Is Christmas time for family?

[stephreloaded]

You met a guy 3 months ago and have a LDR. You two have been exclusive for a little less than a month. Assume you have a great relationship with your family and no one is crazy. 

Do you travel to see your BF or your family for Christmas? 

[Deleted]

I personally would go see family. I could see BF anytime and it's only been three months. This could be my grandmas last Xmas and my nieces and nephews will only be this age for so long. But family trumps everything for me.

[Emerald1486]

I say Family. It's still a relatively new relationship

[1confused1]

Family

[wampuscat]

Family. Exclusive for less than a month doesn't trump family.

[prettyinpearls]

Family. Always family.

[redredwine]

Family, hands down. Especially in a new/er relationship (unless you're my sister, lol)

Maybe spend New Years with the boyfriend instead.

[Deleted]

I like a good boning under the tree. You'll see family again. Likely, in a LDR, Xmas provides some built-in days off and an extended visit. I'd go with boyfriend here.

[girlsownlove2218]

I say family. It gives you a reason to have a special weekend together instead to celebrate just you two without all the stresses that the holidays tend to bring.

[Wanderista]

In that situation, I'd spend the holiday with family.

[seabitch]

Family, visit the LDR "around" the holidays.

[calle28]

Family. 3 months is still so new.

[Deleted]

I think the "right" answer to this really depends on how important spending Christmas with family is to you/your family. Some families are really casual about it and don't have much in the way of plans/traditions. I think if your family is one of those, then it's no big deal to use this as extra vacation time.

Personally, I would choose family. My family is always together at Christmas and it's important to all of us. If I skipped it, especially for a new relationship that wasn't very serious yet, I think my family would be really, really hurt. And I'd be sad not to be with them, too.

Actually, I'd try to just invite him to MY family Christmas! I want to see everyone

[cuddlyevil]

I said family, but I'm close with my family. If you're not close with your family, then I'd say BF.

[spunkypenguin]

I don't even like my family, but I still think you should spend the holidays with them over a new boyfriend.

[Wanderista]

It looks like I am spending Christmas traveling with BF, but I wouldn't do it in the scenario described above. My family is kind of scattered and I tend to just spend Christmas with immediate family nearby. This year my sister is getting dental surgery during the winter break so there won't be much going on with my family anyway. I'm spending some time with them this week and I see them a lot throughout the year anyway. Also, we had a great Thanksgiving. 

I have skipped a few Christmases due to traveling before but I would not do so for a casual LDR of 3 months.

[pinkdutchtulips]

Family ... mine isn't local so getting together w/ them for the holidays when we can trumps all ! and that includes new relationships.

in my family we do not bring bf or gf to family holiday gatherings unless 1- we've moved in together or 2 are engaged or practically engaged. we can see them 'around' the holidays but Christmas eve/day, no.

[GilliC]

Personally? SS. I'd travel somewhere else new and exciting. Christmas/New Year's means lots of vacation days, and it's the only holiday we have after June, so I'm always itching to go somewhere. Maybe I'd go with the new boyfriend, or maybe I'd go with other single friends. I generally see my family once a year, so at Christmas I go where the plane tickets are cheapest.

[onedayatatime]

Unless you have relatives that may not be there next year or someone who would take it personally - travel somewhere else sounds great.

For me, I'll be going home as long as my grandma is alive- b/c I want to see her and Christmas is important to her. After that - travel is on the table

[jojoandleo]

I am super close to my family. NO WAY would I miss out on Christmas with them for a guy I have been dating exclusively for a month. BUT, if you see your family all the time, or are not that close, I don't see a problem going with BF. Also, I feel it depends how important holidays are to you. If holidays are a super big deal, I feel 1 month of exclusive dating is kinda too soon. If holidays are not, and it wouldn't be pressure, then go for it.

If you spend Christmas with someone in my family, my mom is going to start sending you pictures of engagement rings she thinks I would like.

[GilliC]

Dec 16, 2014 17:20:40 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

If you spend Christmas with someone in my family, my mom is going to start sending you pictures of engagement rings she thinks I would like.

I learned this one the hard way with XH! It was his first Christmas in the country, and I felt bad for him being alone. Especially since none of the colleagues he moved with were Christian, so it wasn't a big deal to them. I invited him to join me on my trip home out of pity, not because we'd been dating for three months. Years later my mom said, "I knew it was serious when you brought him home for Christmas!" I was in shock. I really had just done it to be nice and I felt like it was what I would someone to do for me if I was in that situation!