Post by HoneySpider on Dec 17, 2014 16:57:02 GMT -5
My big one is really several things all tied together but it's my body image/self esteem related to body image. I have always struggled with my weight and I have always been very hard on myself about it. I need to give myself a break, but I also do need to make changes - I need to lose weight and to do so, I need to eat healthier (I go in spurts with this) and I need to get back into shape and work out consistently. I found a gym I can afford to join (yay!!) and I'm planning to do that tomorrow - no waiting until after the holidays. I'm actually really excited about going, I know it will make me feel better physically and emotionally. This year has been a rough one and for 2/3 of it, I did not take care of myself at all. I'm ready to start doing that again.
I need to be better about initiating sex outside of the FW.
I get worked up/annoyed/frustrated really easily, especially when dumb people are involved. I really need to work on that or I might give myself a heart attack. How stupid would that be!
I need to stop cluttering up the apt. I get lazy and just drop stuff where it doesn't go and being in a small space, it makes a mess quickly.
I need to make sure that when I'm brushing my teeth, the spit goes down the drain and doesn't sit in the sink. I never notice is but it really annoys my H! We're sharing a bathroom again for the first time in over 5 years and he noticed it immediately. He didn't even say anything right away but once he did, I remembered that was a problem for him. Lol.
I feel like I could continue this list forever, I need a lot of work
Organization, being tidier. I'm a clean person, our house is clean, but it is cluttered because I rarely put things back where they belong. It drives DH insane.
Remembering stuff. If I don't wrote it down somewhere that I can easily access it, I will forget. My outlook calendar is packed with appointments, reminders, and tasks.
DH thinks I may have ADD, partly due to the aforementioned. Ritalin works to get me more focused and productive, but alas, no stimulant pharmaceuticals stronger than caffeine for the time being.
Also, being social in general. Like, I'm okay talking to people one on one in a quiet place, but loud places or crowded situations, like parties, I have problems. DH has been coaching me. He says I did well last night at his company Christmas party; we sat at the same table as his boss, the company owner, and their wives. Holy pressure!
Post by estrellita on Dec 17, 2014 17:14:39 GMT -5
Oh, so many things. Lol.
-Eating well and exercising. I've been so tired that I haven't had the motivation. I need to suck it up and do it!
-Being more assertive. I'm usually pretty quiet and don't say anything when I'm bothered, but I think I need to be slightly more open, especially at work.
-Initiating sex. Yup. I'm so bad at this and I think H just gave up. Maybe this weekend I will finally try. It's so frustrating to get to this point!
-Organizing and cleaning. Again with the tired, but it needs to get done. I have been better about clutter (like throwing junk mail away immediately instead of letting it pile up) but I need to be better. The cats don't help.. lol.
Keeping up with friends. I need to call people more.
I need to get my positivity back up to where it used to be.
I need to get back on my practice schedule. My mind has been elsewhere this year and it shows...even if it's just to me. At least I'm still working out...or I'd be in trouble.
Post by estrellita on Dec 17, 2014 17:21:54 GMT -5
@moonbeam oh yes, I like being more grateful. I have a hard time expressing positive feelings and I know that has affected my relationships. I'm always polite, but I need to learn how to express my appreciation for others in other ways, especially for H!
- I need to write more letters to my grandparents since I can't just call them. & sending random hand written cards to friends just to get some fun mail. - Working out/eating healthy I have started working out more but I need to do a better. - Flossing my teeth. I flat out am terrible at it. - Making nice dinners more frequently for H and I. - Keeping up with the dishes and bedroom's tidiness... - Initiating sex more often. I do it sometimes, but I am sure H would enjoy it if I did this more frequently. - Setting time aside for my crafting/scrapbooking. I feel I am always to busy and it's important to me and I need to get back into it. - Being more grateful and not so bitchy about my In-laws all in all they are really nice. I feel I do not appreciate them the way I should.
-Cleaning/Organizing. I find I want to clean constantly at the new house (mix of nesting and new house I'm sure) but I really need to keep up with it. I also pile things terribly so I'm trying to get better at putting things where they belong.
-Listening to DH. Sometimes I zone out when I'm not interested/he repeats himself over and over. I need to pay closer attention to what he really is saying. (that sounds so terrible too)
-Finishing projects. I start things but not always great with follow through
-Take more me time. I need time to read/craft/do things I want to do. I was great about this last year but have been horrible this year.
-Not be pushed around by what others want. I will sacrifice my own time/sanity to make others feel better. Sometimes I need to learn to say no.
- Being more grateful and not so bitchy about my In-laws all in all they are really nice. I feel I do not appreciate them the way I should.
THIS. My MIL is in BEC territory with me, as I still haven't forgiven her for something she did 6 years ago, and said almost 5 years ago. But I need to forgive and forget. She is actually a very nice person, just a little TOO nice, ya know?
- Being more grateful and not so bitchy about my In-laws all in all they are really nice. I feel I do not appreciate them the way I should.
THIS. My MIL is in BEC territory with me, as I still haven't forgiven her for something she did 6 years ago, and said almost 5 years ago. But I need to forgive and forget. She is actually a very nice person, just a little TOO nice, ya know?
This is my MIL as well.
She had the greatest intentions, she just doesn't show them well.
My self improvements: - eat better/exercise more - master keeping the house cleaner on a regular basis. (Mainly the dog hair.) - keep in touch with friends more - learn to manage some of my stress/anxiety better