I'll definitely do both trips if they happen. Since I'm a SAHM at least it's easy for me to drop everything and go where I'm needed. My mom can't do the cruise due to her workload so she really wants the long weekend with her sisters.
Christmas is going to be so weird this year without my aunts
Oh Brooklyn I'm so sorry, that's awful news. I hope you and she are able to do the cruise and the other visit. I would do whatever you need to do to bring j with you.