I love the Christmas songs Little Drummer Boy and I Want A Hippopotamus for Christmas.
I don't want to ruin that song for you but little drummer boy is a total trigger song for me. It is linked to a horrible serial killer/murderer in the UK. I wont give you the details and don't google. I have to switch channels every time it comes on. Similarly Jodi arias has ruined "oh holy night" for me.
I process payroll for 14 different companies. One company sent me a list of bonuses yesterday to pay out. They gave one employee $10. WTF! yes, I am supposed to tax this and process a direct deposit.
I think I would rather get nothing than $10. It's like leaving a penny tip at a restaurant.
I hate all Christmas music from the 19th and 20th centuries
I do like Nutcracker Suite and Messiah (not *really* Christmas music, but you know...)
The only exception is "My Only Gift This Year" from Britney Spears.
I like the Leona Lewis song that they keep playing on the radio "1 more sleep" or something like that.
This is the time of year that I am happy that I never have to listen to the radio So I have no idea what that song is but it could be good for all I know.
I process payroll for 14 different companies. One company sent me a list of bonuses yesterday to pay out. They gave one employee $10. WTF! yes, I am supposed to tax this and process a direct deposit.
I think I would rather get nothing than $10. It's like leaving a penny tip at a restaurant.
I love the Christmas songs Little Drummer Boy and I Want A Hippopotamus for Christmas.
I don't want to ruin that song for you but little drummer boy is a total trigger song for me. It is linked to a horrible serial killer/murderer in the UK. I wont give you the details and don't google. I have to switch channels every time it comes on. Similarly Jodi arias has ruined "oh holy night" for me.
I do know the history of it, I just have fond memories of it from listening to it with my grandma. I totally get why other people don't like it, which is why it's flameworthy that I do.
After 7 years of making H a stocking and getting nothing in return, I finally told him it would be nice if he could make me one. And he actually went shopping and got stuff. I am excited, and only feel a little bit bad.
MIL called at 7:30 last night to tell us she needs a ride to a doctor appointment.
And then I realized she didn't want a ride, she wanted us to lend her a vehicle. Which is never going to happen.
I just kept thinking about the poor poster who is now on the hook for her mother modocking through the neighbor's driveway.
I feel like I walk a really fine line between being too generous and being a huge bitch when it comes to my in-laws. And there really shouldn't be a fine line between those two things, if that makes sense.
I don't want to ruin that song for you but little drummer boy is a total trigger song for me. It is linked to a horrible serial killer/murderer in the UK. I wont give you the details and don't google. I have to switch channels every time it comes on. Similarly Jodi arias has ruined "oh holy night" for me.
I do know the history of it, I just have fond memories of it from listening to it with my grandma. I totally get why other people don't like it, which is why it's flameworthy that I do.
Ah ok. I didn't know that history was known outside of England. I hear that song a lot here in Canada so I thought people didn't know.
Post by UnderProtest on Dec 19, 2014 10:44:36 GMT -5
My MIL is BEC to me lately. So she is immediately to blame when I get a note from Customs saying I have to pay VAT in order to get a package. First, it was mailed to my husband, not me. He's not the one that is home all day or would have to pick it up. Second, she somehow didn't mark it as a gift (which it is) so now I have to pay money in order to collect the obnoxious presents she sent my kids.
Post by explorer2001 on Dec 19, 2014 10:44:43 GMT -5
I'm going back to therapy. I need it worse than I thought. I have been having nightmares and had a full blown flashback at work earlier this week. Things have been extra hard since...
This is on top of my medical issues although they may not be entirely unrelated. Definitely related to my medical issues, I sharted last night (thankfully at home about to get ready for bed) and now have a favorite pair of underwear soaking in laundry detergent and water in the hopes I can save them. If not I'll trash them tonight.
I have also spent so much of pedialyte, A&D cream and wipes that Target and the local grocery store now think I have a small child at home.
I have such a negative attitude about my job. Every week we have to fill out a report about how things are going, there are usually 2-4 questions. Today the second question is "Go ahead, brag on yourself...what did you do this week that you are proud of? Personally or professionally?"
I have no idea what to say. My job is to schedule interviews and create offer letters. This week I seriously messed up someone's payroll transfer, and I did a bunch of administrative tasks. WTF do I have to be proud of? Showing up to work and doing my job? Sure. But it's not exactly an accomplishment to do a bunch of really easy tasks. I didn't do anything special or even worth mentioning.
I think it really boils down to the fact that I completely hate temporary employment. I was hired into a job everyone knew wasn't a good fit for me, and I was told it was temporary, so I've found it impossible to get excited about things, put a ton of effort into learning how to do everything really well, building relationships with my coworkers, etc because I know it's going to end, probably sooner rather than later. But everyone acts like we're supposed to be super committed to everything going on and accomplishing all this stuff, but they can't guarantee I'm going to even have a job at any point in the future and they're giving me time off without pay for the holidays. It just seems very unbalanced - like they expect a certain way of behaving from people they don't have any commitment to.
Also, I'm completely broke, my coworkers are all facebook friends and nobody has invited me to be their friend (and they talk about posts on FB every fucking day so it's pretty obvious they are all friends and I'm excluded, which I think is really fucking rude) and I just want to have next week off, with pay, and go home and cry. Ok that's totally a vent.
