Move on to a new clinic halfway across the country. They accept me as a patient. Currently, trying to schedule my egg donor counseling appointment and fill out the legal paperwork before we proceed with donor egg IVF (fingers crossed).
I am sorry this has all been so difficult. I am currently pregnant via an egg donor. We used frozen eggs. If you have any questions I'm happy to answer them.
jigsy It is always nice to hear it is possible to still have some sort of relationship with an ex. Everyone I've talked to has been so set on me cutting all contact and it just doesn't make sense to me
I know not everyone can do it, but I honestly feel no animosity toward my ex. Sometimes people just fall out of love, and that is what happened with us. He has issues that he needs to work on, but he is still a good person.
Honestly, with all the stuff that has been going on, I have been leaning on him a lot. My Dad was his family for 10 years, so he is upset about what has happened. And he cares about my happiness and still knows me better than anyone else, so the advice he gives comes from a good place.
I don't know how our friendship will look when we no longer need to talk to each other, but I'd like to think he will be someone I can always call if I needed to. We will see though.
This is so similar to where I am. I have no hard feelings at all, I know that ultimately this is best for both of us. It's just hard when nobody else understands.
i hate when i read a 6 pager thread and i and i'm judging the fuck out of something….but by the end of the thread, NO ONE has mentioned it. makes me want to keep it to myself.
FIL is starting to weaken physically (he's in hospice at home: leukemia). Mentally, he's been doing a little better. He seems to be enjoying family time.
BIL is still doping and has been all over the place and really manipulative, especially with MIL. The current plan is for him to stay with the IL's for 6 months while he does counseling and weans himself off, then starting looking for a new job.
i hate when i read a 6 pager thread and i and i'm judging the fuck out of something….but by the end of the thread, NO ONE has mentioned it. makes me want to keep it to myself.
*Waits on the "PM me" and "You didn't get a PM?" posts*
Sure did! My birth plan was 100% opposite of what happened LOL. Team Green turned to Team Pink last night at 11:25 pm via c-section. Caroline Virginia completed us last night
Congratulations! I have a Caroline as well (who's middle name is Anna after her grandmother Virginia).
Post by MarmeeNoir on Dec 17, 2014 15:01:14 GMT -5
I was going through I really rough time back in Sept and Oct with my MIL dying and suspected PPD. It took forever to get help because I kept getting passed off as some other doctors problem. I pulled through and while I'm not where I want to be, I'm better.
rachelgreen- hows it coming girl? Had that baby yet?!
Sure did! My birth plan was 100% opposite of what happened LOL. Team Green turned to Team Pink last night at 11:25 pm via c-section. Caroline Virginia completed us last night
I'm literally crying in Starbucks. I honestly don't know that I was as excited for my own BFP as I was for you. Congratulations, rachelgreen.
I posted a while ago about E's sleeping issues. CIO wasn't working and I was frustrated. @deej sent me the Sleep Lady Shuffle book and he's been STTN for two weeks now! He has maybe one wake up before midnight. He's falling asleep on his own now and we're tackling naps next. I finally got him to go down for a nap today on his own today and he slept for 2 hours!
I'm so glad it's worked for you! I remember you posting about him banging his head on the crib, and I was hoping the shuffle would be a solution for you. It worked really nicely for my LO.
He is no longer banging his head on the crib! After I posted but before we got the book we (and by we I mean H because I can't sleep with him on my chest anymore) were having to sleep in the rocking chair with him because that was literally the only way he would sleep. He cried for maybe 15-20 minutes (if that) the first night, laid down, and put himself to sleep. I was shocked. Last night was our second night standing in the doorway and he barely cried, if at all, and put himself to sleep right away. He woke up once at 10 but went right back down with some shushing and slept til 545! I've noticed he's a lot happier now during the day too. Magic I tell you! Magic!
a good friend is also going through this. Shady Groove actually snickered at her on the phone when she told them she's only been trying 8 months. I'm kinda shocked they didn't have more compassion.
Really? I am surprised. I called them after I had had 2 miscarriages but they were both early (one at 7 weeks and one chemical) and I had already had a successful pregnancy. They told me to come in right away.
Look, I got nothing. I had to read my own post history to see if I had anything at all to update.
I was wondering about malibu and her mother (and I think her DH too). Also wondering if gmail ever came back and how she is doing with her topical steroid withdrawl.
Now I'll go check to see if either of them are in this thread.
