I don't see what the big deal is that I want to do Christmas Eve at home. It's like I'm creating a big kink everyone's plans. It is okay if we don't see you Christmas Eve. I love you but it's just one day.
I want to let my kid open the family stocking, make cookies, eat dinner at home, watch a Christmas movie, and go to bed on time.
What is the big deal??? Guess what, I'm going to do the same shit next year too.
Be strong, mama. I put my foot down on this same issue 2 years ago - we were seeing DH's family for 2 extended family parties, Christmas Eve, and Christmas brunch. And then we see my family for Christmas dinner. It was insane. Exactly like you, I want my kids home on Christmas Eve and Christmas morning. DH's family "let us" have Christmas Eve, but instead they started doing dinner on Christmas Eve Eve and expected us to show up. This year, no more. No Christmas Eve or Eve Eve. We will see you in the morning, at our house, and my children and I will probably still be in our jammies. Stink eye all you want, MIL, that is how it is.
Post by bluebonnetlover on Dec 19, 2014 12:46:06 GMT -5
Last year my daughter would not go near Santa...the photographer had me sit in Santa's chair, put my daughter on the arm of the chair, and Santa stood behind the chair, leaning down so he was in the shot. They cropped me out.
If your kid is screaming that they don't want to sit on santa's lap for a dumb photo you don't make them. Simple as that.
So are you judging the actual photo, or the parent for making their kid sit on Santa's lap?
The parent, not the photo. I get that a kid might seem all excited to do it and then freak out in the moment... But I wouldn't share that photo publicly. This also isn't the case in the person who inspired this confession. Kid has been terrified of Santa since toddlerhood (and is now 7) and every year there's a picture of the kid screaming being forced to sit there by an older sib. I judge so, so hard.
Post by andrewsgal on Dec 19, 2014 13:22:04 GMT -5
We are leaving tomorrow for a week at the inlaws. We will be spending Christmas and my birthday there. MIL is my BEC. I have no doubt I will be a royal bitch the majority of the time and cry at least once. I know I could really try to have a better attitude I just didn't give a fuck.
We are leaving tomorrow for a week at the inlaws. We will be spending Christmas and my birthday there. MIL is my BEC. I have no doubt I will be a royal bitch the majority of the time and cry at least once. I know I could really try to have a better attitude I just didn't give a fuck.
Hugs and lots of them.
Is your DH good about responding to the inlaws treatment of you?
Post by thecheshirekat on Dec 19, 2014 16:03:27 GMT -5
I confess that I was one of those moms who gave every kid in DS's class a gift. I found these 3-packs of plactic ball ornaments at the dollar store that were blue with white glittery snowflakes painted on them, and I made tags with Olaf on them that said "Happy Holidays! Love, DS" and tied them to the string. I liked them, DS liked them, and they cost me 33 cents each. I'm not sorry.
I confess that I was one of those moms who gave every kid in DS's class a gift. I found these 3-packs of plactic ball ornaments at the dollar store that were blue with white glittery snowflakes painted on them, and I made tags with Olaf on them that said "Happy Holidays! Love, DS" and tied them to the string. I liked them, DS liked them, and they cost me 33 cents each. I'm not sorry.
But ugh! Why? You liked them -- ok. That's all about you.
judge me too. For DS2s 1 yo photos he was sitting on a little john dear tractor. he had a baseball style hat (had bear on it) DS took his hat and turned it backwards and it looked so cute on tractor. then he flipped it back around so quickly I said " oh DH turn his hat, that was cute!" when he went to turn it ds2 went to reach up. so to distract him dh tickled his belly to crack him up. well in 5 seconds DS went from laughing to full on crying. the whole situation was adorable and we didn't leave him crying but photographer got it all. I stuck one in his portfolio.
I think it just captures a part of his shoot and it's part of his personality tbh. he often went from one extreme to the other as a baby. still does.
I confess that I was one of those moms who gave every kid in DS's class a gift. I found these 3-packs of plactic ball ornaments at the dollar store that were blue with white glittery snowflakes painted on them, and I made tags with Olaf on them that said "Happy Holidays! Love, DS" and tied them to the string. I liked them, DS liked them, and they cost me 33 cents each. I'm not sorry.
But ugh! Why? You liked them -- ok. That's all about you.
See bolded above. DS liked them, so I figured the other Frozen-obsessed kids would probably like them too.