Flame Free Thursday

[oneslybookworm]

Normally, I'd post this on a Friday, but the board seemed slow so I thought I'd liven it up. Post your biggest unpopular opinions here!  This can be anything, not just TTC stuff.  Unload and unwind.

And....GO!

[cgpm]

I have to miss instructional time next week for a 4 hour in-house workshop so I can adapt my lessons/materials for ONE student. They were also suggesting an additional 2 day workshop in January. Every child matters, but man, the amount of time I have put in so far is absurd. I feel awful for feeling this way because I like this kid and none of this is his fault.

[oneslybookworm]

I'm going to kill my husband. He has put together this Christmas party at our house for our teams at work. Which, awesome! I love Christmas parties! EXCEPT...who is doing the vast majority of the work?!?! Oh...that's right...me.

Bah freaking humbug!

[aprilsails]

I am behind at work. Badly behind. I should be working late and coming in early but I just want to be off for Christmas. My heart is not in it right now and we have been shorthanded for over a year and a half. I don't want to do it all anymore. Also, my one boss left yesterday for a month long vacation and the other one leaves tomorrow for an extended Christmas break too. Makes me not give a fuck.

I also just got a notice on LinkedIn that my company was looking for applicants like me! This doesn't help LinkedIn. Damn.

[aprilsails]

That sounds like a lot of work oneslybookworm.

DH also likes being the social convenor for his group of friends which means that we always host a New Years Eve party. This year he's working that day so I will have to do all the final preparations. I'm not exactly thrilled about it.

[oneslybookworm]

Another confession: I am looking at doing IUIs starting in January, since we're now 23 cycles in and jack squat. It's gonna be ~$2k out of pocket per cycle (obviously, it could fluctuate...some less, some more...hopefully all less!), and I'm just irrationally angry that I am paying SO MUCH for something that is so easy/free to so many. I just hate it, and I hate that I'm bitter at women who get pregnant so easily.

[miamigirl]

I'm really judging my pregnant coworker. She's around 25 weeks and all she's done since she announced at 12 weeks is complain and whine about how she wishes it was over by now.

It enrages me. Dude, enjoy it!! All I can think about is I'd be almost 23 weeks now, and it makes me really sad. It's not fair.

[HoneySpider]

Dec 11, 2014 10:36:29 GMT -5 oneslybookworm said:

Another confession: I am looking at doing IUIs starting in January, since we're now 23 cycles in and jack squat. It's gonna be ~$2k out of pocket per cycle (obviously, it could fluctuate...some less, some more...hopefully all less!), and I'm just irrationally angry that I am paying SO MUCH for something that is so easy/free to so many. I just hate it, and I hate that I'm bitter at women who get pregnant so easily.

You are definitely not alone in this feeling. Part of the reason we put off IUIs initially was the cost (we would have been OOP too). It blows. 

[raangoli]

Deleted since I don't trust the interwebs. It wasn't anything too exciting anyway.

[raangoli]

cgpm - that does seem like an awful lot for one child, but it's kind of nice to see that there is so much effort put in to ensure that every child matters.

oneslybookworm - it really is unfair that something that should be free and come so easily to others (who don't seem to appreciate it like miamigirl's coworker) is so expensive. Speaking of that coworker, I'd probably snap at her one day and put her in her place. I am in no mood lately to deal with crap like that.

[preppy]

My flameful is that I won 3 nights at a cancun all inclusive at an event planner summit and I don't want to use it since I really do NOT like all inclusives or the idea of cancun. We are planning a trip in Feb for my 30th and DH wants us to consider cancun to use this and they switch to the ritz for the other nights. I am being a snob. Flame me.

[callmehales]

Dec 11, 2014 10:44:38 GMT -5 miamigirl said:

I'm really judging my pregnant coworker. She's around 25 weeks and all she's done since she announced at 12 weeks is complain and whine about how she wishes it was over by now.

