I'm 30 years old. I've never been married or even engaged because I don't take that shit lightly. Just over a year ago I got my ass out of an abusive relationship of 5 years, and for the last year I've been coming into my own and learning to stand on my own two feet. Before this past year I never even thought of planning a wedding because I don't really give two shits about some pretty princess day. I just started a relationship with someone who has been a good friend to me whom I care for deeply.
So if you want to think I'm some crazy idiot little girl for retaining some hope and having a dream now that I'm in a really good place, then how lovely for you and I wish you nothing but the best in life because I just really don't care.
I'm 30 years old. I've never been married or even engaged because I don't take that shit lightly. Just over a year ago I got my ass out of an abusive relationship of 5 years, and for the last year I've been coming into my own and learning to stand on my own two feet. Before this past year I never even thought of planning a wedding because I don't really give two shits about some pretty princess day. I just started a relationship with someone who has been a good friend to me whom I care for deeply.
So if you want to think I'm some crazy idiot little girl for retaining some hope and having a dream now that I'm in a really good place, then how lovely for you and I wish you nothing but the best in life because I just really don't care.
I don't. I think it's adorable to see you so excited. It's been a long-time coming for you and I'm happy to "see" it happen.
I'm 30 years old. I've never been married or even engaged because I don't take that shit lightly. Just over a year ago I got my ass out of an abusive relationship of 5 years, and for the last year I've been coming into my own and learning to stand on my own two feet. Before this past year I never even thought of planning a wedding because I don't really give two shits about some pretty princess day. I just started a relationship with someone who has been a good friend to me whom I care for deeply.
So if you want to think I'm some crazy idiot little girl for retaining some hope and having a dream now that I'm in a really good place, then how lovely for you and I wish you nothing but the best in life because I just really don't care.
I don't. I think it's adorable to see you so excited. It's been a long-time coming for you and I'm happy to "see" it happen.
For the first time in a long time last night I was sad I was single. It was like the weirdest thing and feel like such loser for it. I was at work late and there was this huge windstorm. One of the girls was on her phone to her boyfriend as she was walking out and was like "that sounds great. I'll meet you out front." Her BF is really nice and I was like I bet he has dinner and wine for her too. And then I was so sad that no one was there to pick me up or pour me a glass of wine. Then I beat myself up for not being 100 percent okay with being totally single. Gah! I hate when my cold shell of heart melts a little bit.
I understand what you're saying...I have times where I feel sad because I'm single, but I think that's normal. Don't beat yourself up for feeling this way!
I'm 30 years old. I've never been married or even engaged because I don't take that shit lightly. Just over a year ago I got my ass out of an abusive relationship of 5 years, and for the last year I've been coming into my own and learning to stand on my own two feet. Before this past year I never even thought of planning a wedding because I don't really give two shits about some pretty princess day. I just started a relationship with someone who has been a good friend to me whom I care for deeply.
So if you want to think I'm some crazy idiot little girl for retaining some hope and having a dream now that I'm in a really good place, then how lovely for you and I wish you nothing but the best in life because I just really don't care.
I apologize if you were offended. I don't have a pinterest, but I don't think it's weird that other people have them either. I'm super happy for you!
I'm not offended, I just know that not everyone here knows jack shit about me so I figured I'd give a little background so no one assumed that I'm some kind of wedding-obsessed-child-bridezilla-wannabe.
I've been texting/talking to this guy in Nashville for about two weeks that I met on Bristlr, a dating site for bearded people and people who like beards. So this guy and I are hitting it off, and it turns out that we grew up in the same town and even went to the same high school- he graduated in 03 and I in 06. We both really like each other so far and we have plans to go out first thing when I get back into town next week, day drinking on Saturday, which I'm really looking forward to. And we're already making other plans to see each other and go out.
So the flameful is that I'm still going to hook up with the gorgeous man I met last time I was home for that "Christmas cunnilingus".
