  I'm going back in next Monday to hopefully trigger and do IUI #3 on Tuesday.  if I trigger on Monday, that'll be cd18, which is really late for me.  unless my folly wants to grow quicker and then it would be over the weekend.  almost hoping its over the weekend since Monday and Tuesday of next week are really bad in terms of work for both DH and I.  I also just made a consultation appointment with an RE for January 7.  hoping I get to cancel it.

4. Favorite holiday tradition?
I love waking up Christmas morning and sitting around listening to Christmas music while we open presents.  and my mom's cinnamon rolls on Christmas morning. 

[macmars45]

1. cycle 5 cd3

2. No.

3. Ugh. We had such good timing this past cycle. I though it could be it for us. It's so frustrating and it doesn't help that every time I turn around someone else I know is pregnant. Such a conflicting time for me.

4. Christmas morning brunch. Cinnamon rolls, eggs & sausage casserole, sausage, oranges. Also the whole time with my immediate family. My dad reads the Christmas story from Matthew, we open stockings then go to the table and each family unit gets $50 (from my parents) to donate to whatever cause we'd like to. My dad talks about how fortunate we are and how it's great to help others. Last is presents. We all get a present and then open together until there are no presents left. I (heart) time with my family.