It enrages me. Dude, enjoy it!! All I can think about is I'd be almost 23 weeks now, and it makes me really sad. It's not fair.

i've been judging an acquaintance for the same thing since she announced she was PG this summer.  first she was miserable with HG, then she couldn't sleep, then she was sick of being PG and now that baby is here she had the audacity TO COMPLAIN ABOUT BEING RELEASED FROM THE HOSPITAL BECAUSE SHE WOULD MISS HAVING MEALS COOKED FOR HER. and she whined that no one volunteered to bring her food when she got home. 

bitch, you didn't plan to get pregnant. and ALL you've done is whine about something that some folks agonize over every.single.day.

[Deleted]

CD1 here . I thought we made a really good effort this month, too. I feel like I'm going to need a giant burger and fries with dinner, with a side of Doritos lol.

Yesterday we went to the in-laws' for dinner. My H told me (after we got home) that when I was in the bathroom, MIL asked him when we're going to have kids. He said he doesn't know, it'll happen if/when it happens. I noticed she was looking at me askance all through dinner, so now I'm worried she thinks I don't want kids (not that it's her business either way) and that I'm making her son miserable. She has an astounding ability to misunderstand what he says and blaming me for things. I already know that most of his family thinks he could have done better when it came to choosing a wife, so I guess this is another strike against me.

[belle55]

Dec 11, 2014 10:44:38 GMT -5 miamigirl said:

I'm really judging my pregnant coworker. She's around 25 weeks and all she's done since she announced at 12 weeks is complain and whine about how she wishes it was over by now.

It enrages me. Dude, enjoy it!! All I can think about is I'd be almost 23 weeks now, and it makes me really sad. It's not fair.

Oh man. How annoying. I'm in the same situation with a coworker whose wife is due when I was due, and I did my best to avoid her and her cute bump at our holiday party last week, only to run into her at the mall (of all places!) the next day.

[raangoli]

Dec 11, 2014 13:00:07 GMT -5 preppy said:

My flameful is that I won 3 nights at a cancun all inclusive at an event planner summit and I don't want to use it since I really do NOT like all inclusives or the idea of cancun. We are planning a trip in Feb for my 30th and DH wants us to consider cancun to use this and they switch to the ritz for the other nights. I am being a snob. Flame me.

This is not flameful. I wouldn't want to spend time at a place I didn't want to be at, especially if it was for a birthday/

[raangoli]

milsaroo - That guy sounds really annoying. I hate when one person ruins everything!

[daisy]

I have a final exam tonight that I'm most likely not going to pass, meaning I probably won't pass the class either. I've never failed a class before but I give zero fucks right now. I'm not taking any classes in spring because I want to concentrate on a lot of other things (like TTC or hopefully being PG). I've pretty much written off school again. I have a good job with great pay and benefits. Getting my degree isn't as important as it used to be.

[starburst604]

Dec 11, 2014 13:00:07 GMT -5 preppy said:

My flameful is that I won 3 nights at a cancun all inclusive at an event planner summit and I don't want to use it since I really do NOT like all inclusives or the idea of cancun. We are planning a trip in Feb for my 30th and DH wants us to consider cancun to use this and they switch to the ritz for the other nights. I am being a snob. Flame me.

Have you been to Cancun before? I avoided it forever because all I could think of was drunk Spring Breakers and sleaze, but I went there to an AI for a friend's birthday a few years ago and found it actually quite beautiful (well the beaches/ocean) and loved our resort. The food was even really good. I was surprised. I don't know how great Cancun is off resort, and your experience could be very different based on which AI you won. I would go there again though!

[preppy]

milsaroo I just really prefer to try local restaurants when I travel and I also feel like they are usually too big. I like smaller resorts where I can feel alone on the beach.

starburst604 No I have never been to cancun. I think I def have an idea of spring break in my mine and I can't get it out. Which AI did you go to for your friends bday? I have passes that would work at any of the Palace resorts and they have three or four in the cancun area to choose from. I am happy to hear you had a good time in Cancun!