I've been texting/talking to this guy in Nashville for about two weeks that I met on Bristlr, a dating site for bearded people and people who like beards. So this guy and I are hitting it off, and it turns out that we grew up in the same town and even went to the same high school- he graduated in 03 and I in 06. We both really like each other so far and we have plans to go out first thing when I get back into town next week, day drinking on Saturday, which I'm really looking forward to. And we're already making other plans to see each other and go out.
So the flameful is that I'm still going to hook up with the gorgeous man I met last time I was home for that "Christmas cunnilingus".
I'm not offended, I just know that not everyone here knows jack shit about me so I figured I'd give a little background so no one assumed that I'm some kind of wedding-obsessed-child-bridezilla-wannabe.
I think it's sweet that you've met someone you're excited about. I'm a cynical old hag at this point, but I already had my pretty princess day and don't think it's weird at all that other people want that. I think coming from the other side of it (been there, done that) it's less exciting and interesting (for some of us) than it was the first time around. I hope my chiming in about my own stupid cynicism didn't come off as criticizing anyone else's desire for normal things that most people want (and that I wanted and had at one point too). I think everyone who wants a pretty dress and a nice ring should experience that, and as much as my wedding was a mistake I also don't regret that I had that experience. It was a fun time and a super fun day.
Maybe for me my issue is that I associate that stuff with my first marriage and therefore hate both the marriage and the wedding. I have a strong desire for everything to be different the second time because the person I marry the second time will be totally different and the marriage (hopefully) will be totally different. Celebrating my marriage to the right person by doing a lot of the same things I did with the wrong person... just an aversion there. It's not rational.
@fucksticklegit I honestly admire your positive outlook. I dream about a wedding in my head, but would never even dare to consider making anything concrete not for fear of being viewed as "silly", but because it would just make me way too sad to look at because I feel like love in my life is a totally improbably and laughable conclusion. I've just totally given up.
Congrats on the relationship with someone who started as a friend! From what I've seen in my life those have turned out to be some of the best relationships I've seen.
I'm not offended, I just know that not everyone here knows jack shit about me so I figured I'd give a little background so no one assumed that I'm some kind of wedding-obsessed-child-bridezilla-wannabe.
I think it's sweet that you've met someone you're excited about. I'm a cynical old hag at this point, but I already had my pretty princess day and don't think it's weird at all that other people want that. I think coming from the other side of it (been there, done that) it's less exciting and interesting (for some of us) than it was the first time around. I hope my chiming in about my own stupid cynicism didn't come off as criticizing anyone else's desire for normal things that most people want (and that I wanted and had at one point too). I think everyone who wants a pretty dress and a nice ring should experience that, and as much as my wedding was a mistake I also don't regret that I had that experience. It was a fun time and a super fun day.
Maybe for me my issue is that I associate that stuff with my first marriage and therefore hate both the marriage and the wedding. I have a strong desire for everything to be different the second time because the person I marry the second time will be totally different and the marriage (hopefully) will be totally different. Celebrating my marriage to the right person by doing a lot of the same things I did with the wrong person... just an aversion there. It's not rational.
See, I can absolutely understand that perspective as well even though I've never been there myself and appreciate the difference of opinion. Snide remarks and sweeping generalizations to the contrary however don't rest easy upon me.
I'm not offended, I just know that not everyone here knows jack shit about me so I figured I'd give a little background so no one assumed that I'm some kind of wedding-obsessed-child-bridezilla-wannabe.
I'm glad you posted it. I didn't know some of your backstory. I really am happy for you!
Post by lyssbobiss, Command, B613 on Dec 12, 2014 15:32:41 GMT -5
HOLY SHIT I NEED TO KNOW MORE ABOUT THIS BEARD SITE.
@fucksticklegit I'm sorry if my post was offensive. I really am happy for you, and I probably jammed my foot in my mouth which I tend to do surrounding most things wedding/engagement. But I think your excitement is super cute.
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."
s/o beards... NG shaved his off not too long ago and I died a little inside. Thank you baby jesus he's growing it back and that it grows quickly, but man, I loved that beard and it was SO hard to look at him without it. Lol, I'm such a bitch. "Hi honey, please cover your face back up so I can look at you again. Kthnx".
