Post by MeMyselfandI on Dec 17, 2014 10:39:20 GMT -5
I was on here last month worried about a biopsy for thyroid cancer. It came back negative, but I do have a growth that has completely overtaken the left side of my thyroid that they're going to watch. They also gave me some meds to help with some symptoms I was having. So hopefully that will help.
This weekend is the anniversary of my friend's devastating stillbirth. As soon as the weather started to get colder and the trees were bare, we remembered everything that was happening a year ago. Praying that their daughter would live even for just a few minutes, so they could hold her alive. Going with her to the hospital. Waiting to hear the news of the long labor.
She is so overwhelmed with grief. A few days ago when I was with her, she sobbed, saying that she felt as if she were moving underwater, when she could move at all. Her DH is working more and more and their home life is stressful. She has a tremendous grief counselor, a support group and a friend and I meet with her regularly for prayer and talking. She is doing all of the "right" things, but we are all still so filled with sorrow and pain.
I know people survive after a loss. I know she is not irreparably broken. I know this is a new normal for her. I know a good God exists who loves her. And I know that I have to continue to have a hope for her, that she will find her way out of the pain, living through it one day at a time. But, to be honest, it's hard to know the sheer amount of pain she is in and I pray for her every day.
When I just now looked at my post history I saw a post I wrote to you asking about your friend. I guess you never saw it because you didn't respond. I couldn't remember the situation. How awful. You're a great friend and I hope she finds some peace soon.
Post by karmasabiotch on Dec 17, 2014 10:44:29 GMT -5
Emile called me out on being a martyr and it changed the way that I think about myself. I no longer act that way and it feels great. I'm not a sidewalk anymore to anyone.
ML was so good to me during my pregnancy and m/c. I had lots of stupid questions, and no one made me feel silly for not knowing. The support here is incredible
I posted in June about moving in with BF and how we were arguing a lot more than normal -- you guys told me to fucking chill because everyone hates moving (lol) and I'm glad you did. I have not murdered him in his sleep (yet).
ETA: I also posted about waiting for the ring, and I'm still waiting. LOL
Remember the guy I told you about who bought a custom ring in July 2013? I don't think he's asked her yet, even though he picked it up a few weeks ago, finally. I can't believe she hasn't killed him.
rachelgreen- hows it coming girl? Had that baby yet?!
Sure did! My birth plan was 100% opposite of what happened LOL. Team Green turned to Team Pink last night at 11:25 pm via c-section. Caroline Virginia completed us last night
It's been amazing and wonderful to see how much you've come in to your own in the last year! I'm in awe of how independent and confident you are, how you put plans into action and are creating the life you want for yourself. (heart)
rachelgreen- hows it coming girl? Had that baby yet?!
Sure did! My birth plan was 100% opposite of what happened LOL. Team Green turned to Team Pink last night at 11:25 pm via c-section. Caroline Virginia completed us last night
I don't have an update myself, but can I ask about one? Someone had a niece or nephew born with Ebstein's anomaly (flamingeaux I think?) and I often wonder how he/she is doing since my DS has the same thing.
Ms. Bridget, is fabulous and adorable, and turned one in June. PDQ, permission given by mom.
Still not pg! I think we'll see a dr. in early spring. I'm fucking terrified, and having lots and lots of emotions, which I'm generally keeping completely bottled up, except when I sometimes cry in the shower.
I posted a while ago about E's sleeping issues. CIO wasn't working and I was frustrated. @deej sent me the Sleep Lady Shuffle book and he's been STTN for two weeks now! He has maybe one wake up before midnight. He's falling asleep on his own now and we're tackling naps next. I finally got him to go down for a nap today on his own today and he slept for 2 hours!
I'm so glad it's worked for you! I remember you posting about him banging his head on the crib, and I was hoping the shuffle would be a solution for you. It worked really nicely for my LO.
I posted about h losing his job last month. Anyway, he was offered another oot job like 3 days after his lay off, so we decided he should take it while still looking around for local stuff. It would be nice to have him home more, but he didn't want to turn down a job so close to Christmas (they usually don't take on new people because the sites shut down mid December until after the new year.)
a good friend is also going through this. Shady Groove actually snickered at her on the phone when she told them she's only been trying 8 months. I'm kinda shocked they didn't have more compassion.
That's probably where we'll end up.
And if she's older, or knows she has health concerns, 8 months is a reasonable time to seek assistance.
Still not pg! I think we'll see a dr. in early spring. I'm fucking terrified, and having lots and lots of emotions, which I'm generally keeping completely bottled up, except when I sometimes cry in the shower.
(((hugs))). I didn't post on TTTC much but I often read threads on there. They are a helpful and kind bunch over there! Don't isolate yourself at this time.
a good friend is also going through this. Shady Groove actually snickered at her on the phone when she told them she's only been trying 8 months. I'm kinda shocked they didn't have more compassion.
That's probably where we'll end up.
And if she's older, or knows she has health concerns, 8 months is a reasonable time to seek assistance.
Not all shady grove offices suck. Mine was meh, but others I know loved their offices.
He really likes it . So far he's really happy with this company. The shift isn't too bad, he's gone 10 days and home for 3 or 4, but he'll be home tomorrow until January 6th. I can't wait, haha.
This may not be an update for some of you b/c I've posted this on a different board, but my mom seems to be doing okay. The chemo has helped to shrink the tumors. So everything is "okay" for right now. She's getting around just fine and is staying upbeat.
We are concerned about my stepdad. His health isn't so great and he does not take very good care of himself even though Mom and friends are urging him to do otherwise. It almost seems like there's a race to go first between the two of them. ::sigh::
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
a good friend is also going through this. Shady Groove actually snickered at her on the phone when she told them she's only been trying 8 months. I'm kinda shocked they didn't have more compassion.
That's awful. When we were first trying I brought it up to my OB at the 8 month mark, just asking at what point I should start further testing and she was totally supportive of my starting right then. None of the specialists we saw/make appointments with gave us any flak. I'm sorry she had that experience.
Post by VeryViolet on Dec 17, 2014 11:11:12 GMT -5
snipsnsnails my heart breaks for your friend. I can't imagine how devastating the anniversary and holidays will be but I am so glad she is surrounded by friends who clearly love her and her family so much.
I have posted here and there about some issues with PPD and maybe just some depression. I have been on medicine and seeing a counselor for a few months now. I am feeling like it is making a difference and I am at the very least glad I took the steps to seek out help. I have been so scared for so long that just having the strength to admit I needed some help was huge for me.