[Mushe]

Dec 11, 2014 13:58:29 GMT -5 preppy said:

milsaroo I just really prefer to try local restaurants when I travel and I also feel like they are usually too big. I like smaller resorts where I can feel alone on the beach.

starburst604 No I have never been to cancun. I think I def have an idea of spring break in my mine and I can't get it out. Which AI did you go to for your friends bday? I have passes that would work at any of the Palace resorts and they have three or four in the cancun area to choose from. I am happy to hear you had a good time in Cancun!

No flames - I think there is such a thing as a good AI (I was looking at one owned by Hyatt in the cancun area for our first time), but I haven't heard great things about the Palace ones. If you like small resorts, we LOVE Isla Mujeres, which is a small island just a ferry ride off Cancun. You could easily do the 3 nights at the Palace and then go have an amazing time on Isla. The local restaurants are very good, it's incredibly safe, and the beach is fantastic. Know those Corona white sand beach commercials? Yup, Isla.

I saw Clay Matthews there the last time we went.

[preppy]

Dec 11, 2014 14:12:45 GMT -5 Mushe said:

Dec 11, 2014 13:58:29 GMT -5 preppy said:

milsaroo I just really prefer to try local restaurants when I travel and I also feel like they are usually too big. I like smaller resorts where I can feel alone on the beach.

starburst604 No I have never been to cancun. I think I def have an idea of spring break in my mine and I can't get it out. Which AI did you go to for your friends bday? I have passes that would work at any of the Palace resorts and they have three or four in the cancun area to choose from. I am happy to hear you had a good time in Cancun!

No flames - I think there is such a thing as a good AI (I was looking at one owned by Hyatt in the cancun area for our first time), but I haven't heard great things about the Palace ones. If you like small resorts, we LOVE Isla Mujeres, which is a small island just a ferry ride off Cancun. You could easily do the 3 nights at the Palace and then go have an amazing time on Isla. The local restaurants are very good, it's incredibly safe, and the beach is fantastic. Know those Corona white sand beach commercials? Yup, Isla.

I saw Clay Matthews there the last time we went.

There is a palace resort on Isla Mujeres we can use the passes at. I will look into that!! Thanks for the suggestion:)

(also who is Clay Matthews? is not knowing who this is a whole new flameful?)

[preppy]

Dec 11, 2014 14:10:38 GMT -5 milsaroo said:

preppy, I can understand wanting to do local restaurants. We went to a Palace resort in Cancun for our HM! We were young and broke and it was AWESOME at the time but I could see how it wouldn't be as wonderful now. I'm trying to think if ours had a name (Moon, Sun, whatever) because I *think* ours was the cheapest out of all the palace ones and some of the other locations were much better.

As far as the atmosphere goes, we went mid-November and it was perfect because it was still amazing weather and they had a DJ/emcee at the pool area for daily activities but there was enough pool (or maybe 2 pools?) to not be bothered by it, and then when we walked down to the beach we could be more alone. The pools had swim up bars of gloriousness, room service was free, and I just love the idea of AI because we didn't have to think about money for a second while there. However, I will say that the food was good but not great and definitely got old after being there a week. We're not picky though and I am easily satisfied when it comes to food. (Pizza and French fries happened often...)

I am glad you had such a great time there! It sounds like you had a great honeymoon:)

A DJ by the pool gives me a little anxiety though, lol. 

[Mushe]

Dec 11, 2014 14:30:57 GMT -5 preppy said:

Dec 11, 2014 14:12:45 GMT -5 Mushe said:

No flames - I think there is such a thing as a good AI (I was looking at one owned by Hyatt in the cancun area for our first time), but I haven't heard great things about the Palace ones. If you like small resorts, we LOVE Isla Mujeres, which is a small island just a ferry ride off Cancun. You could easily do the 3 nights at the Palace and then go have an amazing time on Isla. The local restaurants are very good, it's incredibly safe, and the beach is fantastic. Know those Corona white sand beach commercials? Yup, Isla.

I saw Clay Matthews there the last time we went.

There is a palace resort on Isla Mujeres we can use the passes at. I will look into that!! Thanks for the suggestion:)

(also who is Clay Matthews? is not knowing who this is a whole new flameful?)