@fucksticklegit I honestly admire your positive outlook. I dream about a wedding in my head, but would never even dare to consider making anything concrete not for fear of being viewed as "silly", but because it would just make me way too sad to look at because I feel like love in my life is a totally improbably and laughable conclusion. I've just totally given up.
Congrats on the relationship with someone who started as a friend! From what I've seen in my life those have turned out to be some of the best relationships I've seen.
The best thing I did this past year was to "give up". I did the exact opposite of what most people will advise; I focused on others instead of myself. I spent my time volunteering. Barring one instance of oral, I was celibate. I went on a handful of dates then realized it wasn't for me. I filled my time with other things that didn't let me throw an ongoing pity party for myself.
And in that time that I was busy with other things, he noticed and began to pursue me. And here we are.
HOLY SHIT I NEED TO KNOW MORE ABOUT THIS BEARD SITE.
@fucksticklegit I'm sorry if my post was offensive. I really am happy for you, and I probably jammed my foot in my mouth which I tend to do surrounding most things wedding/engagement. But I think your excitement is super cute.
I'm rarely offended. I get hot-headed occasionally and passionate, but rarely do I feel legitimately offended about anything.
Post by jojoandleo on Dec 12, 2014 15:47:31 GMT -5
fuckstick- I don't think mcc implied YOU only care about a PPD, but that SHE got caught up in one and now dislikes everything associated with HER day. I could be wrong, but I don't think it was a diss on you. I think she is having a rough day and it came out wrong.
Some people aren't wedding people and don't getvit. I love weddings! I want to plan everyone's! I love dresses and rings and cake and dancing. LOVE it! Other people hate them and can't understand the fantasy. Or don't like to fantasize about something that seems far off. Hell, planning my next wedding for when H leaves or dies already! ;P
I'm happy you are happy. I don't think you are legit planning your wedding already. I don't think you are planning ways to trick your new guy into marriage tomorrow. If you are, well, I may judge THAT!
@fucksticklegit I honestly admire your positive outlook. I dream about a wedding in my head, but would never even dare to consider making anything concrete not for fear of being viewed as "silly", but because it would just make me way too sad to look at because I feel like love in my life is a totally improbably and laughable conclusion. I've just totally given up.
Congrats on the relationship with someone who started as a friend! From what I've seen in my life those have turned out to be some of the best relationships I've seen.
The best thing I did this past year was to "give up". I did the exact opposite of what most people will advise; I focused on others instead of myself. I spent my time volunteering. Barring one instance of oral, I was celibate. I went on a handful of dates then realized it wasn't for me. I filled my time with other things that didn't let me throw an ongoing pity party for myself.
And in that time that I was busy with other things, he noticed and began to pursue me. And here we are.
Yep I've been single for about four years and is say doing a good job on focusing for me for about about 2 of those. I've accepted it it's probably not for me and that's okay. My life is actually really awesome and I rarely get sad about being single.
I really got screwed with this. My kid AND the BF both have Dec birthdays. My son is easy to shop for (he's turning 2), but the BF was definitely difficult. Especially since this is a new relationship so there was a lot of pressure.
ETA: I don't know what happened to the quote, but it was where you were talking about having to get 2 gifts.
Oh yeah, my family is full of Sagittarians, so I get it. I'm very sympathetic and don't take it personally if people get me a combined gift or whatever. That's what BF did last year. He told me he had an idea for something, but it was a little more $$ than we had agreed on, so would it be ok if he made it a bday and xmas gift? I was like, yeah, sure, IDGAF. It was a soda stream! I love it. And at that stage of our relationship (we still weren't official/exclusive), I would have been more upset if he had spent $70 on my bday and more on xmas. Unnecessary.
BF is a holiday season BDay too. I am giving him one nice gift. It is a Ralph Lauren tie in a tartan plaid from his Scottish clan/he is part-Scottish. He can wear it to work. I will also take him out to an upscale dinner in January. I was like, "Dude, I'll do two separate things but please let them be in two separate pay periods."