I'm going back to therapy. I need it worse than I thought. I have been having nightmares and had a full blown flashback at work earlier this week. Things have been extra hard since...
This is on top of my medical issues although they may not be entirely unrelated. Definitely related to my medical issues, I sharted last night (thankfully at home about to get ready for bed) and now have a favorite pair of underwear soaking in laundry detergent and water in the hopes I can save them. If not I'll trash them tonight.
I have also spent so much of pedialyte, A&D cream and wipes that Target and the local grocery store now think I have a small child at home.
I hate all Christmas music from the 19th and 20th centuries
I do like Nutcracker Suite and Messiah (not *really* Christmas music, but you know...)
The only exception is "My Only Gift This Year" from Britney Spears.
I like the Leona Lewis song that they keep playing on the radio "1 more sleep" or something like that.
I do prefer the rat pack Christmas songs though- no one sings like Dean Martin
If you like those, check out the Seth MacFarlane Christmas album. It is so weird to think that he does voices ont he Family Guy and then has this amazing singing voice, too.
After 7 years of making H a stocking and getting nothing in return, I finally told him it would be nice if he could make me one. And he actually went shopping and got stuff. I am excited, and only feel a little bit bad.
The first year you did a stocking...he should have taken a hint.
Well, or the first year he *didn't* do a stocking, she could have taken a hint. Not everyone is into stockings and such, and if it is important to you you should tell the person!
My husband and I don't buy gifts for each other any more (not for Christmas, not for birthdays). It definitely makes life much easier!
After 7 years of making H a stocking and getting nothing in return, I finally told him it would be nice if he could make me one. And he actually went shopping and got stuff. I am excited, and only feel a little bit bad.
The first year you did a stocking...he should have taken a hint.
H told me this year that he's going all out on my stocking this year. I've spent significantly more on him this year than he did with me (which I don't really care). However, he's consistently dropped the ball stocking wise for the last couple years (I cannot stand that he will go out to the gas station Christmas morning and fill my stocking up with shit-No! Don't get me anything then.) He told me that this year, he actually put some thought into it...we'll see.
My confession: H just called me and told me that he wants to go to his cousins(basically his other sister) house for Christmas. She lives three hours away(in good weather). We would have to drive over on Christmas Eve (in the afternoon) and drive back Christmas day. She's having a really rough time since her brother passed away in August. I told H I would do whatever, but I'm really disappointed. This was going to be our first Christmas just us as a family. My mom and sisters are in TN. I was looking forward to it. I also have to leave the 26th for Florida, so I really just want to park my ass at home.
Sorry about your Christmas. Sounds like you are being a great wife.
And yeah, he should have figured it out. To be fair, he had a pretty screwed up childhood and never even got a birthday party (the one we threw for his 30th was his first). I actually had to point out the stocking each year, because he just doesn't expect anything.
I'm not sure about my therapist anymore. When we are not actively fighting we are processing our last fight. He is like an ex lover I can't shake. And I pay him. WTF is wrong with me?
The first year you did a stocking...he should have taken a hint.
Well, or the first year he *didn't* do a stocking, she could have taken a hint. Not everyone is into stockings and such, and if it is important to you you should tell the person!
My husband and I don't buy gifts for each other any more (not for Christmas, not for birthdays). It definitely makes life much easier!
Totally. I could have said something earlier. We don't do real gifts and I agree that piece is much easier. I just wanted a little something, asked for it, and will now be getting it!
@buckybells, sounds like it's time to pick the "personal" option for your brag!
I haven't accomplished anything personally either! Clearly I need to make some changes in my life. I feel like I'm just kind of dragging along with everything right now.
I put something generic about it being a busy week (which it was, compared to normal) and keeping on top of it.
I'm not sure about my therapist anymore. When we are not actively fighting we are processing our last fight. He is like an ex lover I can't shake. And I pay him. WTF is wrong with me?
Thanks. I really appreciate all the support I get here. I will try not to post too many TMI posts.
Re quitting a therapist, if it isn't helping you, find someone else who does. If it is just about fighting or talking about problems without finding tools to manage them, solutions, etc. Its time to move on. I wish one of my earlier therapist had pointed out all of our conversations were about my then FI (now exH). If so I might have avoided a lot of pain. If you are just struggling because you are working through hard stuff, then consider staying if not move on to someone who helps you. That is what you are paying for.
My flameful: I am annoyed at a friend who sweetly offered to make multiple lasagnas (and bring them from several states away!) for a christmas party I'm having tomorrow. But I'm a little offended she kinda tried to take over my party and then sent a passive-agressive email this morning saying "if you want dinner tomorrow" please answer these specific questions about what kind/quantity of lasagna she should make.
I told her to forget it and I would handle it. I left off the "I never asked you to do this, so please back off," but I was thinking it.
Another friend flat-out told me she's bringing leftover desserts from a party she's having tonight to mine. Is that weird? I'm just grumpy, I think.
justjen -- I would be annoyed by both of those things too!
Which reminds me -- I am irrationally annoyed that my MIL asked my husband what we are bringing for Christmas. I would never show up at someone's house for dinner empty-handed... UNLESS we're going to our parents' or our sisters' houses. I feel like with immediate family it is fine to just show up. But also, who asks "What are you planning on bringing?" If we're rude for assuming we should come empty-handed, she's just as rude to call us out.