Hahaha! He's a hottie football player for Green Bay. Well, hot except for his gross long hair, but it was tied back that day, and he's super attractive in person.

And that's great! I think I know where the Palace is in Isla, and it looked like a nice, new building. We stayed at the Ixchel hotel right next door (if it's where I'm thinking), and it's just a perfect location.

Food on island is not expensive, so it's not really a big deal to pay for it twice. Our very best meal was at a Mediterranean place, and with drinks and apps, it was about $35 for the two of us.

[preppy]

www.palaceresorts.com/islamujerespalace/en

Mushe This is the resort on Isla Mujeres. I think I like this one a lot more and I like the idea of being out on an island:) Thanks for the idea!!

I sent this over to DH and will see what he says. I think its going to be sunshine and cocktails for my 30th birthday!

[Mushe]

Dec 11, 2014 17:16:28 GMT -5 preppy said:

www.palaceresorts.com/islamujerespalace/en

Mushe This is the resort on Isla Mujeres. I think I like this one a lot more and I like the idea of being out on an island:) Thanks for the idea!!

I sent this over to DH and will see what he says. I think its going to be sunshine and cocktails for my 30th birthday!

Cool! The island is super small; we rented a golf cart one day and went around. From there, you'd probably want a taxi to the main town, where you see Playa Norte on the maps. That's where all the restaurants are. Would you stay longer than the 3 days? If so, I'd definitely recommend staying near playa Norte the other nights. It's fantastic to be able to walk home.

[macmars45]

Dec 11, 2014 13:30:43 GMT -5 @moonbeam said:

CD1 here . I thought we made a really good effort this month, too. I feel like I'm going to need a giant burger and fries with dinner, with a side of Doritos lol.

Yesterday we went to the in-laws' for dinner. My H told me (after we got home) that when I was in the bathroom, MIL asked him when we're going to have kids. He said he doesn't know, it'll happen if/when it happens. I noticed she was looking at me askance all through dinner, so now I'm worried she thinks I don't want kids (not that it's her business either way) and that I'm making her son miserable. She has an astounding ability to misunderstand what he says and blaming me for things. I already know that most of his family thinks he could have done better when it came to choosing a wife, so I guess this is another strike against me.

You and me both. I was so sad when cd1 came around (5 days ago) because we had such good timing last cycle. Ugh. There were tears.

My FIL came to visit early last month and asked H if I was pregnant (when I wasn't with them). Unfortunately H went into a little too much detail... FIL doesn't need to know I'm on my period H! *sigh*    

[Blackout81]

My younger sisters get pregnant on demand, one has 3 kids, the other has 2. We're close so they know we started TTC and they know it took a while the first time and they know it's not happening as quickly as we'd like this time. So what does my middle sister do? Announce that she thinks she wants another baby and they're going to "see what happens".

Guarantee she announces she's pregnant while she and her family are staying with us. For the holidays. During my next FW. I love her and would be happy for her, but, ugh.

[aprilsails]

Dec 12, 2014 6:45:41 GMT -5 Blackout81 said:

My younger sisters get pregnant on demand, one has 3 kids, the other has 2. We're close so they know we started TTC and they know it took a while the first time and they know it's not happening as quickly as we'd like this time. So what does my middle sister do? Announce that she thinks she wants another baby and they're going to "see what happens".

Guarantee she announces she's pregnant while she and her family are staying with us. For the holidays. During my next FW. I love her and would be happy for her, but, ugh.

This is hard. Please try not to be mad at her before it happens though. I've been trying since early spring and my stepsister (who already has an oops baby) announced she would try after her last wedding this fall (she works in the wedding industry). Turns out she would have been 4 weeks at the wedding if she even knew she was pregnant.

[daisy]

preppy - I'm on mobile 99% of the time so I'm just seeing your siggy and.... I die. Gah. I love him.

[preppy]

Dec 12, 2014 10:15:04 GMT -5 daisy said:

preppy - I'm on mobile 99% of the time so I'm just seeing your siggy and.... I die. Gah. I love him.

I love him. Ugh. I would do inappropriate things if I met him, lolol.