Another baby name wwyd

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We are screwed if this baby is a boy because we can't agree on a boy name.  I like stuffy names that lend to cute nicknames.  Like for awhile we were both keen on Archibald/Archie, but we've thrown it out.  I love Bobby, but 6 of the 7 Roberts/Robs I work with are douchebags so I just can't even if he's a Bobby.  

We also liked Evan and Jonah, which don't really lend to good nicknames (except maybe Jones or something, but that is a bit too...something). But now H has nixed these names too.

Last night he was all like, I've got a name and I love it - Thomas/Tommy.  I really like the name, but I had killed it internally since my ex's dad's name is Tom and I thought it might be weird. I told H this and he's like, so what?   So I was like, ok, maybe. After all the Sawyer Thomas talk in the other thread, I remembered that it was also my ex's middle name.

I have no hard feelings, but I don't know, now it's super weird to use that name, right? If I tell my H it's his middle name he might feel differently.   FWIW, we were together for like 9 years and married for less than one. We started dating in high school. It's been 10 years since we divorced.

I'm also open to any suggestions you have for stuffy names.

[sharknado]

Matthew

[smock]

It might be weird if your ex's middle name was something very uncommon like Randolph. But Thomas is a very common name, and I seriously doubt anyone will make the connection to your ex's middle name.

[captainobvious]

Ezekiel/Zeke is one of my favorites, but most people disagree.

[miniroller]

Lucas/ Luke
(yes, another apostle, which is maybe how it orig popped in my head! BUT I Love this name!! Possibly for my future...)

[smock]

How about Arnold/Arnie? Oswald/Ozzie?

[my4girls]

I don't really think it's weird.

my ex was Francis/ Frank. dd2's middle name is Frances, I have never really given it much thought though, in fact dd was 2 or 3 before I even realized it

[cuccaro]

Theodore/Teddy

[sandyapples]

I like the name Thomas and it is really common so I don't think I would worry about the connection.

[cuccaro]

Although I also vote it's common enough that it's not weird

[my4girls]

Andrew is one of my favorite names if you want other suggestions. Andrew/ Andy or Drew

[cville]

Um, it wouldn't be weird at all.

It's Thomas. If it was, I don't know, Desmond Aloysius, that would be weird.


BTW, Desmond NN Des ("Dez") is a charming old man name with a good NN. Also the name of one of my ex boyfriends, but we almost used it for O anyway. HA!

[jinkies]

I also think it's common enough that it wouldn't be weird to use Thomas.

I love Wesley.

Also, Timothy, Edwin.

[crispnclean]

I think Thomas is common enough that it's not a big deal. Plus, it was his middle name, so I think that makes it even less weird.

Some other suggestions:
Harrison/Harry
Charles/Charlie
Theodore/Teddy
Benjamin/Bennie

[MWOS]

Walter/Wally

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I love Lawrence to Laurie, Theodore

ETA: I pressed send too soon

[lurknomore]

I don't think Thomas would be weird to other people. But would it be weird to YOU? Would you look at the kid and think of someone else? If not, then I think you're fine. IDK if I could get the association out of my mind though (eventually yes, my kid would own the name...but it could be really weird for you for awhile).

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I love Lawrence to Laurie, Theodore to Teddy, Edwin to Eddy

[bohemianmango]

I agree with PPs. The name is common enough and would be NBD. But, if it bothers you, even slightly, I'd still consider other names.

I like Benjamin or Bennett/Benny or Ben, Oliver/Oli, Elijah/Eli, Charles/Charlie or Theodore/Theo or Teddy.

ETA - I also like Dominic/Dom or Nicky, Alexander/Alex or Al and Jonathan/Johnny.

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Thomas is common enough you can get away with it.

I had a friend who was worried about using the name John for the same reason. Someone told her that her John will become "her John," and she will forget about all of the other Johns she knows. She said she ended up agreeing with that sentiment and is happy she used that name.

[VeryViolet]

I really wanted to use Augustus and have the baby be Gus. I also really liked Caleb/Cal.

ETA I forgot to actually answer the question oops. I think the name is common enough that Thomas/Tommy would be NBD/not weird. 

[shananagins]

Gabriel/ Gabe
Jasper/ Jax
Becket/ Becks

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I love Desmond - Dez
Also Arthur - Artie
If you don't like Archibald for Archie, what about Archer?
Augusten- Auggie or Gus
Edwin - Eddie
Henry- Hank

[christy082]

I agree that if Thomas is going to bother you, then I'd avoid using it.

Alexander, nn Alex or Xander
Oliver, nn Ollie
Nathan, nn Nate

I also like the Desmond/Des suggestion.

[rachelberry]

Francis/Franky
Theodore/Teddy
Richard/Richy
Edward/Eddie
Randolph/Randy

[fivechickens]

My brother and dad are Thomas. I call my brother Tommy. He just turned 45.

I love Edward/Eddie.

[cookies]

Thanks, guys. Love all the suggestions and love that I'm not a weirdo if we decide to go with Tommy. The only person who would even connect it would be my ex, and I don't anticipate running into him ever.

A number of the names mentioned are family names and none mentioned are what we went with for DS.

One is my ex's first name, ha.

Desmond is pretty cool - we hadn't come up with that one on our own. He was my fav on Lost.

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Dec 19, 2014 11:57:03 GMT -5 cookies said:

Thanks, guys. Love all the suggestions and love that I'm not a weirdo if we decide to go with Tommy. The only person who would even connect it would be my ex, and I don't anticipate running into him ever.

A number of the names mentioned are family names and none mentioned are what we went with for DS.

One is my ex's first name, ha.

Desmond is pretty cool - we hadn't come up with that one on our own. He was my fav on Lost.

He was my favorite on Lost too... 

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Dec 19, 2014 12:04:32 GMT -5 @savestheday said:

Dec 19, 2014 11:57:03 GMT -5 cookies said:

Thanks, guys. Love all the suggestions and love that I'm not a weirdo if we decide to go with Tommy. The only person who would even connect it would be my ex, and I don't anticipate running into him ever.

A number of the names mentioned are family names and none mentioned are what we went with for DS.

One is my ex's first name, ha.

Desmond is pretty cool - we hadn't come up with that one on our own. He was my fav on Lost.

He was my favorite on Lost too... 

Penelope/Penny is our front runner for girl names. Ha.

[zaneyzoo]

Maxwell/Max
Alexander/Alex
Jacob/Jake
Charles/Charlie