I'm not offended, I just know that not everyone here knows jack shit about me so I figured I'd give a little background so no one assumed that I'm some kind of wedding-obsessed-child-bridezilla-wannabe.
You say that like it's a bad thing. LOL. (heart) you girl
So there is a guy on OKC I messaged back and forth a few times, he is pretty cute with a beard, but I am not feeling the one picture he has w/o one...Would it be rude to ask if he normally wears the beard.
You say that like it's a bad thing. LOL. (heart) you girl
So there is a guy on OKC I messaged back and forth a few times, he is pretty cute with a beard, but I am not feeling the one picture he has w/o one...Would it be rude to ask if he normally wears the beard.
Nope, I'd ask.
I've asked guys who have different hairstyles in their profile picture what their hair currently looks like. No biggie.
Which reminds me, I went on a date this week and the guy looked completely different then his profile. The pictures were 4 years old and he gained at least 20 pounds. I don't care about the weight, but I wished his profile was accurate. I seriously didn't recognize him!
Post by Wanderista on Dec 12, 2014 16:19:08 GMT -5
My flameful is that I keep forgetting to write out Christmas/holiday cards. I've gotten several. I love getting them but I can be such a slacker about getting them into the mail. I often turn them into Christmas/New Year cards because by the time I mail them, they arrive for people around the New Year. I have a box of non-denominational cards and then I just write out whatever greeting a particular person would prefer. Anyway, I need to work on those tonight but I will probably forget.
As for Pinterest, mine is totally abstract. I just pin images I like in a thematic way aside from the food and recipe section. I actually don't use it much anymore because I used it a lot when I was dating the ex-bf and I kind of associate it with him. I should get over that though because it wasn't the website's fault that we didn't work out. I have no secret boards or anything.
Post by lexxasaurus on Dec 12, 2014 16:26:17 GMT -5
I die a little inside when BF has to shave for work related things (ie. getting fit for a respirator) so thank goodness he grows it out immediately after. Beards just amplify a dudes sexiness.
Oh yeah, my family is full of Sagittarians, so I get it. I'm very sympathetic and don't take it personally if people get me a combined gift or whatever. That's what BF did last year. He told me he had an idea for something, but it was a little more $$ than we had agreed on, so would it be ok if he made it a bday and xmas gift? I was like, yeah, sure, IDGAF. It was a soda stream! I love it. And at that stage of our relationship (we still weren't official/exclusive), I would have been more upset if he had spent $70 on my bday and more on xmas. Unnecessary.
BF is a holiday season BDay too. I am giving him one nice gift. It is a Ralph Lauren tie in a tartan plaid from his Scottish clan/he is part-Scottish. He can wear it to work. I will also take him out to an upscale dinner in January. I was like, "Dude, I'll do two separate things but please let them be in two separate pay periods."
This is hilarious because XH's bday is Jan 15 and he would always try to commiserate (read: compete) with my Dec bday. I was like, bitch no. Your bday is a whole paycheck cycle after Xmas. Mine is in the same pay cycle. Shut up.
My flameful is that bf had his holiday party last weekend, it was my first time meeting his coworkers and our first time staying in a hotel together. I got drunk and was back in the room and sleeping by 9:30 - classy:(. I was looking so forward to it, I loved my outfit, and was so excited to meet all the people he works with. We didn't eat (since he made breakfast). The party started at 5, service at the party was so slow and we didn't get our apps, drinks were flowing, and then dinner came super-late. It was all just a debacle from the get-go. The thing is, I honestly can't remember the last time I got drunk...I mean, even on vacation. I always get up early to workout, so I always think about how I would feel the next day. So the fact that I did at his party completely makes me cringe. I didn't do anything bad, but I guess I talked a lot:(. So not the impression I wanted to make.
Speaking of FB, someone from SO showed up in my "people you may know" and I was briefly tempted to send a friend request, but she would have no idea whoTF I am.
If it was me, feel free to send over a request and just put a little note with your screen name (that goes for anyone on here)