I vented on here a month or so ago about reaching the end of my rope with my DH's bipolar and being overwhelmed with how it was impacting him, me and our family. I was challenged to make sure that I get myself in therapy for everything we were dealing with.
I did and I have my third session this Friday. I'm working through some tough shit, but working to get on some anti-anxiety meds and dealing with the last 10 years of pent up emotions and dealing with his mental illness pretty much all on my own. DH is also working with his docs to fix his meds and is already showing improvement, so I'm hopeful and encouraged.
Sure did! My birth plan was 100% opposite of what happened LOL. Team Green turned to Team Pink last night at 11:25 pm via c-section. Caroline Virginia completed us last night
I'm literally crying in Starbucks. I honestly don't know that I was as excited for my own BFP as I was for you. Congratulations, rachelgreen.
Thank you my friend. <3
It has been a dream come true. I am sitting here right now doing skin to skin and in pure amazement that she's here and she's all mine. It doesn't seem real at all. Life is good.
I'm still married. We sort of just exist together and try to pay our bills and work. =/
I'm sorry. That has to be hard. I feel like you were trying to save up some money to leave -- is that still the plan (was it ever), or do you hope things will get better with your husband?
I have posted before about my son and daughter and their behavioral issues.
Things are going WAY BETTER!
My daughter is kind of a snotty brat sometimes, but she's also 13. But she's not explosive and unsafe and throwing chairs at her family members. It's just a lot of rolling eyes and slamming doors. I can handle that!
My son is still gay! He's doing great. He hasn't had anymore behavioral issues since he has told us he's gay. He's also openly gay at school and is proud of who he is. His friends have been great, and it's been a complete non-issue.
He did end up telling his sisters. My 13 year old was like "yeah, I know." Lol
And my 8 year old was like "cool". So again, it was not a big deal at all to them.
Thanks for your all of your support through the years!
I want to hug everybody that is going through rough times right now.
how old is your son that came out? That update is great!
I'm still married. We sort of just exist together and try to pay our bills and work. =/
I'm sorry. That has to be hard. I feel like you were trying to save up some money to leave -- is that still the plan (was it ever), or do you hope things will get better with your husband?
Ideally, I'd like to work it out but I am still trying to save money in the event of never going to happen.
Ideally, I'd like to work it out but I am still trying to save money in the event of never going to happen.
Is he trying? I know that's nosy - I just really think you deserve more out of life.
hugs.
He tries in a "this is what we need to work on together" kind of way. I guess he is trying about as hard as I am trying. We are trying to be more open about our feelings and discuss all things.
Well. My divorce was final in July. Woo! XH and I are on much better terms these days. BF even offered an olive branch and they literally hugged it out. No more tension.
Speaking of which, EMT/FWB became my official BF in April. It continues to amaze us both how easy our relationship is. Finding someone you are so compatible with makes you realize in some weird ways how BAD things used to be. For both of us. I am considering cohabitation in the next year...
Which segues me into my next update. After 9 years at this job, I got a new manager, and got canned. My last day is 1/5. So I am on a mission to find a job that I actually enjoy. Get me the fuck out of the legal field. Since I am living at home with my parents, I'm actually in a decent position to be jobless, and I can expand my job search area since I am willing to move for the right job. BF's living situation is about to get complicated, since his roommates (a married couple) are due with #2 in January. The timing for both of us, as well as (and more importantly) the desire, may work out perfectly for us to move in together in a few months.
After splitting with XH, my surgeon advised me to consider having eggs frozen so that I can do 6 months of lupron to control my endometriosis. I have had one round of egg harvesting done, and plan to do another while I'm between jobs. Since my insurance won't pay for it regardless, might as well, right?! They got 6 good eggs the first time; hopefully I can do the same or better next time. (And RexManningDay and shoeless, I fully intend to donate any I don't use I don't know if anyone will WANT my eggs, but I do hope they don't just get destroyed)
Post by hisno1girl on Dec 17, 2014 19:39:47 GMT -5
My DH had a follow up with his oncologist. He's been in chemotherapy since July and they said he has to do another three months and they'll reevaluate at that time.
He isn't doing well. He said that he feels like every day, every action, every thing he does requires major effort and he doesn't know how much time he has. I hope and pray he's being overly dramatic (as he sometimes tends to be) but he's different this time.
In the last two weeks, my kid has had more good days than bad at school. She's laying quietly during the (ridiculously) long nap time at school. I think the continued focus on positive reinforcement and time to adjust to the new normal around here has helped the most.
Also, this time last year, I wasn't even pregnant! Now I have a 2.5 month old!