Anyone declining invites more?

[kellsbelles]

I find myself really opting out of lots of party invitations and dinner/drinks invites since I've gotten pregnant. Like tonight our neighbors are having a huge holiday bash and I just told them and my husband I wasn't going to make it. I was never a huge drinker but not being able to really changes how much fun I have at parties-especially ones with our big partying drinker friends. Non pregnant me would have been looking forward to a party like this for weeks.

I hate being like this and acting so anti-social but then again I really don't care all that much. I feel like sleep and relaxation are a priority now. Anyways I was just curious if Im the only hermit who feels like this? Part of me thinks its also b/c its freaking cold and winter and I would tend to hibernate anyways. 

[noodleoo]

I was definitely hibernating during first trimester, mainly because I was so tired! Now I'm trying to get out a little more, especially since we'll probably be stuck at home a lot after the baby comes. The drinking doesn't bother me too much, especially around our close friends. Athough I've never been much of a drinker.

Although we just had our company Xmas party and I was a little sad being the only one not drinking.

[estrellita]

Not really. Although I have considered it more. Like tonight we're going to a friend's place and it's going to be a lot of drinking. I'm not completely in the mood to go, but we don't get to see our friends often, so I try to make an effort when we can. I know it will be harder once baby is here, so I might as well get as much friend time in as I can now!

[sillygoosegirl]

I had to turn down a lot of invitations to do things with my friends. I still very much wanted to see them and participate, but I was so exhausted, I often just felt that I needed to sleep instead. And postpartum, the same has been true, but moreso. I really hope I don't stop getting invited to stuff with our child-free friends for lack of participation, because I'm dying to be able to stay awake in the evenings to socialize.

[Deleted]

Nope. I have to call it a night a little sooner, but I'm trying to soak up as much socializing as I can while it's easy:)

[catscatscats]

Oh yes! I'm a total hermit now. Parties where everyone is drinking aren't fun and half the time I can't even eat the food. I can hang for about an hour before I'm ready to leave and that doesn't work when my husband is feeling social.

[krystee]

In the first tri, yes. But now I am trying to make a point to get together with people as much as possible before it's too late! (Not that it's actually too late, but you know what I mean.)

[lindsaymg]

Yes! I turn into a pumpkin around 8PM lately. I am just exhausted. I also get "morning sickness" in the afternoons and then again at night. I feel very antisocial and lazy. I am behind on holiday shopping, decorating, and cleaning for the same reason.

I also hate "fake drinking" or hiding that I am not drinking as I am not "out" yet.

[pooh8402]

Nah. I mean, I declined an invite to a party last week, but I just didn't want to go, it had nothing to do with being pregnant.

[starburst604]

I was such a hermit during the first tri, I was just too tired to make any plans. I started to feel a little isolated so the holidays and parties have been good timing for me. I do miss having drinks at parties, but it's good to see friends again.

[cheeseandcrackers]

Yeah, gatherings without drinking aren't as fun. I wasn't a big drinker before at all. but it makes a diff.

[tarotchamber]

It definitely depends on the crowd for me. I've wanted to see family more recently, and some groups of friends. Most folks we see regularly have had kids very recently, so the gatherings have already kind of transitioned from what they were pre-everyone's babies, which helps with wanting to call it an earlyish night, etc.

This time of year does get super busy though, and I totally took last night "off" for a sanity break as well!

[yourmother]

I was in survival mode during the first 14 weeks and stayed home pretty much the entire time I wasn't at work. The most social thing I did was go to lunch with family about three times. Exhaustion was so bad.

I've finally hit my stride at 15 weeks and am being able to stay up later (9-10pm). I miss the social aspect of drinking, BUT, it's been an eye-opening experience to watch others get intoxicated and turn into different personalities. Oh, and I'm expected to be at a NYE party at my inlaws. That will be the first time I stay up past 11pm. I'm nervous!

[nextbigthing]

I usually don't really want to go, but then I go and have fun. Lately I have been cutting out early though. I want to be social but I also want to just chill and enjoy a quiet house.

[dearprudence]

No, I've been making an extra effort to go out now because it'll be so much harder next year!

[achi]

For me it depends who it is, for close friends and family I've made the effort to see them. Acquaintences, not so much unless it's in a super convenient location and has a short duration (i.e. lunch or "coffee").

In general with the holidays this year, I've cut back. The house isn't as decorated, I've delegated a lot of the errand running to H, I bought instead of baked, and I cut our Christmas card list way down. I have to say I've enjoyed not feeling the pressure to have a "perfect" Christmas this year.

[noodleoo]

Dec 20, 2014 5:22:39 GMT -5 yourmother said:

I was in survival mode during the first 14 weeks and stayed home pretty much the entire time I wasn't at work. The most social thing I did was go to lunch with family about three times. Exhaustion was so bad.

I've finally hit my stride at 15 weeks and am being able to stay up later (9-10pm). I miss the social aspect of drinking, BUT, it's been an eye-opening experience to watch others get intoxicated and turn into different personalities. Oh, and I'm expected to be at a NYE party at my inlaws. That will be the first time I stay up past 11pm. I'm nervous!

Oh, I'm totally bailing on NYE this year.  I had wanted to go out to a nice restaurant, but I'm still having food issues.  I'm working too, so I think H and I are just staying in.  I have no desire to stay up late for NY!

[yourmother]

Dec 23, 2014 12:46:52 GMT -5 noodleoo said:

Dec 20, 2014 5:22:39 GMT -5 yourmother said:

I was in survival mode during the first 14 weeks and stayed home pretty much the entire time I wasn't at work. The most social thing I did was go to lunch with family about three times. Exhaustion was so bad.

I've finally hit my stride at 15 weeks and am being able to stay up later (9-10pm). I miss the social aspect of drinking, BUT, it's been an eye-opening experience to watch others get intoxicated and turn into different personalities. Oh, and I'm expected to be at a NYE party at my inlaws. That will be the first time I stay up past 11pm. I'm nervous!

Oh, I'm totally bailing on NYE this year.  I had wanted to go out to a nice restaurant, but I'm still having food issues.  I'm working too, so I think H and I are just staying in.  I have no desire to stay up late for NY!

I wish I could do the same, but it would cause big drama if we missed this mandatory party. EYEROLL!!!

[meggers]

Yep! For me, I'd just rather stay home and relax. I even declined my annual birthday celebration dinner out with friends when I was about 26 weeks along. Just wasn't feeling it and I was completely okay with that.

[shortstax]

I'm actually the opposite. I've been RSVPing yes to everything over the past few months (DH is so annoyed.) My theory is, when I have a newborn I'll be staying in more, won't be able to travel for parties, etc. So I'd rather see all of our families & groups of friends now--then go into hibernation when the baby comes.

[hbomdiggity]

Not particularly, I mean we are already homebodies.

[ellipsis]

We are hosting a small get together tonight and I am DREADING IT. I almost kicked my family out of my house on Christmas Eve at 9pm because I was exhausted.

Ugh, plus trying to hide that I'm not drinking is tough...

[626]

Dec 26, 2014 14:28:30 GMT -5 shortstax said:

I'm actually the opposite. I've been RSVPing yes to everything over the past few months (DH is so annoyed.) My theory is, when I have a newborn I'll be staying in more, won't be able to travel for parties, etc. So I'd rather see all of our families & groups of friends now--then go into hibernation when the baby comes.

I'm the same way.  I just want to go out and do everything I can.  However, I did decline an invitation to go over my friend's house for NYE.  It's a few days before I'm delivering and I didn't really want to stay over her house or drive back into the city late at night.  So I'll be celebrating at home with H instead.